'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Thu, 01 Oct 2020 06:23:44 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/tween-12-20-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 a1fc4014a5aa6c73070bd8ad19f45c0f Don't Stress! for 10/01/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/dont-stress Thu, 01 Oct 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I have a very unusual problem, and I need all the advice I can get. I'm really not a very popular guy, even though I'm easygoing and a good student. I have been dating one particular girl for three months. We never talked about "going steady," so I have now also been dating a second girl, too! These are the first two girls I have ever dated. But there is another girl at the job I work at who is also very friendly toward me. However, I'm happy enough to just date the two I'm friendly with now.</p> <p>Both girls and I attended the same school before COVID-19 hit. I like both girls a lot and want to continue dating both of them in case one gets tired of me and stops dating me entirely.</p> <p><span class="column--highlighted-text">But I also fear that if I don't make a choice, one might find out about the other, and then both of them would stop dating me. What should I do? I'm not so sure I could date anyone else if these two girls stopped dating me. And I'm having a hard time choosing one over the other.</span> This situation is now giving me a lot of stress to deal with because I feel that, any day now, things are going to blow up in one manner or another. What do you feel I should do regarding my dating life? &#8212; Nervous It Will All End, via email<p>Updated: Thu Oct 01, 2020</p> f414ff965cc4e425a1cd7f425a97ff74 Call, and Start the Healing Process for 09/30/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/call-and-start-the-healing-process Wed, 30 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: My best friend and I had a disagreement over a guy. She claimed that I was trying to steal her boyfriend, but that wasn't the case. She saw me hug him, but it was a totally innocent situation that she took out of context and jumped right to the worst conclusion about.</p> <p>I have an issue when I see guys smoking. I had talked to this guy before about him quitting smoking. I saw him at a party, and he hugged me when he said he quit smoking, and he even said that I helped inspire him to seriously try to quit. I was so excited and happy. I also let him know that my best friend would be so happy that he quit smoking. She then came up to me and told me I was a backstabber and our friendship was over. So, I then told her that she was a jealous idiot.</p> <p>When I got home, I told my mother what happened, and she told me to stop being friends with her immediately. I totally agreed at the time, but after a week or so, I really want to talk to her to see if we can patch our differences. I'd like your opinion. &#8212; No Smoke-Free Friendship, via email<p>Updated: Wed Sep 30, 2020</p> 3ea7870ade3213603d609b808f35582a Can Fortunetellers See the Future? for 09/29/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/can-fortunetellers-see-the-future Tue, 29 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: A girl wrote to you that her future mother-in-law (who was, at the time, happily married) visited a fortuneteller, and her marriage soon ended in a horrible divorce. Many people in our town have said that fortunetellers don't have any "psychic powers" and that, in this case, the "teller" was only out to earn a little spending money.</p> <p>Please allow me to explain about those who can predict the future. I should know because I'm a psychic. Fortunetellers and psychics who predict the future are only telling people what could possibly happen, but that person has the power to change their future. In this woman's case, her marriage ended in a horrible divorce because she didn't take the precautions to change her future.</p> <p>Some people put down fortunetellers and psychics &#8212; as if they are people who cheat people out of their money &#8212; because they are afraid to look into the future. That is what we call human nature. &#8212; Proud Psychic, via telepathy, the power of suggestion and email<p>Updated: Tue Sep 29, 2020</p> d0c3dd18aef3956c185e6054780866d3 Pay Up, and Learn Your Lesson for 09/28/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/pay-up-and-learn-your-lesson Mon, 28 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I needed $100 because I asked a girl I was trying to impress to go out on a date with me. The tickets to the event I planned were $50 each, and I paid for them, but I needed an extra $100 because I was going to take her to a very nice restaurant for some gourmet to-go food that we could eat together in a park first.