Classic Annie's Mailbox from Creators Syndicate Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Thu, 27 Oct 2016 02:53:25 -0700 Classic Annie's Mailbox from Creators Syndicate fdeaff1f569735a633ce4a5d52ea0f3d Political Romance for 10/27/2016 Thu, 27 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I have been dating "Joe" for two years. We both are in our mid-60s and lost our spouses many years ago. </p> <p>We have a great deal of fun together, but I have a problem with Joe's daughter-in-law, "Lorna." On our first date, Joe told me he "fell in love with Lorna the first time he saw her." I assumed he meant she was a wonderful person, but now I'm not so sure. She calls him "Dad," which is fine, but she is all over him &#8212; even when I'm around. She whispers in his ear, sits on his lap and rubs his shoulders. I feel as if I'm competing with her.</p> <p>Lorna and her husband live just down the road from Joe, and he goes to their home every night to help with the chores, since his son travels frequently. I always wonder deep down what really goes on in that house. <p>Updated: Thu Oct 27, 2016</p> 4ac06a77651ed4ad0b31bcc54479c84e Married to the Bottle for 10/26/2016 Wed, 26 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I am 24 years old and divorced. I left my husband, "Chris," three years ago, because I met someone else who promised me the world. Thinking the grass was greener, I left Chris for this man. </p> <p>Things were great for about seven months, and then his drinking started interfering in the relationship. I realized he wasn't exactly right for me. I ended up having a child for him, and now I feel pressured to stay, because he holds it over my head that if I leave him, he will not support this child. I know I cannot do it by myself. I also have two other children. </p> <p>I have realized for a long time that I still love Chris. I've tried to tell him how sorry I am and that I hope we can work things out in the future, but Chris isn't interested. He already has told me that he still loves me, but he can never forgive me for what I have done. <p>Updated: Wed Oct 26, 2016</p> 47f689fc41cbcfb22f3281c40305412f No Means NO for 10/25/2016 Tue, 25 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I am a 15-year-old girl. Last weekend, I went on my third date with my boyfriend, "Shawn," also 15. When the movie ended, Shawn kissed me, and the next thing I knew, he was sticking his tongue in my mouth. I got scared and immediately pulled back. Shawn apologized, but a few minutes later, he kissed me again, and although I kept my mouth shut, I could feel his tongue against my lips. </p> <p>This is not the first time Shawn has kissed me, but he has never tried to make out with me before or done anything to make me upset. Shawn is my very first boyfriend, but he has had many girlfriends before me. </p> <p>I now feel extremely pressured to make out with him &#8212; something I'm not sure I want to do. And I'm afraid that if I do start making out with Shawn, he'll want to do more intimate things. I have no idea what to do. Please help me. &#8212; Rachel <p>Updated: Tue Oct 25, 2016</p> c121178ff9682b2ecbd997f8db93e085 Everlasting Love? for 10/24/2016 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I am a 69-year-old woman from a small town and will be celebrating my 50th wedding anniversary this year. The problem is, two years ago, I found out my 69-year-old husband was having an affair with a 20-year-old. </p> <p>Although I can remember being suspicious of "Ralph" at least once in the past, this was the only time I had proof he actually was being unfaithful. (I found a letter the girl had written to him.) I don't know how long this business was going on, but I assume it started at the same time Ralph stopped being intimate with me.</p> <p>I confronted Ralph with the letter, and he told me the affair was over. However, if I bring it up even now, he is still very quick to come to this girl's defense, and I can tell she still is often on his mind. Even though he insists he has stopped seeing her, I suspect he hasn't, because I am pretty sure he is in love with her. <p>Updated: Mon Oct 24, 2016</p> df1af6c6a241b6b398b4ec5f6e09024f Love Over Deployment for 10/23/2016 Sun, 23 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My first wife died at the age of 36, and I remarried two years later. The day my son, "Andy," turned 18, he moved out of our home and in with my 70-year-old widowed mother. He also talked Mom into giving him $30,000, for which she took out a loan. Now the money is long gone, and Mom has been stuck making the loan payments. </p> <p>I know Andy was wrong, but my mother also exhibited poor judgment. In an attempt to find a way to pay for college and possibly get a better job to repay the loan, Andy (now 25) enlisted in the Army Reserves. Last week, Andy received his orders and shortly will be deployed to Iraq.</p> <p>When I told my mother about Andy's impending deployment, she replied, "Well, maybe if he gets killed, I'll get my money back through his life insurance." I was flabbergasted. Not a word of concern about her only grandson's safety. Between clenched teeth, I told her if Andy died, I'd be sure she was paid. <p>Updated: Sun Oct 23, 2016</p> 16e03bb544fc3606c0fad3998dfeacdb Grandaddy With Daddy Issues for 10/22/2016 Sat, 22 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My 5-year-old daughter, "Susie," is frightened of her grandfather, my father. We see him only two or three times a year because he lives over a thousand miles away, but I have been diligent about letting Susie visit.