'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Thu, 02 Jul 2020 12:19:27 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/tween-12-20-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 035192d34fcc31f15269ff6adadf4859 A Marriage Requiring Changes Is Unrealistic for 07/02/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/07/20/a-marriage-requiring-changes-is-unrealistic Thu, 02 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a Christian. My boyfriend is a wonderful fellow, but he happens to be an atheist and said he will remain an atheist until the day he leaves this earth.</p> <p>I love my boyfriend, and he loves me, and we plan to get married in a year or two. My parents are also Christian, and they are quite against me marrying an atheist. In fact, they're horrified at the thought. I keep telling them that once we are married, I feel I can help my new husband to become a Christian, but my parents do not see this as a likely possibility. </p> <p>My father has given me three speeches about "cutting my losses" already. I'm not nearly as stressed or freaked out about this as my traditional parents are.<p>Updated: Thu Jul 02, 2020</p> 09c6063f7701b2e3104a529302682587 Sad About Parents' Relationship for 07/01/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/sad-about-parents-relationship Wed, 01 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: My mother and father appear to be very near getting a divorce, and this makes me feel very unhappy and uneasy. They rarely say anything nice to each other, and when they do discuss something, it seems they always wind up in a humongous argument that does not end well at all.</p> <p>I'm 15 and have a younger sister who is 9. I love my mother and my father very much, and it makes me very depressed to think about my family breaking apart at the seams. I used to be an honor roll student, but lately, my grades have suffered because I don't concentrate on my studies at home as much as I used to. What's weird is that neither of my parents even checks on my schoolwork like they used to. </p> <p>Is there anything I can do to help make things better at home? &#8212; Unhappy Older Sister, via email<p>Updated: Wed Jul 01, 2020</p> a41b6ff2a304b2b5ea8f7aee646409a8 Forced Food Consumption Is Not Prudent for 06/30/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/forced-food-consumption-is-not-prudent Tue, 30 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I know I'm not alone with this: I like most vegetables, but there are a few I really don't like. This especially includes peas. Every time my mother makes peas as one of the vegetables for our supper, my father insists I eat everything on my plate &#8212; including those beady little peas. Part of the reason for this is that I'm a vegetarian (which drives good old Dad nuts!), and he grants me leeway there. But I think that because of that, he really likes to hammer me to eat any and all vegetables at all times. So, when the vegetable is cauliflower, beets, zucchini, asparagus or even broccoli, I eat them all, but I totally gag on peas for some reason. I just don't like those little buggers! </p> <p>I was wondering if you think it's fair that I have to eat everything on my plate? If you say I should, I guess I'll stop complaining, hold my nose and try to choke down some peas. What's your opinion on this particular issue? &#8212; Can't Stand Those Peas, via email</p> <p>CAN'T STAND PEAS: It surprises some readers to learn that this is actually a very popular and frequent topic with teenagers. I get all kinds of letters about foods and diets, and the majority do involve what to do when one or both parents want the teen to eat something the young person truly dislikes. Many times, parents introduce new foods to their children and automatically feel that since they like them, their children should like them, too. But everyone has his or her own palate! It's OK to occasionally ask children and teens to try a new taste, but they should not force the children to finish something they truly don't like. In that case, a parent risks instilling a lifelong hatred of certain foods. Eating should be pleasurable, social and nutritious &#8212; not emotionally painful. Rarely do adults eat foods they find distasteful; they usually only do so to impress a potential mate or to be socially accepted in a business situation, especially when it comes to international business. <p>Updated: Tue Jun 30, 2020</p> 5ed04805f6eb737039c59efddc5f15c9 Is Brisk Walking or Jogging Better? for 06/29/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/is-brisk-walking-or-jogging-better Mon, 29 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm ready to get on an exercise routine. I'm a 17-year-old girl who could use a little more fitness and stamina &#8212; well, maybe even more than a little! After thinking about it and getting some encouragement from friends, I've decided to hit the road with some regular aerobic