Your Other Half Is Within You

By Annie Lane

May 30, 2020 4 min read

Dear Annie: In July of last year, I saw three psychics, and they all told me that when I started college in September I would meet the love of my life again. I didn't believe them because I have no luck in that department. Well, within a week I ran into my old boyfriend, whom I dated at two different times in my life.

The first time that "Trey" and I met was in high school. My brother introduced us. I was 14, still playing with Barbies, and I didn't know how to kiss. We were both nerds. He wore an orange tuxedo to prom. We continued dating for a little while after high school graduation, before he left for the military. It ended soon after.

When we reconnected, I was 21 and had become a single mom, and he was in Texas for military training. We had so much fun whenever he'd visit. But the distance was hard, and I was struggling with the challenges of single motherhood. We ended things on good terms.

Then I ran into him last fall. He said he'd always wondered if we would see each other again. That day I realized one thing for certain: that the piece I'd been missing in my soul was him. I felt home.

Unfortunately, I looked him up online afterward and saw that he had gotten married in June. That broke my heart.

I know he's a wonderful man for a husband, and he would make an excellent father. I would be honored to have his children, even if we didn't end up staying together afterward. Should I tell him how I feel, since marriage doesn't mean anything nowadays, or live in regret and heartbreak? I feel like we belong together but we did it wrong. He was the only boyfriend who treated me like a person, but I blew it both times. — Pining for the One Who Slipped Away

Dear Pining for the One Who Slipped Away: This man was a love of your life. But he won't be the love of your life. And while he may have been the first boyfriend to treat you well, he won't be the last. You will make sure of that by developing better self-esteem. Throw yourself headfirst into your college classes; try new hobbies; get out there and meet new people. In time, you will come to find that Trey wasn't your missing piece; you were whole on your own.

Dear Annie: With all of the recognition going on out there for various groups of people working during the coronavirus crisis, all of whom are very worthy, no one has even thought of newspaper carriers. We are out there on the front line. We are out there 364 days a year with no federal holidays off, no long weekends, just delivery 364 days a year with only Christmas Day off.

I am up at 1 a.m. every day and out the door with our papers by 3 a.m.! We deliver against all odds and whatever Mother Nature throws at us. Some people reward us for good service; some just complain. Some people never even think of a tip for the carrier. Bottom line, Annie, I ask the folks who read your column in the newspaper I deliver to them to remember their carrier. ... Even just a thank you would make us feel that we are making a difference. After all, we are the ones bringing you the latest news! — Patsy in Naugatuck, Conn.

Dear Patsy in Naugatuck, Conn.: As a newspaper columnist, I especially owe gratitude to the hardworking newspaper carriers throughout the country. Please accept my sincere thanks.

"Ask Me Anything: A Year of Advice From Dear Annie" is out now! Annie Lane's debut book — featuring favorite columns on love, friendship, family and etiquette — is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to [email protected]

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