'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Wed, 19 Sep 2018 04:09:35 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/tween-12-20-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 73a7a800d8f88efeb8b44d296312adc7 Smile and Say Nice Things for 09/19/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/smile-and-say-nice-things Wed, 19 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My family will be moving to St. Augustine, Florida, in three weeks, and I'm not happy about leaving Naples, Florida. I'm rather shy, and I have a difficult time making friends. I only have two friends in Naples, but the three of us are close.</p> <p>Please tell me the best way to make new friends. I'll be in the 10th grade this fall. &#8212; Anonymous, Naples, Florida<p>Updated: Wed Sep 19, 2018</p> 17c0e2c75261086a438e0ac5cfee3de2 Let's Hope the Superintendent Moves for 09/18/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/lets-hope-the-superintendent-moves Tue, 18 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My family and I live in a small community, and we have a rather small school district. Everyone in town knows everyone else. I am a ninth-grader and plan to go to Oklahoma State University to study veterinary medicine. I'm very fond of animals. I am a very good student, and I spend a great deal of time on my studies. I love my school, but I do have one huge gripe.</p> <p>The school superintendent's son is a real class clown. He is always talking back to teachers and constantly making noises to disrupt the class. He is a true class cutup. I have this nerd in two of my classes, and he is a great daily distraction. I have personally talked to both of these teachers, but they haven't been able to calm him down.<p>Updated: Tue Sep 18, 2018</p> 00adf40896fb65eb9ee6cc1e32f3e121 Dad Won't Do It! for 09/17/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/dad-wont-do-it Mon, 17 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a first-year student at the University of Iowa. My parents and a scholarship take care of most of my financial needs, but there are times I need money and I don't have it. It's a pain contacting home and waiting for their check to arrive. Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful for what they do for me, but I'm just trying to make it easier for all of us.</p> <p>Several of my friends have credit cards, so the problem of immediate cash doesn't exist for them. I talk to my parents about getting a credit card for me. I could be added to their card, but my dad won't do it. He said that I might overuse the card or someone might steal the number and go "haywire." I'm a very conscientious young lady, and I would never abuse the card. What can I do to prove that to my dad? &#8212; Annette, Iowa City, Iowa<p>Updated: Mon Sep 17, 2018</p> 6412c393ef787f0fc9a8a28e9a3df923 Smokeless Tobacco Causes Cancer for 09/15/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/smokeless-tobacco-causes-cancer Sat, 15 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My younger brother (he's 17) and two of his friends think they are cool because they chew tobacco. I told him he looks like a dunce when he chews and spits. It's terribly disgusting. I talked about this with my dad, but he said that he chewed tobacco when he was 17 and it was no big deal.</p> <p>Can chewing tobacco lead to an addiction, or is it, as my father says, "no more than a passing fancy"? &#8212; Anonymous, Charleston, W.Va.<p>Updated: Sat Sep 15, 2018</p> 4a17974168f2cbd7fd235df1ea0964f7 Get Lost in a Good Book for 09/14/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/get-lost-in-a-good-book Fri, 14 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 and dating a guy who is 17. I really think he's OK, but I can't stand his parents. Would you believe that they only let us date once a week and that unless something really special is going on, he has to be in by 11:30 p.m.? His unreasonable parents are giving me a headache. What can I do to let them know they are smothering his social life? &#8212; Anonymous</p> <p>ANONYMOUS: Accept the rules set down by that guy's parents, or move on to another guy. When you are not with him, spend time with your family and friends or get lost in a good book. For the headache, an aspirin and a cool glass of water will help ease your pain.<p>Updated: Fri Sep 14, 2018</p> 09906c7401bf9d6b9d90b7ce34110069 Learn How to Budget Your Money for 09/13/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/learn-how-to-budget-your-money Thu, 13 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 and, if I must say so myself, a pretty good kid. I'm on the honor roll at school. I teach Sunday school at my church. And I've never experimented with the no-nos &#8212; drugs, alcohol and premarital sex. I've got a boyfriend whom with my parents approve of, and I have an open, wonderful relationship with my parents. Oh, yes, I'm also vice president of my sophomore class and a junior varsity cheerleader.