exercise. So, my question is, what do feel is better: jogging or walking briskly? My father says I should run, but at a modest pace to start with. My mother holds the opposite opinion. She is encouraging me to begin taking brisk walks with her and her lady friends who walk together about five days a week. &#8212; Ready to Hit the Road, via email</p> <p>READY TO HIT THE ROAD: Most fitness consultants agree that walking briskly gives you roughly the same benefits that jogging does; it just takes a little longer. Walking also has other distinct advantages. A brisk walk burns about 300 calories per hour and builds endurance while simultaneously toning muscles &#8212; especially legs, hips and buttocks. Additionally, walking is virtually injury-free due to less impact and lower speeds.</p> <p>I extol the virtues of walking. I briskly walk 2 to 3 miles or so every morning &#8212; even if I'm out of town. In fact, I find it quite enjoyable to take a brisk walk through a new area when things are relatively quiet in the morning, as that is often a great time to soak up the scenery and the unique vibe that each place offers.<p>Updated: Mon Jun 29, 2020</p> f786269864125d23bd484d5d0ab69b57 Avoid Driving Distractions To Be a Safe Teen Driver for 06/27/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/avoid-driving-distractions-to-be-a-safe-teen-driver Sat, 27 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>TEENS: Summertime is here, and there will be many teens who do much more driving than they do at other times of year. The days are warmer and longer, and there are trips to beaches, lakes, campsites and hiking areas that appeal to groups of teenagers.</p> <p>Quite often, four to six teenagers will pile into a vehicle for such trips. Due to the fact that youthful exuberance is exacerbated by group activities (and by showing off), it's time to once again remind our teen readers to take the responsibility of driving very seriously. </p> <p>Becoming a responsible driver after receiving the treasured driver's license is always a goal, but many times, a youthful zeal for fun coupled with relative driving inexperience overpowers good judgment, and the results can at times be devastating. Poor driving habits are not confined to young drivers, but statistics reported by the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration show that drivers under the age of 24 are responsible for 39% of crashes that cause injury or death, even though this age group has only 19% of licensed drivers.<p>Updated: Sat Jun 27, 2020</p> 9d6333e0fc41f2ab75c312040ef8a774 Parents Deserve To Meet Daughter's Dates for 06/26/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/parents-deserve-to-meet-daughters-dates Fri, 26 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 17 and have dated several guys. Since I drive my own car, I meet these guys wherever we plan to spend time together. If we're going bowling, I meet my date at the bowling alley. Driving to the date spot just makes me feel like I have total independence. If my date and I decide to get something to eat, my date will drive his car to the restaurant, and I'll drive mine. My dates don't seem to mind this arrangement, and I personally love it. I get to spend time with a guy I'm interested in, and I get to feel that I have a lot of control over how the evening unfolds on many levels.</p> <p>Well, lately, my parents are complaining to me that they have not met these guys that I'm dating, and they're saying they want to meet them. I don't think it's necessary because I'm never going to be alone in a vehicle with my date. What do you think? &#8212; Independent Young Woman</p> <p>INDEPENDENT YOUNG WOMAN: I believe your parent should absolutely be able to meet the guys you are dating. Parents are curious when it comes to the guy who is dating their daughter. The better they feel about the guy, the better the chance the relationship will be enjoyable.<p>Updated: Fri Jun 26, 2020</p> f1eeca47a1c44694b99046766da5e9de My Mom Is Always Late! for 06/25/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/my-mom-is-always-late Thu, 25 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: My mom is a wonderful lady, but she has one very bad habit. She is always late, regardless of the occasion. This has caused me a lot of inconvenience and embarrassment. When I ask her to drive me to school, she always says yes but then causes me to be late to my first class! As a family, we are always late to church, appointments and sporting events.</p> <p>Last night, my mother was supposed to pick up my best friend and me at the mall at 8:30 p.m. We waited outside until 9 p.m. before she showed up. First, she misplaced her car keys, and then she had to stop to get gas because she was on empty.