</p> <p>My father is not and never has been a "kid" person &#8212; you know, someone who gets down on the floor and plays. Susie has never warmed up to him or given him so much as a hello without a lot of coaching and encouragement. </p> <p>My father is hurt and confused by Susie's behavior. I don't expect him to change his approach at this age, but he thinks I shelter Susie from him. The truth is, I've tried everything to reassure her that Dad is not scary, but she refuses to have anything to do with him. I should mention that Susie is warm and loving with all her other male relatives, especially her great-uncles. There's just something about my dad that frightens her, and she isn't able to explain it to me yet.<p>Updated: Sat Oct 22, 2016</p> 6d055f77b749e509f9bc65b445b922c0 Mommy Issues for 10/21/2016 Fri, 21 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My daughter and her husband are about to have their first baby. Unfortunately, my daughter is having problems with her mother-in-law, "Myrna," and comes crying to me. I think my adult kids need to handle their own problems, but I want to be able to give advice when asked. </p> <p>I offered to talk to Myrna, but my daughter says it will only create a bigger problem. But when I hear that Myrna expects to see my daughter in church every Sunday, or that Myrna expects to baby-sit, or that my daughter should give up her career and be a "good wife" and take care of her husband and child, I just boil over. </p> <p>My son-in-law has tried talking to his mother, but she makes him feel horribly guilty, and then she behaves even worse. I've told my daughter that life doesn't come with instructions, so we have to learn how to live with those who may disagree with us. But I really would like to hear your advice. &#8212; Lost for Words <p>Updated: Fri Oct 21, 2016</p> cdd01dbf11177a6e100ca94e2dc63991 Want You To Want Me for 10/20/2016 Thu, 20 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are both 34 and have been dating for three years. "Sheri" does not work and rarely gets up before one in the afternoon. She lives in a house that her family owns and receives child support from her ex-husband. She also has me to pay her bills. I am totally devoted to Sheri and love her son as my own. </p> <p>The problem is for the past three years, I have been taken advantage of. My family and friends are sick of talking to me about Sheri. They think I am crazy for wanting to be with a woman who steps on me. Every time she hurts me, I swear I'll never go back, but I always do. It's like an addiction. </p> <p>For example, several months ago, my grandfather died suddenly. Sheri refused to attend the funeral, and while I was at the service, she used my credit card to order $5,000 worth of clothes online. I forgave her. She said she wanted to get married, so I bought our wedding rings. The day after booking the hall, Sheri picked a fight. <p>Updated: Thu Oct 20, 2016</p> b4d3389878e2e9319e9cf23d28bf1afd Life After Love for 10/19/2016 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: Please help. I may have made a huge mistake, and now I don't know what to do about it. </p> <p>I am a 40-year-old female, married for one year to "Yancy." I have no children of my own, but my husband has a 14-year-old son from his first marriage. Yancy and I had a whirlwind romance. He totally swept me off my feet. I love him very much. He is kind, considerate and extremely loving, and we have a wonderful marriage. But now I'm not sure I can trust him. </p> <p>We dated for six months before we married. I recently found out from his ex-wife that he was dishonorably discharged from the service &#8212; and that he's been terminated from nearly every job he's held in the past 13 years for lying or suspicion of theft. Nothing has ever been proven regarding the theft, and frankly, I don't believe he would steal anything. <p>Updated: Wed Oct 19, 2016</p> 0be5dad1c7b8d8252283af72606c4db4 Lingerers Linger for 10/18/2016 Tue, 18 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I'm in a lot of the same classes with "Marta," but we're not really close. One day, she asked if she could put one of her binders in my locker. I said fine, but then she started putting more things in there, and last week, she threw her jacket in. Marta smokes, and the smell lingers in my locker. It's disgusting. </p> <p>That's only one issue. Last month, Marta decided to move to my lunch table. I sit with a very good group of people. None of them is friends with Marta, and they don't exactly like her. Marta is a bit on the heavy side, smells like smoke and doesn't take care of herself. She sometimes embarrasses me with the things she says, and now, some of my friends won't sit with me anymore. </p> <p>Marta calls me every day and practically follows me around in school. She won't leave me alone. She has even gotten me into trouble for stopping by my house without notice. She has become very annoying, and I don't know how to get rid of her without hurting her feelings. &#8212; At the End of My Rope in New York<p>Updated: Tue