</p> <p>My parents refused to lend me the money because they feel I spend too much on unnecessary expenses and they think I should save more of my money. I decided to ask my 14-year-old sister for a loan because she saves every penny from her allowance. She is a good sister, so I was convinced she would loan me the money, and I would pay her back once I got paid again from my part-time job. </p> <p>When I got my paycheck, I kept my word and gave her the $100 I owed her. She took the money, smiled and gently said: "Not so fast. You also owe me $5 interest for that loan." I told her family members don't charge interest to other family members and it was both immoral and unethical. She said the only reason she loaned me the money in the first place was because she wanted the interest on the loan. She said if it was a no-interest deal, there would have never been a loan in the first place. I agree it was nice that she loaned me the money, but I don't think I should have to pay her interest &#8212; especially since we didn't talk about any interest at all before I took the money. What side are you on regarding this sibling dispute? Should I have to pay her interest or not? I told her that paying her an extra $5 is like her taking $5 worth of gasoline out of my car's gas tank! &#8212; Siphoned Sibling, via email<p>Updated: Mon Sep 28, 2020</p> e433b5f774cbc5f3f6b038f93a8ae9c7 Are They My Friends? for 09/26/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/are-they-my-friends Sat, 26 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 16-year-old girl and have been reading your column for over three years now. Many times, I've read about teens being influenced by friends to do things that are wrong "because everybody's doing it." You often refer to this as "peer pressure" because the pressure usually comes from trusted friends. </p> <p>I really enjoy reading poetry, and I even have tried to write a few poems myself. Some of them are not so great, but I keep trying to improve. Since I also like being responsible and looking out for my friends and peers, I have written a poem entitled "Friends." </p> <p>I hope you feel it's worthy enough to be in your column. If you do, feel free to put it out there in case it might help even one teen. &#8212; Budding Poet, via email<p>Updated: Sat Sep 26, 2020</p> 015f38565a692a85e2824e94926a12ef It's Only a Beer or Two for 09/25/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/its-only-a-beer-or-two Fri, 25 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 20-year-old male, and I enjoy the taste of a cold beer. I drink one a day during the week and two or three per day on the weekends. I've never been drunk in my life, and I do not intend to be.</p> <p>I've read so many times over the years all about how much damage alcohol can do your body, but I find it impossible to believe that a beer or two a day is really going to harm you. &#8212; Love the Suds, via email</p> <p>LOVE THE SUDS: The jury is still out on whether small amounts of alcohol can cause ongoing physical damage, but the fact that you drink beer every day is a warning sign and could be troubling, especially in the long run. Alcohol is a very powerful and addictive drug.<p>Updated: Fri Sep 25, 2020</p> 6cddd97a1f852a5e6eb39adf9fafd106 I Think She Made a Play for my Boyfriend for 09/24/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/i-think-she-made-a-play-for-my-boyfriend Thu, 24 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: My best friend just broke up with her boyfriend after a couple of years, and when I asked her why, she said she got "tired of him."</p> <p>Last week, she told me I better hang on to my boyfriend tightly because she was thinking of taking him away from me! She said she was only messing with me, but I've been thinking more about this, and I'm not so sure she was.</p> <p>Last night, she texted my boyfriend and told him how she liked him and how handsome he was and how he was such a good athlete. I got so mad when I found out about this. It felt as though she was betraying our friendship by going behind my back to flirt with my guy.<p>Updated: Thu Sep 24, 2020</p> 4703c9176536ef03c79cc36f97f4d3c4 She Screams and Slams Doors for 09/23/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/she-screams-and-slams-doors Wed, 23 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: Our 20-year-old daughter is still living at home with me, my husband and our younger children. Our daughter has been dating the same guy for over two years, and their relationship is a nightmare, not only for them but also for the rest of our family. </p> <p>Whenever they have a fight, our daughter becomes highly irritable, which results in her screaming and slamming doors. From everything my husband and I can see, she appears to be in a very unhealthy relationship. She has even tried counseling at our behest, but that did not seem to help her much at all.</p> <p>We are trying to be a loving and supporting family and good parents, but our patience and willingness to remain silent has reached limits that we now find alarming. Do you have any suggestions that might be able to help us &#8212; or her? &#8212; Family on the Brink<p>Updated: Wed Sep 23, 2020</p> 7447831a7065ebef38ec71f0205c2aa4 We Are Both Very Stubborn! for 09/22/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/we-are-both-very-stubborn Tue, 22 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: At the very beginning of this summer, my best friend and I got into a nasty dispute. This is no doubt the worst fight we've ever had. We haven't spoken a single word to each other since this blowup, and now we are past Labor Day, headed toward the fall. We used to do many fun things together each summer, but not this year.</p> <p>I miss her company and want things to get back to normal, but I still think she was at fault for the fight. Well, to be honest, I don't <i>think</i> she was at fault; I know she was. But if I try to patch things up between us, I don't want her to think I'm admitting I was wrong and she was a victim. I know both of us are quite stubborn, and we might not talk to each other for many more months. It will be 2021 before we know it, and if I don't make contact with her, we will remain estranged.