Continue to See Both Nice Young Ladies

By Dr. Robert Wallace

September 4, 2019 4 min read

DR. WALLACE: I'm a 16-year-old guy who has a most unusual problem. I think I could be in love — or deeply "in like" — with two girls at the same time, and I find it impossible to choose between them. I honestly believe these young ladies are two of the greatest girls in the whole world. They are both wonderful to hang out and be friends with! I know I should feel lucky to be in this position, but it has a downside, too.

I've tried to make a choice between them, but so far, I just can't do it. Sometimes I wish one of the girls would find another boyfriend and stop going out with me so that the pressure on me to choose between them would go away. That way, I could give all my concentration to one of these gracious ladies and understandably have to forget about dating the other. What do you feel I should do at this point? — Lucky In Love, via email

LUCKY: Why do you feel it's so important to immediately choose one girl over the other? At 16, there is no need to give all your "concentration" to one girl, especially in your present circumstance. That's the enjoyment of dating — enjoying the friendship of many different young women. Of course, you should be respectful to both young ladies, and do not lie or take advantage of either girl in any way. Be open with each, sharing that you truly like the other girl, too. Consider yourself a very fortunate young man and continue to see both girls as friends. At the age of 16, a young person often has many circumstances change quickly in his or her life. This process will likely lead you to eventually spend most of your time and emotional energy on one over the other. The key now is to be open, honest and respectful to both and let your friendship with each continue to evolve naturally.


DR. WALLACE: I'm 14 and starting to have a complexion problem. My grandmother says I'm getting acne. I'm really worried about this. Grandma says I'm eating too much junk food and that if I stop "eating that junk," my complexion will start to clear up right away. Is that true? Please tell me what I should do to get rid of my red blotches. Is it possible that stress is causing my complexion problem? — Worried Girl, via email

WORRIED GIRL: Not necessarily. A person's emotional state is often reflected in his or her physical state. There can also be other medical and/or biological reasons for your acne.

Have Grandmother call and make an appointment for a consultation with a local dermatologist. Unfortunately, the majority of complexion concerns occur during the impressionable teen years, so addressing this situation head-on with the guidance of a professional is a much better strategy for dealing with your situation than simply eliminating junk food from your diet. And by the way, I do encourage you to eat as healthy as you can. Keep your "junk food" intake to a minimum and be sure to regularly eat lean protein, fruits and vegetables, too.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at [email protected] To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at

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