Oct 18, 2016</p> 58e1c3de6cb8ca867791d5c0483b9eed Girls Can Wear the Pants for 10/17/2016 Mon, 17 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I've been married to "Joe" for 47 years, and we dated exclusively for two years before that. Thirty years ago, at the age of 43, Joe had a heart attack that left him with severe heart damage. Since then, he has had several heart surgeries. </p> <p>I recently asked Joe why, in all our years of being together, he'd never taken me out for New Year's Eve. He went bonkers and spilled the news that while we were dating, he not only had taken out an ex-girlfriend who was married, but they had an adulterous relationship for over nine months. Even though he was telling me he loved me, he spent New Year's Eve with her 49 years ago, because he wanted sex and she was better looking than I was. He apparently still has fond memories of it.</p> <p>Annie, had I learned about this when we were dating, I would have broken up with him. Certainly, I never would have married him. I've been lied to for 50 years and can't help thinking my entire life might have been different. Since his first heart attack, we've had no social life. I feel stupid, used, hurt and angry for not being mature enough to see the signs of his cheating and getting out while I could. <p>Updated: Mon Oct 17, 2016</p> 2202cd0d0c101ebd81aa781b882a1bbd Life After Love for 10/16/2016 Sun, 16 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: Is there really life after a badly broken heart? I've simply been going through the motions for more than 10 years since a relationship ended. "Jeff" was, and still is, the love of my life, and no matter what I do &#8212; therapy, volunteer work, developing new hobbies, working two jobs and spending time with my senior parents &#8212; he is the only man I want. </p> <p>I've gone out with other men, and all I see when I look at them is that they're not my former love. And there's no chance of rekindling a romance with Jeff because he is married and has a family.</p> <p>I fear I'll spend the rest of my life alone. I have no love to give to another man, and part of me truly feels dead inside. Therapists (and I've seen several) tell me to "get over it," but I haven't been able to. I've worked at it, but the more I try to force him out of my mind, the stronger he comes back. <p>Updated: Sun Oct 16, 2016</p> a67abfd411d9f6431650777ec7fe06d6 The Power of a Ring for 10/15/2016 Sat, 15 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I am a 37-year-old man, married for 13 years. I have the newspaper delivered just to read your column. I wanted to comment on the letter from "Having a Stroke in Pennsylvania." She said her husband has an addiction to porn and has no interest in having sex with her.</p> <p>I, too, found myself in that situation. My wife finally cornered me and insisted I tell her why. In my particular situation, it was my wife's weight. When we first married, she was stunning. Within two years, and after our first child, she gained over 60 pounds and continued to eat poorly. I suddenly found myself not attracted to her anymore. I am not proud of it, but I couldn't change how I felt. </p> <p>I never said anything about her weight because I thought it would seem shallow, that it shouldn't be important to me, and I truly loved her. I stayed in our marriage because of the children and eventually found myself where I thought I would never be &#8212; lost in pornography addiction. <p>Updated: Sat Oct 15, 2016</p> 8f072ccf96ca6519a47f87d0508d701c Married to Twins for 10/14/2016 Fri, 14 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: I've been married to "Tina" for 32 years, and we have no children. My wife has an identical twin sister, "Gina." Aside from looks, however, there is nothing identical about them. </p> <p>Gina has been married and divorced twice. She has two kids from her second marriage. She is loud and brassy, and drinks too much. She hasn't had a date in years, and, apparently, has given up trying to land another man. Instead, she has decided the only companion she needs is her sister. </p> <p>Gina has drawn Tina out of our marriage. She is needy and manipulative, and Tina is vulnerable to her tactics. She thinks Gina can do no wrong. The two of them are together almost every day, they travel together, and Tina has become a second mother to Gina's kids, which means my wife has children, but I don't. <p>Updated: Fri Oct 14, 2016</p> 6e83a36a9b7bd04680c637b8f44a99ab Selective Memories, Selective Families for 10/13/2016 Thu, 13 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: We have not seen our adult daughter in over two years. She cut off all ties with her entire family after going to a therapist. The therapist convinced her that her stress and anxiety were due to abuse by her father and me when she was a child. These accusations are absolutely false. </p> <p>My daughter grew up in a loving family with other siblings. She claims to have repressed what happened to her as a child. We believe she has "false memory syndrome." Her only hope is to get away from the therapist, so that the false memories that have been implanted through hypnosis-like techniques during therapy sessions might fade over time. </p> <p>We might never see our daughter again, and our family is absolutely shattered with grief. Please