Classic Annie's Mailbox from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Mon, 05 Dec 2016 23:57:03 -0800 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Classic Annie's Mailbox from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/annies-mailbox-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox 102858df511ebcda1a3e1f7a970088f3 For the Love of the Bottle for 12/06/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/12/16/for-the-love-of-the-bottle-d1767 Tue, 06 Dec 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I am in my late 20s and have been happily married for over five years. Here is the problem: </p> <p>My parents divorced when I was little, and my father is an alcoholic. Ever since I can remember, he would call me on the phone, drunk and rambling so much that by the end of the call, I would be in tears. The past couple of years he's gotten worse. He is verbally abusive, calling me names and telling me how stupid I am, but in the same breath, crying that I am the only thing in his life. </p> <p>I have tried to stand up to him, and it only has made things worse. He tells me that his miserable life is all my fault and that he doesn't have a drinking problem.<p>Updated: Tue Dec 06, 2016</p> ca6767d7b591fcf5f002324670599753 For the Love of the Bottle for 12/06/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/12/16/for-the-love-of-the-bottle Tue, 06 Dec 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I am in my late 20s and have been happily married for over five years. Here is the problem: </p> <p>My parents divorced when I was little, and my father is an alcoholic. Ever since I can remember, he would call me on the phone, drunk and rambling so much that by the end of the call, I would be in tears. The past couple of years he's gotten worse. He is verbally abusive, calling me names and telling me how stupid I am, but in the same breath, crying that I am the only thing in his life. </p> <p>I have tried to stand up to him, and it only has made things worse. He tells me that his miserable life is all my fault and that he doesn't have a drinking problem.<p>Updated: Tue Dec 06, 2016</p> f528edcaec663e1a18c765c8017222ae Opening a Can of Worms for 12/05/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/12/16/opening-a-can-of-worms Mon, 05 Dec 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: Two years ago, my wife left me. I went to counseling immediately, and we worked hard to get back together for the sake of our children. We eventually reconciled. While I try not to dwell on the past, something still troubles me, and I'm not sure what to do about it. </p> <p>A few days after "Jane" left me, I had a tearful phone conversation with my sister-in-law. She didn't go into specifics, but made it quite clear that Jane had not been faithful to me. At the time, I was devastated. I called my wife and asked if there was someone else. She insisted there wasn't. But my sister-in-law stands by her story.</p> <p>I never discussed this possible affair with my pastor or my counselor, preferring instead to focus on what I needed to do to make myself a better husband and father. While I am confident that our love is now strong, I still have lingering doubts about Jane's fidelity. My sister-in-law isn't the type to make this up. <p>Updated: Mon Dec 05, 2016</p> b73d25f0b31be8a554aca6a92c7aca31 Family Ties for 12/04/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/12/16/family-ties Sun, 04 Dec 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: My brother and "Melanie" had a baby together (unplanned). The boy is now 2 years old. Melanie moved in with my brother before the baby arrived and stayed until two months ago. She was never overly kind to my brother, frequently making insulting remarks to him and saying she could never love him or the baby. But he truly was in love with her. We bent over backward to make her part of our family, but she decided to walk out on him and sever all family ties. </p> <p>They have shared custody of the child, and my brother will have him for Christmas. My husband and I are hosting the family meal this year. We did not plan on having Melanie, but my brother wants to include her. I told him she was not invited, but he insists, saying she is the mother of his child. </p> <p>Melanie has never enjoyed being in my home. She is bitter and rude and lacks even the basic manners of a person her age (40). Should I refuse to include her, or do I allow my brother to invite this woman and make the day miserable for everyone else? &#8212; Unwilling Sister <p>Updated: Sun Dec 04, 2016</p> 4b069fefd30c770461f4b2875cb5e75e Girls Just Wanna Have Fun for 12/03/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/girls-just-wanna-have-fun Sat, 03 Dec 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I have a 35-year-old daughter with two children (ages 13 and 2), and they all are living with us. "Micki" moved in after leaving her common-law husband a few months ago. He was the third man in her life. </p> <p>Since Micki has been home, she has been going out every weekend. I am "old school" and believe she should come home from work and take care of my grandchildren. But if I open my mouth, my wife will toss me out. It has already happened once before. </p> <p>This situation is slowly killing me. My wife tells me Micki is still young. I say, so what? That doesn't mean she can go to bed with every Tom, Dick and Harry. I don't know what to do