</p> <p>What should I do? We have been very, very good friends for over 10 years. She is like the sister I never had &#8212; or, <i>was</i> like the sister I never had. &#8212; Silent Sister, via email<p>Updated: Tue Sep 22, 2020</p> 1d9e91ad23aa9ad0f383d65354d1abf8 A Life Lesson Exists in a Tough Situation for 09/21/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/a-life-lesson-exists-in-a-tough-situation Mon, 21 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I am a 20-year-old woman who needs your advice. I've had strong feelings for a guy that have lasted for several years. Yet, as of today, we would be considered to be just casual friends. </p> <p>We see each other about once every two months when I visit my father in Atlanta, which is about 700 miles from my home. My parents are divorced, and I still live at home with my mom and my younger brothers. This guy and I met almost four years ago, and every time I see him, my feelings for him grow stronger! I visited a week ago, and I was surprised when he said he had good news to share with me. </p> <p>However, the news he delivered was decidedly not good for me. Why? Because he said that, since my last visit a few months ago, he and a wonderful young lady had become engaged. I was shocked, but all I could manage to say was: "Good for you. I'm so happy for you." I chatted with him that last time only briefly and then left and have not seen him since. And I will admit that, since I've returned home, all I can think about is the good times I've spent talking with him over the years &#8212; and these thoughts are much more frequent than I would like them to be. I'm beginning to realize that my dreams are now permanently crushed. I feel so deflated and sick to my stomach. <p>Updated: Mon Sep 21, 2020</p> 2f971c68c4063e7c930b5b428541e6f7 Tips and Strategies To Fight the Blues for 09/19/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/tips-and-strategies-to-fight-the-blues Sat, 19 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>TEENS: During these times of increased social isolation that we all live in due to the pandemic, teens are more susceptible than ever to becoming depressed. This depression can range from mild psychological discomfort to more serious forms of chronic depression. Many teens and young people have recently voiced their concerns on this topic. What can start out as a "blah" feeling can exacerbate and grow into a bad case of the blues. Here's typical letter that encapsulates what many teens are going through these days:</p> <p>DR WALLACE: Lately, I've been having the blues. I'm not deeply depressed, but I have been finding myself in the dumps lately, and I don't know how to think positively about things. All of this started a month ago when my boyfriend ended our relationship. I feel terrible about our split, and I despise feeling bad about my situation. To make matters worse, we are now socially isolated, and replacing my boyfriend by starting a new friendship/relationship seems unrealistic. Any help you can provide me will be deeply appreciated. I'm 17, and I get good grades. I'm not into drugs or alcohol. I also have wonderful parents, but I still have this sinking, "blah" feeling that keeps me feeling negative about my future. &#8212; Not My Usual Self, via email</p> <p>NOT MY USUAL SELF: I've received many letters with different definitions and explanations of this "blah" feeling, including feeling dreary and lonely, not wanting to get out of bed, worrying about the future, and feeling helpless and hopeless. Give these 10 tips a try. Several years ago, a teen girl who eventually changed her life for the better sent me this list, for which our readers and I are extremely grateful. Read through them, and give some of them a try. You have nothing to lose &#8212; except perhaps that feeling you wish to shake off.<p>Updated: Sat Sep 19, 2020</p> 9af68609de0691d042feb7ea5c00f9ca My Grandma Eats Fast Food Every Day! for 09/18/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/my-grandma-eats-fast-food-every-day Fri, 18 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: My parents are divorced, and both are remarried. Both living situations are, shall we say, not optimal for me. Now, I'm not saying that they don't want me living with them, but I am definitely saying that it's not in my best interest. Therefore, I live with my grandmother. She's really nice, and I like living with her very much. I'm 17 1/2, and we "girls" get along great. I love my grandmother, and she loves me and provides a nice home for me to live in. My only concern is my grandmother eats fast food virtually every day!</p> <p>My grandma has a nice pension payment from my grandfather's job. Grandpa passed away seven years ago, and he made sure grandma would be financially secure, and she is. I think my grandmother might have an eating problem because she's kind of overweight. I've tried to talk to her about watching what she eats since we started living together. She gives me money to buy healthy groceries for my meals; she says she doesn't want to eat healthy because she's too old to change her eating habits.