Dear AnnieĀ® from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Tue, 07 Jul 2020 18:03:23 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Dear AnnieĀ® from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/dear-annie-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie 9ab14b2c167ec99163853bcca5f303d7 Racing to Adopt a Greyhound for 07/07/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/07/20/racing-to-adopt-a-greyhound Tue, 07 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: I am about to retire. I don't want to sit around watching TV after retirement, so I'd like to adopt a retired greyhound to keep me company. I had hoped to have him or her certified as my therapy dog.</p> <p>My husband retired 15 years ago, and he has already developed retirement interests. When he is not pursuing those, he is perfectly happy sitting at home and watching television, which is fine with me, if that's what he wants to do. His interests are exclusive to him: lunch with the guys, hanging out with old friends, that sort of thing.<p>Updated: Tue Jul 07, 2020</p> de8a6e053f6fa180503d272143e20dc4 Anxious to the Point of Paralysis for 07/06/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/07/20/anxious-to-the-point-of-paralysis Mon, 06 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: As birthdays and important holidays approach, like the recent Father's Day, I am forced to reanalyze my social anxiety all over again. I know I should call friends and family members to let them know I'm thinking about them, but I get butterflies in my stomach and put it off for hours because I feel like I never know what to say. When it comes to disagreements with anyone, I shake in my boots at the thought of arguing and causing a rift, so I will often let things that bother me go without telling the person when they've hurt me. Strangers are, of course, tougher.</p> <p>Family is one of the most important things to me, so I want to maintain strong relationships with them and not let months go by without talking, but I don't know how to get over my silly fear of conversations. Currently, I don't have the money for counseling. Do you have any ideas or words of comfort for anyone struggling with this? &#8212; Desperate to Change <p>Updated: Mon Jul 06, 2020</p> e8cb2775751dbf9da905fa066747abec Nothing Broken About Single-Parent Homes for 07/05/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/07/20/nothing-broken-about-single-parent-homes Sun, 05 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I am really tired of all this negative news about "broken" families. I raised my two children, and we were not "broken." It is time for single parents (mostly mothers) to band together. I could have made three times as much as I did had I taken those jobs that took me away from my children. We just lived on what I made, not on what we wanted.</p> <p>However, I was home every night; saw that they did their homework and knew how to clean the house and do laundry; took them to Sunday school and church every Sunday; taught them how to be kind, helpful and honest. When you are a single parent, it is your responsibility to do many of the things that two parents do. Mothers can pool hours with children, swapping time in order to not have to hire babysitters. Just do not give up. It is a 24/7 job, 365 days a year for 20 years. As a parent, you owe it to your children.</p> <p>Many of the children from two-parent homes never had the sleepovers, pizza parties and ball games that I did. Do not have children if you do not consider that you may become a one-parent family and are not ready to do 250% of what two-parent families can but may not do. My children were NOT from a "broken" home. &#8212; Not From a Broken Home<p>Updated: Sun Jul 05, 2020</p> eab202c50b546610644516b8e5f31080 Unwilling to Change His Cheating Ways for 07/04/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/07/20/unwilling-to-change-his-cheating-ways Sat, 04 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: My husband has a long history of being unfaithful to me. He says that it isn't cheating because he can't help himself. I've forgiven him five times.</p> <p>Recently, I discovered that he's been going to a website where a girl talks to him on a webcam. In exchange for their virtual time together, he buys her jewelry, clothes and other presents. <p>Updated: Sat Jul 04, 2020</p> afc7deb25d5e3f1485939fcc00969186 Getting Behind the Wheel with Confidence for 07/03/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/07/20/getting-behind-the-wheel-with-confidence Fri, 03 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: Your column is part of my morning ritual. I have three grandchildren, and they're all approaching the age where they'll be learning how to drive. Our adult children are now 48, 44 and 41. Some years ago, when they were learning how to drive, I came across John Violette's "Contract for Drivers," clipped it, and stowed it away. Unfortunately, it's very yellowed and illegible now. Would you be able to print it? &#8212; Tutu from Hawaii</p> <p>Dear Tutu: I am glad to print these wise words and implore teen drivers &#8212; and all drivers, really &#8212; to remember that they are operating a literal ton of steel, often at incredible speeds, and life can change in an instant. Be safe.