</p> <p>My dad has already given up trying to get my mom to be on time. He simply says, "She was late for her own birth and will be late to her funeral someday." I'm about to give up as well, and I know that I can't count on her to follow the clock. Do you have any suggestions that could help me? I don't want to start a big family argument, but I'd sure like to help my mom to get a move on. &#8212; Diligent Daughter, via email<p>Updated: Thu Jun 25, 2020</p> c9ab4c75a0d05d0de3eed4ab8d25e9bf Sneaking Around Is Not Wise for 06/24/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/sneaking-around-is-not-wise Wed, 24 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 and in love with the guy who is 23, and he is in love with me. I'm a very mature 16-year-old and an intelligent young lady. I plan to stay in school and graduate from my high school before we plan to get married. I also told my guy that the earliest age I would ever marry him would be a few months after I turn 18 so I can be an adult and make my own good decisions with my mind more developed and experienced than it is now.</p> <p>He is a college graduate and has a really, really good job that he enjoys and that pays him quite well. We are not sexually active and see each other without anyone knowing and only during the daytime. No, he is not a teacher, and he is not married. My parents are not aware of his existence. We are in a secret relationship, on the down low. He's told me we can get married and buy a house together as soon as I'm ready to do so. I've told him many times that I won't ever marry until I'm at least 18.</p> <p>My question is, should I be true to the guy I love, or should I date other guys my own age until I graduate? I dream of marrying this guy someday, but I'll also admit that I'm attracted to a few cute boys at my school who have recently asked me out. &#8212; Planning Ahead, via email<p>Updated: Wed Jun 24, 2020</p> 0ceeb6972918cc8aa89b91447aafa069 Please Pass on Diet Pills for 06/23/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/please-pass-on-diet-pills Tue, 23 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 16-year-old girl who needs to lose 25 to 30 pounds by the middle of this summer. I know how I packed on the extra pounds: I was depressed this year, and I tried to eat my way back to happiness. It didn't work. All I did was gain a lot of useless weight. </p> <p>Now that I'm mentally healthier after going to therapy regularly, I want to try losing weight. I'm told by a few of my girlfriends that diet pills really work for losing weight, but I also understand these pills can become addictive for some people. I'm not sure if I'm one of those people, but I really, really want to drop some weight fast. &#8212; Seeking to Slim Down, via email<p>Updated: Tue Jun 23, 2020</p> be6562acd161357d880dfe083730013e Can Acne Be Cured or Avoided? for 06/22/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/can-acne-be-cured-or-avoided Mon, 22 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: Why does acne always seem to show up mostly in the teen years? It seems to me that most of the severe acne I see around my town is on the faces of teenagers like me. I have a little acne, and it's not too bad right now, but I'm afraid it will spread and take over my whole face. I'm 16 and have had it for about six months now. Can acne somehow be avoided or controlled so it doesn't spread? &#8212; Fearing More Acne, via email</p> <p>FEARING MORE ACNE: This is a very common question that I get asked quite frequently. It seems each new class of high school students ends up writing in with a question on this topic.</p> <p>I feel duty-bound to provide information on this topic regularly because it is an issue that can be emotional and can also leave physical scars if not treated properly. So, here are some crucial facts about skin problems that teens should know:<p>Updated: Mon Jun 22, 2020</p> 3ad8972fc26530e0af8a025f6e325edf Timeless Advice for Families of Divorce for 06/20/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/timeless-advice-for-families-of-divorce Sat, 20 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: Last year, my husband and I and our two teens were one happy family. Since then, my world has collapsed all around me. My husband and his secretary told me one night they were in love and he would be moving out and filing for a divorce within a week.</p> <p>I was completely shocked. But now I've got myself back to normal. I have a good job, and my teens are trying to adjust to the new lifestyle we are all living these days.</p> <p>I remember you wrote in your column some time ago about teens and divorce. Even though I never thought I would be a divorced parent, it appears I need that information now. Is it possible that you could reprint the tips you gathered from professional psychologists over the years? &#8212; Dealing With our New Reality, via email<p>Updated: Sat Jun 20, 2020</p> ec6a460eeb245215d37e006d0b1f4aad Help, I'm Pregnant for 06/19/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/help-im-pregnant Fri, 19 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 18 years old and have a major problem. I dated this guy for two years. It was a very rocky relationship. About two months ago, I broke up with him for good. I told him it was either his drugs or me. He couldn't have both. Well, he didn't choose me. Then he left town and soon moved to Argentina to live with his father.