</p> <p>Is there anything I can do to help her to eat at least a few healthy meals here and there? &#8212; Grateful Granddaughter, via email<p>Updated: Fri Sep 18, 2020</p> bc72e25a2f2283b4a9fac0b016b4cfdd I Want To Help my Little Brother for 09/17/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/i-want-to-help-my-little-brother Thu, 17 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 years old, and my little brother is just 7. He's a nice boy, and I only see him when I visit my dad. My little brother has his own room, and when I visit, I share a room with him at night since there are two beds in the room. This is fine. I don't have a problem with it, especially since he is a respectful little kid who is no trouble at all during the day. But I do notice that my little brother has a night light and keeps the door open. When I asked him about this, he said he's fine. But I've noticed that, some nights, he cries and whimpers during the night. It actually sounds like he's having nightmares. When this happens, I wake him up and try and ask him if he had a bad dream, but he always says he didn't. Now I don't know what to do. I sure would like to help him if possible &#8212; Concerned Older Sister, via email</p> <p>CONCERNED OLDER SISTER: <span class="column--highlighted-text">There can be many reasons why your little brother feels anxious about the dark. It's easy for a child's imagination to run wild sometimes. </span></p> <p>You should get your father involved to teach your little brother how to self-soothe and feel secure in his bed at night. Oftentimes, a regular routine can be a big part of alleviating stress or worry that a young child might become susceptible to. With a suitable routine in place, this fear should eventually go away, usually after a period of a few weeks to a month or two.<p>Updated: Thu Sep 17, 2020</p> 342a66822c748366fa1e81eae234055f An Unusual Punishment, but Likely Not Illegal for 09/16/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/an-unusual-punishment-but-likely-not-illegal Wed, 16 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: When I was attending my school before our campus closed because of the COVID-19 pandemic, I was very late one day to my physical education class. For punishment, my teacher said I could stay after school for 30 minutes or write a five-page paper on why it is important to be on time and to respect rules that all students are required to follow.</p> <p>I chose the paper. It took me multiple hours to complete, but it was better than spending a half-hour after school picking up trash. I told this story to my cousin who lives in another state, and he told me it was against the law for any teacher to make a student write a paper for simply being tardy to class. Is this correct? &#8212; Punished for Tardiness, via email</p> <p>PUNISHED FOR TARDINESS: It all depends on how you choose to look at this situation. First of all, your letter mentioned "very late" without giving a reason for this tardiness.<p>Updated: Wed Sep 16, 2020</p> 01340f81b6bf6cc7b30f16ab05abdc39 A Teen's Hand-Washing Advice for 09/15/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/a-teens-hand-washing-advice Tue, 15 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'd like to remind all of my fellow teenagers (and all of your other readers) that the best way to avoid catching any COVID-19 germs or the flu is to wash one's hands frequently, especially before eating. But don't forget that it's also important to not touch one's hands or fingers to the mouth, eyes or nostrils. Our whole family has become pretty compulsive about hand-washing, so I think about this topic every day, and even though we should all know this by now, I feel it's important to have a teen remind fellow teens to be careful and stay vigilant. That's why I am writing to you about this subject today!</p> <p>Please allow me to inform your readers that proper hand-washing techniques do not actually require warm water! Any temperature of water is fine, and any soap will do the job. We don't need some special antibacterial soap that costs a lot more money than a regular bar of soap. Rubbing soapy hands for a minimum of 20 seconds is necessary to gain the protection we all seek. It's the friction of rubbing the hands together that is most important! How do I know this? Well, my mom's best friend is a nurse, and she came over to our house a few months ago to tell us everything she knew about the dangers of the COVID-19 virus and how we can best protect ourselves from catching it.</p> <p><span class="column--highlighted-text">Health professionals agree that proper hand-washing is the best preventative medicine for children, teens and adults.</span> Besides COVID-19, colds and flu, other ailments, including infections and diarrhea, are easily transmitted to and from human hands! This is so gross! We will soon be in the midst of our normal flu season on top of everything else, so, fellow teens, be careful! &#8212; An Informed and Hygienic Teen, via email<p>Updated: Tue Sep 15, 2020</p> 6e8673f1e2e91b90c20c0d74c74e9974 Recycling Paper Creates Many Benefits for 09/14/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/recycling-paper-creates-many-benefits Mon, 14 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I recycle newspapers and paper products because I want to help our environment by saving our wonderful trees. And, of course, I also enjoy getting the bonus of being paid money for selling these paper products. I thought I was in a win-win situation. But I saw a television program that talked about tree farms, and it said that recycling newspaper products is not saving our trees.