<p>Updated: Fri Jul 03, 2020</p> 1d658fd944dc7ef253350d2b20896ad1 Reducing Spam Mail for 07/02/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/07/20/reducing-spam-mail Thu, 02 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: With this pandemic and people out of work, this might be a good way to get a few people back to work AND to save a ton of money. Both small and large businesses need to purge their mailing lists. I get mail from places I may have sent for a catalog years ago but haven't done business with them for many years. I have even cut off mailing labels and returned them at my expense to companies asking to be removed from their mailing list, but I continue to receive their mailings. And yes, I am registered with www.catalogchoice.org and https://www.dmachoice.org. </p> <p>Think of all the trees that are killed. Think of all the extra trash in the landfills. Purging the list could be as simple as reviewing their records and deleting all addresses of people who have not done business with them in some number of years. Or, perhaps send a postcard asking if the person wants to continue receiving the mailing. If so, they call the company. If they do not hear from the customer after a period of time, then they should delete the name. Let's stop the waste. Purge! &#8212; Carol Lynn, The Villages, Florida<p>Updated: Thu Jul 02, 2020</p> 829b3359ad5679e2f555cce1726c5035 Choosing Words Wisely for 07/01/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/choosing-words-wisely Wed, 01 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: I was reading "Don't Call Me 'Dear'" and wanted to give you my two cents' worth. I am a woman, 72 years old. If someone calls you "dear," "sweetie," "sweetheart" or something like this, you should take it as a compliment. This applies whether the person doing the calling is a woman or a man, and it doesn't matter if the person is a friend, relative or stranger; it would be a very nice comment. Life is too short to get upset with "little" things in the world. Just deal with it! &#8212; Gloria in Texas</p> <p>Dear Gloria: Thank you for your perspective, which is shared by many readers. But still others, such as the nurse who wrote the next letter, feel that those greetings by strangers are inappropriate.<p>Updated: Wed Jul 01, 2020</p> 1aca356a1fe3dcb19eb6eca33c259e67 Protect Your Catharsis for 06/30/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/protect-your-catharsis Tue, 30 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: I recently read the letter from "A Better Man Today," who was concerned about people reading his personal diary, particularly about his "dark times."</p> <p>I agree with your answer but would like to add one more idea. Create a "burn box" and entrust it to someone who will not open it or divulge its contents but will see that it is destroyed upon your death or at your request. I read about this once upon a time and apologize for not recalling the origin. I suspect it was from the military.<p>Updated: Tue Jun 30, 2020</p> b073d4152536a2de63fdabc9f8ed3d05 A Love Lost for 06/29/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/a-love-lost Mon, 29 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I'm heartbroken over an event that took place 52 years ago.</p> <p>I dated a girl in high school for several years and was truly in love. After I graduated from high school in 1967, I asked her to marry me. She took my hand and said that she couldn't because she was pregnant from her former boyfriend. I was shocked, hurt and destroyed from within. Naturally, we broke up, and we both moved on with our lives.</p> <p>It bothered me more because of the fact that he was an addict and I believe he got her hooked on drugs, and she died at the age of 49.<p>Updated: Mon Jun 29, 2020</p> 548a1137d8f522b43fe4bbdc5ab49b96 Dealing with a Dinner Table Bully for 06/28/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/dealing-with-a-dinner-table-bully Sun, 28 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: I know a 60-year-old woman who wears high-heeled shoes and no pantyhose with miniskirts &#8212; without even a slip underneath. When she wears light-colored miniskirts, they're somewhat see-through in the daylight. She wears bikini-style underwear, and through the skirt, there are visible rolls around her bottom, waist and stomach. She's not really someone to whom I can say something, so what would you recommend? &#8212; Curious</p> <p>Dear Curious: Quit looking so closely.<p>Updated: Sun Jun 28, 2020</p> c2237721df49adf2a0db4d26b6b70a3d Canceled Attendance Causing Distress for 06/27/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/canceled-attendance-causing-distress Sat, 27 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: This summer we have been invited to four weddings. Of the four events, three have been canceled due to the coronavirus pandemic.</p> <p>We are in the high-risk category with our age and underlying health conditions. The one remaining scheduled wedding would require us to travel by car to another state, which would mean stopping for gas, taking restroom breaks at gas stations and staying overnight at a hotel. We would love to attend the wedding, but we had to cordially decline, as it wasn't worth the risk of our potentially getting COVID-19.<p>Updated: Sat Jun 27, 2020</p> d6a2b13bf657c3fe517589167ee0fb1e Anger Can Be Easier Than Grief for 06/26/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/anger-can-be-easier-than-grief Fri, 26 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: I am shattered and torn apart. My son, who served eight and half years in prison for drugs, was released last Thanksgiving. Within four days of release, "Ray" had a job as a cook, had joined a gym and was working out every day. His life was all positive.</p> <p>Then the pandemic came. The restaurant closed, and the gym shut down. Ray turned back to drugs. Five months after his release, he is deceased. He overdosed. <p>Updated: Fri Jun 26, 2020</p> fc6525df5979b32439e629bc0c1c3dbc Hiding a New Baby from Family for 06/25/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/hiding-a-new-baby-from-family Thu, 25 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: Two and a half years ago, while my business was doing well, my marriage of 30+ years wasn't.</p> <p>It was that same old case of drifting apart due to the pressures of life. Our kids had left home except for one, and we looked at downsizing. We signed up for a new apartment, so we had to get our house ready for sale.