</p> <p>Shortly after he left, I started dating another guy. We met at a party and liked each other right away. I really care for him &#8212; much more than I cared for my last boyfriend.</p> <p>My problem is I just found out that I'm pregnant, and my old boyfriend is the father. What should I do? Do I tell my current boyfriend that I'm pregnant? Should I try to find a way to track down my old boyfriend and tell him the news?<p>Updated: Fri Jun 19, 2020</p> cdb4d07316a89e29cfc7bb026f569641 Three Strikes and You're Out! for 06/18/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/three-strikes-and-youre-out Thu, 18 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 17 and heartbroken that my 16-year-old girlfriend of the past four wonderful months announced she wasn't going to see me anymore because she was in love with another guy! </p> <p>Less than a week ago, she was telling me she would love me forever. I love her so much that I thought she would be my wife one day. It's difficult for me to accept that she has really dumped me. <p>Updated: Thu Jun 18, 2020</p> cbcf2195134f745a66977711e5292a55 Go With Your Father's Instructions for 06/17/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/go-with-your-fathers-instructions Wed, 17 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I live with my father and my grandmother. I love them both very much, but there are times when I really get confused on who I should listen to.</p> <p>Many times, my grandmother will tell me to do something, and then my dad will say: "No, don't do that. Do this." Then my grandmother gets mad, and I'm always caught in the middle. I've told each of them many times to get together and set up rules for what they tell me, but they never do.</p> <p>Yesterday, my grandmother told me to clean my room when I got home from school. When my dad came home, he got mad and told me to start studying because I need to prepare for final exams. I started studying, and my grandmother got mad and told me to finish cleaning my room. The house belongs to my grandmother. What should I do in this situation? &#8212; Mixed Signals, via email<p>Updated: Wed Jun 17, 2020</p> 93906e5b44c2bd2aae0c8368eb08e713 I Can't Stop Daydreaming About Him for 06/16/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/i-cant-stop-daydreaming-about-him Tue, 16 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I met a fun guy at a friend's house and soon began going out with him. He was very cool, and although he was into drugs and alcohol, I found him to be an exciting guy. He was always full of life and energy. He was literally the life of the party when we went out in public together. </p> <p>But things soon took a turn for the worse. One night, I came home from a date with alcohol on my breath and my dad got so mad! My dad and my dude got into a massive, heated argument. If it had not been for my mother stepping in to calm things down, I'm sure my dad would've gotten physical right then and there with my guy in our family's living room.</p> <p>I'm going to be 17 in a few months and have been out with quite a few guys so far, but none of them turned me on more than this guy. Now I'm on restriction and have promised my parents that I will not ever go out with him again, and I won't do it because the consequences would be big. But I'll admit I do daydream about hanging out with him again.<p>Updated: Tue Jun 16, 2020</p> e54d3a364382bea1e1e6fd19cd9ada9f Advice From a Past Reader for 06/15/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/advice-from-a-past-reader Mon, 15 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a woman of 17, and I know you often say that sex is more likely to break up a teen relationship than make it stronger. My boyfriend and I are blissfully in love, mostly because we express our physical love in a variety of intimate ways almost single every time we go out together. He has an older friend who lets us use an extra room in his apartment whenever we want it. We have never been closer or happier together. So, let your teen readers know that sex does not always "ruin" relationships. It actually brings some teens closer together. &#8212; Happily Physical With My Guy, via email</p> <p>HAPPILY PHYSICAL: My first suggestion for you is to make sure your boyfriend uses a condom when he makes you physically happy. I also suggest you read the following letter from my archives on this topic. It's from a young lady who shares an opposite view to yours.