</p> <p>Are conservation advocates like me actually being fooled? Is it worth my time to recycle paper and paper products these days? I do my best to only buy paper products that are made from recycled paper! &#8212; Serious Recycler, via email</p> <p>SERIOUS RECYCLER: Almost all of our paper comes from the many tree farms in the United States and Canada. Because of these farms, there are more trees growing in these two countries compared to 100 years ago. It's true that recycling paper and paper products is not primarily for the conservation of forests; instead, it reduces landfill waste, which, in turn, helps our environment. But there is actually more good news for you to focus on. Each ton (2,000 pounds) of recycled paper saves approximately 17 trees, 380 gallons of oil, 4,000 kilowatts of energy and 7,000 gallons of water. These additional savings occur because paper is far easier to break down than wood is; therefore, it takes much less energy and water to do so!<p>Updated: Mon Sep 14, 2020</p> 7fb589b21d8d043e3f33c18d768e83c1 This 'Dating Rules' List Is Well Thought Out for 09/12/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/this-dating-rules-list-is-well-thought-out Sat, 12 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: My girlfriends and I have prepared a list of five rules for guys who are dating or planning to date today's teen girls. We hope this helps all types of guys, from the shy boys to the macho ones. When these rules are followed, it benefits the girls, too. So, boys:</p> <p>Do look beyond the "popular pool" for people to date. A date is a way to have fun and to get to know someone a little better; it's not a marriage contract. Don't be afraid to ask out shy people or people outside your circle of friends.</p> <p>Do remember that members of the opposite sex are people, too. They are not from an alien species. They want to feel comfortable and be treated with kindness and respect, just like you. When you're wondering how to act on a date, a good rule of thumb is: How would I feel about that?<p>Updated: Sat Sep 12, 2020</p> d8c5f8b23b56c51c2043e93fce2a4762 I Enjoy Alone Time Behind Closed Doors for 09/11/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/i-enjoy-alone-time-behind-closed-doors Fri, 11 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a very good student, and I love my parents. I also have several good friends. I'm active in school activities and donate my time to charitable causes. I attend church regularly and babysit occasionally. As you can see, I am quite active most of the time, but when I'm at home, I like to spend time in my room alone.</p> <p>My mother recently said she was concerned that I spend too much time in my room behind closed doors. She shocked me by saying she was worried I might be depressed! She even asked me if I had ever thought about committing suicide. I literally couldn't believe my ears!</p> <p>Then she started crying, and that made me cry because I was so caught off guard by the whole line of questioning. When I cried, she actually said: "You don't ever have to do that. You can always come to me." <p>Updated: Fri Sep 11, 2020</p> 0a555ea105e1cfe25ca303bfe1a1add2 Why Do Some Young People Join Cults? for 09/10/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/why-do-some-young-people-join-cults Thu, 10 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: Our cousin, who is bright and had a wonderful future, met some weird guy in college who talked her into dropping out of school and joining a fringe religious cult. Our entire family is shocked and disappointed, but there's nothing anyone can do. </p> <p>She is now 19 years old, so she's an adult and we can't stop her. She had everything going for her, so it was really surprising for me to hear this. My question is, what causes people to join cults? I think it's because they're mentally weak. Or are they looking for some sort of acceptance they don't get somewhere else? What is up with this type of behavior? &#8212; Unhappy Cousin, via email</p> <p>UNHAPPY COUSIN: Over the years, I've read many interesting articles and studies on this topic. Leading cult experts often say that young adults, especially students who are unsure of their futures, seek to belong to something and are vulnerable to their fear of adult life and the associated responsibilities that come along with growing up and being fully in charge of one's daily life.<p>Updated: Thu Sep 10, 2020</p> 1ad0bea3e2b4aa010326696307f26442 A Tendency Exists, but Definitely Not for All for 09/09/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/20/a-tendency-exists-but-definitely-not-for-all Wed, 09 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: Last year, our health teacher told our class that cigarettes are a gateway drug to hard drug addiction. </p> <p>I totally disagreed and stayed late to speak with him after the class. I told him that both of my sisters, our parents and I all either smoked regularly or had smoked regularly, and to my knowledge, none of us has "advanced" to hard drugs.</p> <p>I was just about to make a bigger deal about this issue, but the pandemic hit, and we don't go to school in person anymore, and I'm done that that particular class now anyway. But it still bothers me when I think about it. Why would a teacher tell lies like this to impressionable students in a public school class? Was he trying to scare all of us into nonsmoking? If so, it did not work in my case. I'm almost 18 now, and I've been smoking for almost a year-and-a-half. &#8212; Enjoying Smoking Only, via email<p>Updated: Wed Sep 09, 2020</p>