<p>Updated: Thu Jun 25, 2020</p> 999145cbbafa08fcca0053d35b21aecc Unwanted Clutter for 06/24/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/unwanted-clutter Wed, 24 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My parents and my in-laws have a habit of cleaning out their houses by bringing their unwanted things to my house. When we first moved in together, my husband and I thought they were trying to help by giving us things so we wouldn't need to buy them, but it's been over a decade, and it continues.</p> <p>When asked if we want items from their homes, we always decline. More frequently, though, things are left on our porch or in our garage. Unless it is something we think they may want back (something we know is an heirloom or expensive), we throw everything away. The things we feel like we have to keep go into the attic.</p> <p>Obviously this is a minimal issue compared to most, but we are tired of being responsible for their unwanted items. Please encourage your readers, especially those downsizing, to manage their own belongings and not push them onto family without asking, and to respect the response. &#8212; Minimalist<p>Updated: Wed Jun 24, 2020</p> 014be9e449b7b491b567e1d8155fae59 Less Expectations, Less Worry for 06/23/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/less-expectations-less-worry Tue, 23 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I so enjoy your column, and, as usual, you are on target in your advice concerning the woman who was hurt by not being notified about her cousin's death.</p> <p>Two things have caused me to be a happier person. One is dropping my expectations of others, and the other is choosing not to be offended. </p> <p>People generally don't set out to hurt other people. They are encased in their own pain and trying to navigate through their own rough waters.<p>Updated: Tue Jun 23, 2020</p> 57f9593e32760f86b51957e667d954ea Washing Hands and Rinsing Away the Haters for 06/22/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/washing-hands-and-rinsing-away-the-haters Mon, 22 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: It's horrible to be judged. Here is my story: I am fortunate to have a nice car. This vehicle is my first new vehicle after 15 years of saving. From my additional savings, I am able to provide to others and deliver the items they need. I also have friends who do not have transportation to get from food drives and other similar places. </p> <p>When the schools closed, my daughter and I packed up what we had in our pantry and dropped it off at her friend's house, knowing that they would need food. I went to a school district food distribution to secure more food for them to drop off since they didn't have transportation to get to the drive.<p>Updated: Mon Jun 22, 2020</p> 086f80db514275479902bd9041249b28 Gratitude for Dads for 06/21/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/gratitude-for-dads Sun, 21 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Readers: Happy Fathers Day! In this poem, William Wordsworth celebrates being able to see the world through his son's eyes. He celebrates the childlike wonder that his son has, a playful curiosity that is too often lost in adulthood. </p> <p>Being a great father includes being empathetic to your child and seeing things from their perspective to meet them where they are. There is nothing more powerful than when a dad gets down on his knees to meet his young son or daughter on eye level. It is through this type of understanding and compassion that a child will develop healthy self-esteem and know that they can do and be anything in this world. The greatest gift a dad can give a child is to believe in them.<p>Updated: Sun Jun 21, 2020</p> cf40d6836dfc489d42b47d4f20e80228 Keeping Clear Boundaries for 06/20/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/keeping-clear-boundaries Sat, 20 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: I was given up for adoption at four months old and was adopted by my maternal grandparents. I was raised as an only child, even though I knew who my siblings were and saw them regularly. My biological mother sowed seeds of hatred and division between my siblings and myself at every opportunity. </p> <p>Upon her death, we found out that she had cashed in her life insurance policies and had no cemetery plot. Now, mind you, I ceased having a relationship with this lady for the last 20 years of her life. <p>Updated: Sat Jun 20, 2020</p> 960dd833c145e043e96a8f869d3651bd Running for Cover from Sneezes for 06/19/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/running-for-cover-from-sneezes Fri, 19 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: Recently, you printed a letter from a woman whose boyfriend excessively belched. Well, now I am here to complain about my wife's sneezes. </p> <p>When she sneezes, it is practically a scream. I think it gives me ear damage. It definitely gives me a start, not to mention our poor cat, who takes off running for cover every time. This is worse in the spring, with the allergies. <p>Updated: Fri Jun 19, 2020</p> 4060082e6cd1520d8e495f0313835cb4 Show Interest During an Interview for 06/18/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-annie/06/20/show-interest-during-an-interview Thu, 18 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Annie: I've been applying for jobs but having no luck. I did interview at two places this month. It did not work out at either. I'm wondering about one part of the interview. When they ask if I have any questions for them, what am I supposed to say? I really need work and, honestly, don't need to know anything except whether I have the job. I tend to blank out and say no, thanking them for their time. Any advice you can offer would be appreciated. &#8212; Striking Out</p> <p>Dear Striking Out: You're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you. You may not feel like it, especially in a tough economic climate. But act like it anyway. It will imbue you with a sense of confidence that is far more alluring to employers than an air of desperation.<p>Updated: Thu Jun 18, 2020</p>