</p> <p>DR. WALLACE: From my own personal experience, when a young lady has a boyfriend who tries to pressure her into having sex, it would be wise to say no. I'm a 19-year-old college freshman, and the last three guys I've been involved with have been around the block a time or two &#8212; perhaps several times. They all said they respected me because I had the guts to say no to their incessant sexual advances.<p>Updated: Mon Jun 15, 2020</p> 5fd82ad93e02bf5dd120093572686670 My Troubles Are Gone for 06/13/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/my-troubles-are-gone Sat, 13 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 18, and I'm a lucky guy. Since I was 16, I have been getting into trouble &#8212; at home, at school and with the law. I did many things that were wrong or illegal. I was involved in alcohol and drugs, and I stole and robbed from time to time to get money to support my bad habits.</p> <p>Four months ago, I was arrested for possession of heroin. I spent time in jail, and after my release, I had to go to night school and attend a church-sponsored substance abuse program every week. I started attending the church also on weekends since I liked a few of the people I met in the program there.</p> <p>I fully intended to dump the church program when I got off probation, but since I've met a few people there I can relate to, my life has turned for the better. <p>Updated: Sat Jun 13, 2020</p> 27079dba9d1bf88015e25e4286b7520d Move On From His Creepy Request -- And Him for 06/12/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/move-on-from-his-creepy-request-and-him Fri, 12 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I've met a good-looking guy, and we've been dating for almost a month. We are both 17. He's pretty friendly and normal, and most of my girlfriends are jealous. But whenever we go out somewhere alone on a Saturday afternoon, he asks me to take my bra off and just go with a more "natural look." </p> <p>Don't get me wrong; he has not tried to touch me in an inappropriate way or anything like that, but I'll admit I found his request pretty surprising and odd, especially the way he first asked me to do it. He stopped at a gas station to put fuel into his car and asked me to go into the gas station bathroom to take my bra off so I would only be wearing my sweater with nothing underneath!</p> <p>I told him no because I was uncomfortable both with a dirty gas station bathroom and not wearing a bra in front of him. I found this whole incident creepy.<p>Updated: Fri Jun 12, 2020</p> 923d39080f3568c0f4d69bc53672c82c Two Hard Lessons Learned for 06/11/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/two-hard-lessons-learned Thu, 11 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: A girl at my school has been my best friend until a recent incident ended our friendship. Earlier this school year, before the COVID-19 virus shut down our school, my "friend" brought a bottle of tequila to school and drank it on campus with another girl! After lunch, my friend asked me to hide the bottle in my locker, just in case the teacher smelled alcohol on her breath and decided to search her locker.</p> <p>Well, the teacher did smell alcohol on my friend's breath and on the breath of the other girl. When they searched their lockers, they didn't find the alcohol, so the vice principal said the girls would be suspended only three days instead of five if they told him where they got the tequila. Well, they blamed me! And when they searched my locker, the bottle was found, and I was in big trouble.</p> <p>I was suspended for five days, and my parents grounded me three months, even though they knew the alcohol wasn't mine. They told me the grounding was for my stupidity. And now, with the virus problem, my parents basically have me on house arrest, as I'm not allowed to meet any friends anymore.<p>Updated: Thu Jun 11, 2020</p> d90baa4ce99bbba79097ce904f528d77 You're Not In Love for 06/10/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/06/20/youre-not-in-love Wed, 10 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 16-year-old girl who is helping my mom out at our store, which just recently reopened. A nice-looking boy my age walked in the other day, and he told me I was very beautiful. I was surprised, and all I could say was thank you. He walked out of the store a few minutes later, and I never saw him again.</p> <p>I should have given him my telephone number, but my mind wasn't thinking about that. I can't help it, but I now think about this cute boy every day. I keep volunteering to work at the store with my mom, as I'm hoping he'll stop by and see me again.</p> <p>I want to see this guy so much that I went to a fortuneteller a few days ago to see what my future will be. But I got bad news, as the fortuneteller told me this particular boy has moved away from our area and I should forget about him. I heard what she said to me, but I simply don't want to accept that. If you include my letter in your column, I'm hoping that maybe, just maybe, he'll read it and contact me at our store. &#8212; In Love With a Ghost, via email<p>Updated: Wed Jun 10, 2020</p>