next. Any suggestions? &#8212; One Step from Leaving<p>Updated: Sat Dec 03, 2016</p> c8baf49200bef81d9320aab19912bc0f Hurt and Confused for 12/02/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/12/16/hurt-and-confused Fri, 02 Dec 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I work for a major corporation, and I like my job. However, my boss has betrayed me. </p> <p>She is single, and I wanted to set her up with a friend of my boyfriend. She sent me her picture, and my boyfriend asked me to send the pic to his phone so he could send it to his friend. Instead of doing that, however, he texted my boss all night long. He asked her to be discreet and not tell me. </p> <p>She showed me all of his text messages, and I broke up with him. A few months later, he apologized and said he was drunk when it happened, and we got back together. While we were apart, he washed the clothes I'd left there and packed them in a canvas bag. When he gave me the bag, I noticed it had my boss's name on it in her own handwriting. That means she was at his place with an overnight bag. <p>Updated: Fri Dec 02, 2016</p> b6d73497eb1683a2aa15ca4c897d346d Grandma is Grandma and Mom is Mom for 12/01/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/grandma-is-grandma-and-mom-is-mom Thu, 01 Dec 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: My nephew was in the hospital last summer. Because the hospital is closer to our house, his parents and the nephew's 17-year-old girlfriend stayed with us for two nights. </p> <p>Within a few hours, we noticed $70 was missing from a container on the kitchen counter. We asked if anyone had seen or moved it. That same evening, the girlfriend returned from a shopping trip with a new dress, new shoes and new purse, bragging that her mother had given up her whole paycheck to buy "necessities." The morning she left, we discovered another $100 missing from a different part of the house. </p> <p>We called my brother-in-law and informed him of the missing money. After much discussion, we agreed that the girl was the likely suspect. Due to the delicate nature of his son's illness, he asked that nothing be said about the theft. He even offered to pay us back, which we refused. The whole incident was then swept under the rug and not mentioned again. <p>Updated: Thu Dec 01, 2016</p> ea7e07575241c1497643b90643816b21 Geezer with a Cause for 11/30/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/geezer-with-a-cause Wed, 30 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: We are the grandparents of a beautiful 4-year-old girl. We have been watching her for the past three months because her parents had their water service shut off due to lack of payment. A month ago, they had their gas and electricity shut off, as well. They are living off of the welfare system with no other means of support. </p> <p>In the past, my wife and I have paid a lot of money to keep their utilities on, but this time we took a stand and decided not to. Instead, we opted to assist in taking care of their daughter until they can fix this situation, knowing it will probably happen again. </p> <p>We want our granddaughter to have a shot at normalcy, and we feel she will never get that if we return her to her parents. Unfortunately, my wife and I lack both the finances to raise a child and the vitality necessary to keep up with her. We don't know what to do. If we decide to seek custody, how do we go about it? Is there financial aid available for people in our situation? We want to do the right thing for our granddaughter. &#8212; Geezer with a Cause in Los Angeles <p>Updated: Wed Nov 30, 2016</p> 14af573de34d6c4734875395297390b5 New Girl, New Friend for 11/29/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/new-girl-new-friend Tue, 29 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I am taking a foreign language class at school. The first week, there was a new girl, "Molly." No one talked to her except me. I made her laugh, and we had fun at lunch. She became my only friend in that class. </p> <p>Two weeks later, "Scarlett" arrived. At lunch the next day, Molly asked Scarlett to sit with us. They started talking about stuff I didn't know anything about. Within days, they were cracking jokes and discussing a sleepover at Molly's. I felt totally left out. I was Molly's friend first, and then she just tossed me aside to make way for Scarlett.</p> <p>When Scarlett isn't there, Molly and I talk just like before. But when Scarlett comes back, I'm invisible. I'm fed up. What should I do? &#8212; Forgotten Friend<p>Updated: Tue Nov 29, 2016</p> 262dc008559775126d0e4aba0aabf23d Trusting Teens for 11/28/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/trusting-teens Mon, 28 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: My husband and I are raising our two teenage grandchildren. Our grandson is 15 and recently started going out with a girl. They attend the same school and are Facebook friends. We don't know this girl, but after their first outing to a mall, she posted pictures of them kissing. The following weekend, they went to the movies, and she posted another kissing picture. She posts nonstop on his page about how he's made her life better, and she texts him constantly.