put out a word of warning to others who are choosing a therapist, and let them know how unethical repressed-memory hypnosis therapy is. If you print this, maybe our daughter, or one of the thousands of others, could be saved from this travesty. &#8212; A Grieving, Shattered Family <p>Updated: Thu Oct 13, 2016</p> 2df7e9ed47d3fe86489a910991e26709 Is Blood Always Thicker Than Water? for 10/12/2016 Wed, 12 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: All my life I have been there for my parents, doing everything I could for them. My husband and I shared holidays with them, traveled with them, cared for them through many illnesses and included them in everything we did. My father became ill five years ago and was in and out of the hospital many times. I cooked, took him to his doctor's visits, baby-sat him, fed him, etc. You get the picture. </p> <p>On the other hand, my sister, "Claire," always has declared that she owes my parents nothing. My mother and she have had disagreements that have kept them from speaking for months at a time. Claire wrote me so many hateful letters and ugly e-mails that I just cut my losses and moved on. We have no relationship. She refused to visit Dad before he died, saying she had other things to take care of. </p> <p>The week before Dad passed away, Claire decided to renew her relationship with my mother. She began calling Mom several times a day, and before long, the two of them became "best friends." <p>Updated: Wed Oct 12, 2016</p> 8897e7a6f8ca4309e907a417b95e703c No Means No for 10/11/2016 Tue, 11 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: Within the past four years, my sister and her husband adopted two babies from foreign countries. They think because these children are adopted, everyone should adore them, regardless of how they behave. </p> <p>The kids are now 3 and 5 and still do not know the meaning of the word "no." My sister bribes and threatens but never follows through. They are not punished for their misbehavior. Consequently, they are brats.</p> <p>Our other siblings don't want to be around my sister and her family because they refuse to discipline their kids. How can we let her know? &#8212; Annoyed Aunt <p>Updated: Tue Oct 11, 2016</p> 0c79b9d926d85472846ac89844e29655 Haunted by the Ghost of Student Loans for 10/10/2016 Mon, 10 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My mother was murdered seven years ago by an abusive husband. The cause of death was strangulation. </p> <p>At a recent gathering, my husband and another person were deciding what to do with some wire. My husband was sitting with my family members when he said, "Hmmm, is there someone I want to strangle?" He then held his hands up with the wire as if he were doing just that. None of us said a word.</p> <p>After my mother died, it took me four years to get my husband to understand that I can't sit through movies or TV shows where women are murdered. It seems to me he ought to know I am sensitive about this sort of thing, but he tells me he had no idea his little strangulation joke would upset me.<p>Updated: Mon Oct 10, 2016</p> 69967019f793d824af9b017aed3d1eb0 Tip Karma and Pet Karma for 10/09/2016 Sun, 09 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My son, "Stevie," is 5 years old, and he just started kindergarten. The problem is, he is still sleeping in our bed, and it's his father's fault. My husband wants him with us. When we remodeled Stevie's bedroom, our son started sleeping in his own bed, but my husband kept saying, "Don't you want to sleep with Mommy and Daddy?" </p> <p>I tried telling Stevie that he has to sleep in his own bed before he starts school, and he said, "No, I don't. Daddy says I can sleep with you guys as long as I want." When I discuss this with my husband, he insists that we only get a short time to enjoy our children when they are small. He figures when Stevie is a teen, he will lock himself in his bedroom, so we may as well have him with us as long as we can. </p> <p>Now the problem has become compounded. Our daughter is 3 years old and sleeps in her own room. When she gets up at night to go potty, she sees the three of us sleeping together, so naturally, she wants to join in. Something's gotta give. Please help. &#8212; Bed's Too Crowded in Pennsylvania<p>Updated: Sun Oct 09, 2016</p> ee9ea1ca595cff82adf00ae3996ae433 Party Police on the Block for 10/08/2016 Sat, 08 Oct 2016 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Dear Annie: My husband and I live in a small town, and so we see the same people frequently. We have a group of friends with whom we've socialized for over 15 years. Recently, we invited "Bob and Carol" to join us for dinner. They did not give us a concrete answer, so we assumed they were not interested. </p> <p>On our way out that night, we passed "Ted and Alice," another couple we socialize with. Ted was in the front seat and Alice was in the back. It was apparent that someone was slumped down, hiding in the front passenger seat, and another in the back seat. We are fairly certain the invisible people were Bob and Carol. </p> <p>Annie, these are professionals in their 40s. Maybe they wanted to spare our feelings, but it seems awfully juvenile to dive down and hide from us. They could easily have told us that they'd made other plans.<p>Updated: Sat Oct 08, 2016</p>