</p> <p>Because I'm a very active teen, I need a certain amount of money to survive and participate in activities with others after school. I'd like to get a part-time job to earn some extra cash, but my parents won't let me. They believe that all of my spare time should be directed toward my studies. My problem is that I need $40 per week for what I consider to be my necessities &#8212; food (snacks), my school yearbook, movie tickets, etc. My parents do buy all of my clothes and give me $2 a day for my lunch, but they only give me an allowance of $10 a week. That really puts a crimp in my lifestyle. What can I do to get them to raise my allowance to $40 per week? &#8212; Good Kid, Springfield, Mass.<p>Updated: Thu Sep 13, 2018</p> 61c09308312ef331f31adccac1c2ee72 The Baby Is Pure and Sinless for 09/12/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/the-baby-is-pure-and-sinless Wed, 12 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My best friend is 17 and very pregnant. She and her boyfriend were planning to get married, but he was killed in an automobile accident five months ago. The baby is due in about a month. Last week, I got a call from my friend's cousin inviting me to a baby shower for her. I said that I will be there.</p> <p>When I told my mom, she said she has never heard of a baby shower for an unwed mother. She added that she wouldn't stop me from going but would hope that I wouldn't attend. She said that those attending will be honoring someone who committed a huge sin. I'm going to attend, but I would like to hear what you think about all this. My mom reads your column even more than I do, so I'm hoping that you will agree with me. &#8212; Rosa, El Paso, Texas<p>Updated: Wed Sep 12, 2018</p> f974f983f0ae0b2e7195d4e737767fc3 I Know Mom Wants to Quit Drinking for 09/11/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/i-know-mom-wants-to-quit-drinking Tue, 11 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Our father died about six months ago. He was overweight and died at work from a massive heart attack. He was only 51 years old. The day they buried our father, our mother started drinking to "forget" all of her problems. She was a social drinker before Dad died, but since then, she has been drinking every day, sometimes a lot per day.</p> <p>Both my brother and I think that she has become an alcoholic. We keep telling Mom that we need her now more than ever and that we want her to stop drinking. She says she will, but so far, she hasn't. We are afraid that if she doesn't stop drinking, she will eventually die from alcohol abuse. Mom says that she knows alcohol is not good for a person but that it will not kill her. She also said she would definitely quit drinking "in a week." That was two weeks ago, and she has not even slowed down her consumption one bit. Please help. Mom reads your column even when she is drinking. Deep down I know she wants to stop drinking, and my brother and I think that maybe she just does not know how to. &#8212; Worried Siblings, South Bend, Ind.<p>Updated: Tue Sep 11, 2018</p> f17470198494a10ffbc8e6c1859d7605 Pregnant High Schooler Weighs Options for 09/10/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/pregnant-high-schooler-weighs-options Mon, 10 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My boyfriend and I are in the 12th grade and will graduate soon. Two weeks ago, I got the shock of my life. I discovered that I'm three months along with a child. We told both sets of our parents. His parents told us to think things over and then do what we feel is best for the two of us. My parents didn't see it that way. They want me to get an abortion immediately. They feel that I am too young to be a mother and that financially, I would have a difficult time supporting a child and myself.</p> <p>I talked everything over with my boyfriend, and this is our decision: We will get married a week after we graduate. His family owns an apartment building, and we could live there rent-free until we become financially independent. My boyfriend has a part-time job working as a sales associate for his grandfather's car business, and he will be employed there full time after graduation.<p>Updated: Mon Sep 10, 2018</p> a520cd0d117fa182a50f73a4d2d4e777 Sex and Violence Sell Movies for 09/08/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/sex-and-violence-sell-movies Sat, 08 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I am a huge fan of the movie industry and its illustrious history. Whenever I see a really old-timey John Wayne or Humphrey Bogart movie, I notice that many of the actors were smoking in their on-screen roles. Now it's rare to see a movie in which actors smoke. Seeing as movies play an important role in the lives of teens, I want to thank moviemakers for keeping cigarettes off the screen for the most part. Now if they would only curb all the sex and violence, they would be doing all of us a huge favor. &#8212; Movie Mother, Chicago</p> <p>MOVIE MOTHER: It's true that smoking, once in vogue, is steadily falling out of fashion. More and more, we are finding areas in society where smoking is prohibited, including restaurants, government buildings, stadiums and airports. The philosophy of days gone by was, "It's a free country, and I can smoke wherever and whenever I want." It's been replaced with, "Smoke wherever you want, as long as I don't have to breathe your secondhand smoke."