</p> <p>We think this is rather disrespectful on both their parts: hers for thinking these are acceptable public displays, and his for thinking we wouldn't care. Our grandson says it's unreasonable for us to limit his phone and text usage with this girl. The other unspeakable thing, apparently, is that we have access to his Facebook account. We were told we're old-fashioned because we want to meet the girl and her parents. This girl's parents don't know or care what she posts. </p> <p>Are we true dinosaurs to think there should be limits for teens and that parents should know what their kids are doing on the Internet? What is reasonable in today's world? We trust our grandson, but we also remember what it was like for us at that age, and we didn't have 24/7 access. I've become the evil ogre because I have taken a stand, and now the girl is posting comments about me, saying that I'm interfering with their relationship. How do I deal with this? &#8212; Not on My Watch<p>Updated: Mon Nov 28, 2016</p> 81f1930b61a036c2548ea078cbe5c370 Love or Lust for 11/27/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/love-or-lust Sun, 27 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: Your column is the first thing my wife reads every morning, so I figured I'd write. An issue has come up that I'd rather not discuss with anyone else. </p> <p>My wife and I are both retired. We go to the same neighborhood coffee shop every morning. We've gotten to know the owners and the other folks who go there, including "Harry," a regular. I think he has developed a crush on my wife. She thinks this is ridiculous. </p> <p>When Harry comes in, he automatically sits with us, whether or not we invite him. And he always sits next to my wife. The first thing he does is give her a kiss on the cheek. Sometimes, he will put his arm around her shoulder. They occasionally carry on a conversation as if I'm not there. When it's time to leave, he will give her a kiss on the cheek, along with a hug that I feel is more than friendly. <p>Updated: Sun Nov 27, 2016</p> 5ede0799fb9d7756b4a78f801a4c2dc0 Money in Marriage for 11/26/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/money-in-marriage Sat, 26 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: My husband and I have a small online stock trading account. Several months ago, he mentioned that he was thinking of giving our son and daughter-in-law money to open their own stock account. I immediately told him I was against it. I then left to go to the store and thought that was the end of it. </p> <p>When I arrived home, I found my husband signing a check for $25,000 to our daughter-in-law. We have no agreement that the money will be repaid or that we will be informed as to what happens to it. If I hadn't returned home when I did, I never even would have known about it. </p> <p>My husband doesn't think he did anything wrong. How am I supposed to trust or respect him when he does things like this? Am I justified to feel resentful and betrayed? &#8212; Floored<p>Updated: Sat Nov 26, 2016</p> e89cc6a72cd2b9d40cc6757c46b9e6b7 Too Close for Comfort for 11/25/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/too-close-for-comfort-703ba Fri, 25 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I am a sophomore in college and have been living with the same roommate for the past two years. I've known "Max" since high school, and we were good friends. Toward the end of last semester, however, Max started to do things that really irked me, but I was stressed from finals and thought maybe I was blowing it out of proportion. I figured spending the summer without dealing with him would clear things up, but I was wrong. </p> <p>Every time we speak, it has to be an argument. Regardless of the topic &#8212; sports, politics, calculus &#8212; his opinion is the only one that matters. He talks down to me, claiming his classes are tougher than mine and saying how "stupid" I am. Annie, I am a chemical engineering major and have already taken (and aced) all of the classes he is currently in.</p> <p>Max comes from a well-to-do family and uses that to show how much better he is than everyone else. Any money I have is because I worked my butt off and saved every penny. Since the semester began, I have been so annoyed with him that I've decided to move out as soon as possible. Unfortunately, this may take a while, as I can only afford a dorm room right now. Any suggestions? &#8212; Not Treated as an Equal<p>Updated: Fri Nov 25, 2016</p> 1629407efc0637e8fa5f88911d7da10a Thanksgiving for 11/24/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/thanksgiving-17723 Thu, 24 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Readers: Happy Thanksgiving! We hope you are fortunate enough to be spending the holiday with family and friends. And an extra shout-out to those readers who are spending the day volunteering at shelters and soup kitchens. Bless you for your kind hearts and generosity of spirit. </p> <p>Here is one of Ann Landers' favorite essays, which we feel is quite appropriate for Thanksgiving: </p> <p>I Asked God (author unknown)<p>Updated: Thu Nov 24, 2016</p> 473b98a4b87728e3aa3589dc6377e454 Secretive Secrets for 11/23/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/secretive-secrets Wed, 23 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: My oldest child is 27 and engaged. He and his fiancee, "Kayla," ordered the wedding rings together.