Dear Annie: My husband and I will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary this year. Here's the problem: I caught him sleeping with a friend of ours three years ago at our home while I was at work. I became suspicious and set up a nanny cam, and it was all on video.

I kicked him out of the house, and he set himself up a tiny house out behind our garage. He tries to act like nothing happened. He got to where he would use his key and let himself into my house like he still lives here. I have now changed the locks.

It's hard to move on when he's in the back of our garage. I don't want him back; I do know that. I've always said if you can't trust a person, there is no point in being with him. My problem is if I try to make him move, I have to sell the house if he won't take my offer, and I would have to split my pension with him. How do I move on without going broke at 68 years old? Thanks for your input. — Coping with a Cheating Husband

Dear Coping: You have to consult an attorney. Not sure if you are divorced yet, but the house would be dealt with — one way or another — in the divorce settlement.

Dear Annie: I have been driving for 68 years. I think I could teach you young whippersnappers a thing or two about driving. I don't need driving lessons for $30. I could write the book!

True, my reflexes are not what they used to be. I use a walking stick to navigate to my car. But I realize that and have made adjustments. I have slowed down and become much more defensive. No need to revoke my driving privilege. When I can no longer drive, I will be aware of that fact and will make further adjustments. When I can't drive, I won't.

I watched a handicapped man recently and was so impressed. He would roll up to his car, struggle to get his legs in, pull in his wheelchair and then just drive away. He had a hand-operated brake. Should he have been denied his driver's license?

I don't appreciate being stereotyped. Each one of us is an individual. I prefer to make my own decisions, which I am still competent to do. Just because I have been careening down the highway of life for 79 years does not disqualify me from driving. — Driving at 79

Dear Driving at 79: Good for you — as long as your state's DMV says you are qualified to continue driving. I especially like the fact that you go slower than in the past and that you have become a more defensive driver.

"How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane's second anthology — featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation — is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to [email protected].

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