<p>Updated: Sat Sep 08, 2018</p> 1db7645518549c4400e951b9b330fe96 Teacher Responds Poorly to Late Student for 09/07/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/teacher-responds-poorly-to-late-student Fri, 07 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My geometry teacher is very strict. Yesterday I was five seconds late to her class, and she locked the door so I couldn't get in. In fact, she slammed the door in my face. I knocked on the door, but she wouldn't let me in. Rather than sit on the floor outside the room, I went home because this was my last class of the day.</p> <p>Now I'm in more hot water because she turned me in for ditching her class. My friend, who is in the same class, said that five minutes before the period ended, she unlocked the door and peaked out into the hall looking for me. Now I've got four hours of Saturday detention for cutting a class I didn't really cut. It's like a parent who kicks you out of the house and then calls the police to report you as a runaway.<p>Updated: Fri Sep 07, 2018</p> dd01e5cfc1f25ef5dd4ecd209f63815e Two Friends Like the Same Boy for 09/06/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/two-friends-like-the-same-boy Thu, 06 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 13-year-old girl. I'm considered to be smart and pretty. I am also quite popular with boys. I like a certain boy in my class. He says that he likes me, too. I look at him many times in class, and he also looks at me. He is very sweet and nice and has a good sense of humor. We talk often and have decided to wait until we are older to take our relationship to the "next level."</p> <p>But my so-called best friend, "Mary," expressed to me that she also likes this boy and is upset because I like him, too. Yesterday she told me she liked him before I did and she didn't want me talking with him anymore. Then she asked me what's more important, our friendship or my friendship with this boy. When I said our friendship is more important, she said, "Good, but if you ever talk to him again, our friendship is over."<p>Updated: Thu Sep 06, 2018</p> aad0830776a915eac153fc87f03ce79e Friend Is Possibly Being Abused for 09/05/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/friend-is-possibly-being-abused Wed, 05 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 17, and so is my very best friend. About three months ago, she met a guy at a party and started dating him. At first, she seemed very happy, but for the past several weeks, she seems depressed and afraid. It appears likely to me that she is being abused by this guy, physically or mentally or both. I can't stand him. He is arrogant and loud and appears to dominate my friend. It's as if he were king and she were his slave.</p> <p>I've asked my friend whether she's being abused, and she denies it. I've encouraged her to drop this guy, but all she says is that she can't. What can I do to find out whether she is being abused, and if she is, what should I do to try to help her? She is a great friend and deserves to be treated right. &#8212; Anonymous, Peoria, Ill.<p>Updated: Wed Sep 05, 2018</p> f8c381145b64c7967b9012eb36ab398e Improve Complexion With Home Remedies for 09/04/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/improve-complexion-with-home-remedies Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a faithful reader of your column, so I trust you can help me. I'm a 14-year-old boy. I'm starting to get whiskers on my chin, and that's good, but I'm also starting to get a lot of pimples, and that's not good. I am the eldest child, with three younger brothers and two younger sisters, and my mother is expecting a new baby in six weeks.</p> <p>We are not poor, but our family is on a strict budget. I know you tell most kids who have complexion problems to visit a dermatologist, but that is out as an option for me, as we can't afford it. Do you have a good home remedy you could pass along? I'd be happy just to have my complexion improve somewhat, even if it didn't clear up entirely. Also, does junk food cause a bad complexion? &#8212; Anonymous, St. George, Utah<p>Updated: Tue Sep 04, 2018</p> 23d6bea6674cb8054bc5e893e237ae1f Teen Wants to Stop Cutting Herself for 09/03/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/09/18/teen-wants-to-stop-cutting-herself Mon, 03 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm writing to you because I trust you and really need your advice. I'm a good student. I'm in an honors program in 10th grade. My parents have split. I live at home with my father. My mother left us six months ago to move across the country to live with relatives.</p> <p>To make things worse, four days later, my boyfriend broke up with me. Add to this the torment of my peers making fun of me for no apparent reason. But that's not the end of my troubles. My dad and I have a terrible relationship. We fight over everything. My elder sister and I don't get along, either. She is completely ignorant to my feelings.