</p> <p>Last May, my son texted, saying, "We are going to pick up the ring on Thursday." That Sunday we celebrated Mother's Day at my daughter's home. While cooking, I asked Kayla if I could see the ring. She did not respond. Instead, she left the kitchen and sat in the living room. My son told me, "You ruined the surprise." I was astonished. He said Kayla didn't know he had picked up the rings. Apparently, when he texted "we," he meant his sister. </p> <p>Kayla wouldn't speak to me the rest of the morning, and my son disinvited me to an evening barbecue because I had "made Kayla cry." Two weeks later, he called to say I owed Kayla an apology. I disagreed and said if anything, she owes me one for treating me so rudely. I've barely seen him since.<p>Updated: Wed Nov 23, 2016</p> 83c2f3cf64c02cb599735064ac715ae6 Friendzoned for 11/22/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/friendzoned Tue, 22 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I'm a young man fresh out of high school and taking life one day at a time. </p> <p>"Rachel" is my best friend. I've known her family for many years. We confide in each other and have no walls. She's quirky and sometimes calls me when she's home alone because she's frightened of thunderstorms. She is often physically close and says she loves me because I don't judge her. </p> <p>I've had feelings for Rachel for a long time. I've watched her date many guys over the years, and the relationships go nowhere. As far as I'm concerned, we've "dated" more than any of those other guys. I want to spend my life with someone who is also my best friend. But I have told Rachel how I feel, and she brushes it off. <p>Updated: Tue Nov 22, 2016</p> 10f892725d6487bcbf4f8a159fdf1add Party Pooper for 11/21/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/party-pooper Mon, 21 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: After 26 years of marriage, my husband and I divorced two years ago. The problem is that he also has divorced our children and grandchildren. </p> <p>Our youngest child still lives with me. In the divorce, my ex wanted no structured visitation with our son. He asked that it be left open so he could see him at his convenience. Unfortunately, that means he makes no effort to see him at all. My son must initiate contact or it just doesn't happen. They see each other every two or three weeks. </p> <p>My ex thinks he is a good father as long as he pays support. How do I make him see that it's more than money? Admittedly, he never spent much time with the kids when we were married, but I thought he would want to keep in closer contact. Our grown children also miss their father. He has seen his grandchildren only four times in two years.<p>Updated: Mon Nov 21, 2016</p> 1923457cf1db5675ae3dec4cd9916769 Criminal Resume for 11/20/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/criminal-resume Sun, 20 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I have to pay restitution for a crime I committed, along with court fees and attorney fees. How in the world am I to get a job to do that? I know I should have thought of that before committing the crime, but I didn't. It was a non-violent crime, and I just wasn't thinking. And there is nothing I can do about that now.</p> <p>The detectives arrested me at my job, so I lost my excellent-paying position. I currently am out on bail and hoping to get work so I can defer some of the costs, but when prospective employers do a background check, it shows that I have charges pending. When I am convicted, which is likely, the background check will be even worse. </p> <p>I have never done anything like this before, and don't plan to again, but for the moment, I have no idea how to handle it. I am lost and &#8212; All Alone Out There<p>Updated: Sun Nov 20, 2016</p> 96c8b97e75f1fc6acca1f438b58b77c1 Employed and Stressed for 11/19/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/employed-and-stressed Sat, 19 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: My office is a horrible place to work. My bosses are impossible and have no compassion for any of their employees.</p> <p>I have been told to stop having an asthma attack and get back on the phones. We have to ask permission to use the restroom and write down the time we leave and return. I have a doctor's note saying that I need to use the restroom frequently and was told too bad, get adult diapers. Yesterday, my manager hung up on me because I didn't respond to an e-mail she had sent after I left the office for the day. </p> <p>Don't bother telling me to lodge a complaint with our human resources department. We have a human resources staff, but they are a joke. They either "lose" your paperwork or do nothing. <p>Updated: Sat Nov 19, 2016</p> 999096fa561842358cfb2b6df574426e Sleepless in Love for 11/18/2016 https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/11/16/sleepless-in-love Fri, 18 Nov 2016 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Dear Annie: I recently reconnected with someone I had not seen in over three years. "Bev" is a friend of my sister's and someone whom I find very attractive. She also is a genuinely nice person, and I know that she thinks highly of me as well. </p> <p>I would love to ask her out, but she has a boyfriend. Bev's friends and family do not like this guy. Three months ago, when the boyfriend moved 3,000 miles away, everyone expected them to break up, but it hasn't happened. </p> <p>I value Bev's friendship and would like it to be more, but I'm not sure how to proceed. How do I let her know I am interested without coming off like a complete snake for stepping on her boyfriend? &#8212; Smitten and Confused<p>Updated: Fri Nov 18, 2016</p>