What Happens in the Massage Parlor Doesn't Always Stay in the Massage Parlor Dear Annie: Several years ago, I went to a massage parlor and paid a woman for sex. This same woman recently got a job in the office where I work. There are only nine employees. This is an unbelievable coincidence. We get along pretty well as co-…Read more. Protect Your Assets Dear Annie: My stepson, "Louis," is 45 years old, has been unemployed for the past 10 years (he never gets along with his bosses or co-workers) and got busted for DUI, for which he underwent court-appointed treatment and had his license revoked for …Read more. Bisexuality Is Not a Trip to Disneyland Dear Annie: I am 27 and am engaged to my 26-year-old fiancee. However, she recently told me about her college days, which included a lot of sex with both men and women, sometimes in groups. She said she really enjoyed it, but it is in the past. I …Read more. Oh Yeah, He's Free ... Freeloading Dear Annie: My 26-year-old son graduated from college three years ago. He worked for his father for one year, worked on a marijuana farm for one year and has been living off of his savings for the past eight months. He hasn't been looking for a job. …Read more.more articles
Kissing Cousins Not a Crisis
Dear Annie: Since my husband discovered that his parents are first cousins, he's been having an emotional crisis that I can't help him with. I was the one who uncovered the secret when I was doing research for a genealogy study to be presented as a gift for my father-in-law's 70th birthday.
I have given my in-laws many opportunities to absolve themselves of their deception, but I must have been far too subtle to make myself clear about the situation. I don't expect an answer from you or your staff members, because I've tried to contact numerous others concerning this subject, and it appears to be taboo for even the most open-minded of venues. — Need Help in California
Dear Need Help: Really? We cannot imagine why. Your in-laws may have done nothing that requires "absolving." Marriage between first cousins is legal in 20 states and is permitted in six others depending on the circumstances. In Biblical times, marriage between first cousins was commonplace.
Instead of sweeping this under the rug and watching your husband freak out, please talk to your in-laws directly. Say you found this information while researching the family tree. Let them discuss it frankly so their son can learn to accept what's already happened and put it behind him. There's no reason for this to become a major crisis. If you are planning to have children (or already do), you might consider genetic counseling now that you have a more complete family history.
Dear Annie: My adult son has a large, dark, textured birthmark on his right cheek. We believe it has caused him to lose out on job opportunities. He has been trying without success to get a job for four years. He is a hard worker, punctual and trustworthy. He has pounded the pavement looking for work and gone online and applied for more than 200 jobs.
A friend of my son's said privately that he would hire him but looking at "that thing" on his face makes him sick.
Dear Grateful: Your son may qualify for Medicaid, in which case a plastic surgeon may be able to remove the skin growth at no cost if it is potentially malignant. Check at medicaid.gov to see whether your son is covered in his state. He also should check his local hospitals and medical schools. Some surgeons and hospitals have been known to generously donate their skills and facilities for low-income patients.
In the meantime, we suggest he visit his local pharmacy or department store and ask about cosmetics that will cover the birthmark. Or he could try two products we have recommended in the past: Dermablend (dermablend.com) and Covermark (covermark.com).
Dear Annie: The letter from "Tired Daughter" really hit home. My mother was an alcoholic and also blamed my father for her sad life. He finally left, and we kids took the brunt of her sorry existence. Finally, as an adult, I gently cut ties with her. When she developed dementia (partially due to her alcoholism), she ended up in a care facility. My brother and I shared the job of handling her affairs.
So many times, people said, "But she's your mother," as if I had to love her because we were related. We are not forced to love an abuser, no matter who they are. "Tired Daughter" should get on with her life and her family and lose the guilt, with the help of a professional if needed. — Been There in Montreal
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