<p>Updated: Mon Sep 03, 2018</p> 1de0b488d1551786164892a2f3b6abc3 Some are Not Sugar and Spice for 09/01/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/08/18/some-are-not-sugar-and-spice Sat, 01 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Whenever you answer a letter from a student who is being bullied, it's always from a boy. Girls get bullied from other girls. Girl bullies can be very vicious. Sometimes they are worse than boy bullies.</p> <p>I was bullied at my old school and now I'm at a new school and I'm not being bullied. I can't tell you how happy I am at my new school. Being bullied is a thing of the past for me. &#8212; Anonymous, Springfield, Ma.<p>Updated: Sat Sep 01, 2018</p> b8d92b7c83c1a7d2ff311f242d417bc2 He's Incapable of Love for 08/31/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/08/18/hes-incapable-of-love Fri, 31 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Bless you for telling a teenage girl, who was being physically and emotionally abused by her boyfriend, to stop seeing this "criminal" immediately. I'm glad that you said that she should report him to the police if he continued to bother her after she told him to take a "long walk off a short pier." <span class="column--highlighted-text">This naive young lady wasn't sure what to do because she thought she still might love him and kept believing him when he apologized for his behavior, promising that it would never happen again.</span></p> <p>Trust me, it will happen again and the punishment this guy dishes out only gets worse. This guy is a coward and cowards beat women to exert their power. Many women suffer this because they are afraid to challenge men.<p>Updated: Fri Aug 31, 2018</p> 29766b64556a480061d3c570f05b8582 I Was Known as a for 08/30/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/08/18/i-was-known-as-a-sissy Thu, 30 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I am a 14-year-old boy who wrote you some time ago and told you that I hated school and was thinking about running away or even worse as a boy at school was picking on me every day. He demanded my lunch money and if I didn't give it to him he used me as a punching bag. I had gone to my school counselor and even the principal, but they didn't do anything. Even though I was fairly big, I was known as a sissy. I would just take it and never fight back.</p> <p><span class="column--highlighted-text">You told me to consider standing up for myself and to defend myself the next time I was bullied.</span> The next time was the next day after I received that advice. I refused to give him my lunch money and he started punching me. Then I jumped on him, knocked him down and actually got a few good punches in. I wound up with a bloody nose, but he had a lump on his head the size of an egg.<p>Updated: Thu Aug 30, 2018</p> e2e374742dfd96ae16bb322184afc240 She Could be Calling You for 08/29/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/08/18/she-could-be-calling-you Wed, 29 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: About a month ago I met a girl at a party and fell "head over heels" in love with her. We are both 19 and have good jobs. Since the evening we met, we have been inseparable. I see her five evenings a week and we talk on the telephone when we don't see each other. Every moment spent with her is like a moment in paradise. She is everything a guy could desire. She is bright, good-looking, has a great sense of humor and a beautiful figure. I have dated many girls, but this woman is the first one to cause me to even think about getting married some day.</p> <p>Now comes the letdown. Last night she told me we could not see each other anymore because her fiance was coming home from England in a week and she was going to be spending all her time with him. She said that her fiance and she had an agreement that allows them the freedom to date others while he was studying for a semester abroad in England.<p>Updated: Wed Aug 29, 2018</p> 3479606431fa939d7b9e462d634b6882 I Dare you to Challenge my Reasoning for 08/28/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/08/18/i-dare-you-to-challenge-my-reasoning-933d2 Tue, 28 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My 19-year-old sister just returned from spending six weeks in Germany to better learn how to read, write and speak the German language. She was in Munich, the Bavarian region of Germany, and loved every minute of it. She discovered that Munich is a beautiful city and the people were very friendly, especially her host family.</p> <p>One thing that surprised my sister was that she could visit a beer garden, order a bratwurst sandwich and wash it down with a stein of beer. You see, the minimum age for consuming alcohol in Germany is 18. My sister said all of the American students in this program sponsored by her University were under the age of 21, but over age 18 &#8212; and therefore most of them were drinking beer over there. She said that all of the students behaved themselves pretty well and none of them became intoxicated.<p>Updated: Tue Aug 28, 2018</p>