'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Tue, 20 Nov 2018 09:40:03 -0800 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/tween-12-20-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 bf08b1d1e9d24364852913eee815a06d Parents Just Are Not Aware for 11/20/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/parents-just-are-not-aware Tue, 20 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p></p><p>TEENS: Would your parents be upset if they discovered that you smoked marijuana? Shockingly, they may not be. A recent nationwide study involving over 1,200 parents of teens, conducted by the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids, found that barely half of the parents would be upset to learn their children were experimenting with pot.<p>Updated: Tue Nov 20, 2018</p> b5b21163b68ca5628ef3bc0afe9105d0 Coach Used Extremely Poor Judgment for 11/19/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/coach-used-extremely-poor-judgment Mon, 19 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Last week, we had our football banquet in our high school cafeteria. One of the assistant coaches brought in a few cans of beer and drank them with his meal. He also gave a few sips to a couple of the team members. One of the parents called the school the next day complaining that her son was one of the players given beer. She is demanding to speak with the school administration, and she insisted that our football coach should be fired.</p> <p>This coach is a very popular teacher (physical education) and a great coach. Do you think that he should be fired, or do you think (like most of the players) that he should be warned never to do that again but be allowed to remain as a coach? <span class="column--highlighted-text">Everybody is entitled to make a mistake one time, right? No one is perfect.</span> Our entire school and the local community are in an uproar over this matter, and it seems everybody has an opinion on what should be done. It would be sad if our teacher loses his job over this one small incident. &#8212; Surprised and Sad, via email<p>Updated: Mon Nov 19, 2018</p> 61013d07ff7d46fbf8ea7b68c6ad6182 I Chose Life for My Daughter for 11/17/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/i-chose-life-for-my-daughter Sat, 17 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: This is in response to the 18-year-old girl who found out that she was pregnant. Her boyfriend and her mother were encouraging her to get an abortion. She didn't like that idea, but she was unsure how she could deal with a baby while being an unwed mother.</p> <p>I have a safe and sane solution for her. I was in the identical situation two years ago. Three months before I was to graduate, I found out I was pregnant. I knew that my parents would be hurt and upset when they found out, so I went to my school guidance counselor and together we decided to tell my mother and dad. At first, they were shocked, but soon they helped me with their love and support.<p>Updated: Sat Nov 17, 2018</p> 68ddc1915bcf97eaba8933c6745c5797 Teens and Divorce for 11/16/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/teens-and-divorce Fri, 16 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Last year, my husband and our two teens were a happy family. Since then, my world has collapsed around me. My husband and his secretary told me one night that they were in love, that they were going to live together and he was going to file for a divorce.</p> <p>I was caught by surprise and completely shocked. But now, I've gotten myself back to normal. I have a good job, and my teens are trying to adjust to our new lifestyle with me.<p>Updated: Fri Nov 16, 2018</p> 4534b082288b7b2dfc0c3bd8bacbffc2 Brother Is Nasty Bully for 11/15/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/brother-is-nasty-bully Thu, 15 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 12-year-old girl who has a 10-year-old brother. Lately, he has been throwing rocks and stones at me because I "ratted" on him to our parents, and because of that he got into trouble. It's true that I did "rat" on him. I told our parents that I saw him smoking a cigarette, and he got into a lot of trouble. I told my mom and dad about this because I didn't want my brother to start smoking and, also, I thought it was my responsibility to tell my parents. It may sound corny, but I told on him for his own good, because I actually care about him even though it seems he is going through a very tough phase in his life at this time. But unfortunately, things are now worse than ever.</p> <p>Now he is telling his friends to throw rocks and stones at me. Yesterday, walking home from school, I was hit several times by four or five guys, including my brother, who were throwing rocks at me. Whenever one of them would hit me, they would all laugh. <span class="column--highlighted-text">My brother told me that if I "ratted" on him about this, he would do worse things to me. Now I'm really starting to become quite afraid of my brother.</span> Should I tell my parents again this time or hope that these guys will soon get tired of throwing things at me? &#8212; Worried, via email<p>Updated: Thu Nov 15, 2018</p> 220e935ed1db4bedecbede671969b8ff Father Is Making Serious Parenting Error for 11/14/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/father-is-making-serious-parenting-error Wed, 14 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Many times, my mother will give me permission to do something and I'll make plans to do it, but when my dad learns about it, he tells me I can't. For example, last week, I asked my mother if I could go to a matinee movie with my friend this Sunday. She gave me permission and said she'd even drive me there and pick me up afterward. It was going to be a fun day.</p> <p><span class="column--highlighted-text">But on Saturday morning, my dad found out about my plans and said to cancel them because he didn't want me in a theater without adult supervision. My mother came to my aid, but he overruled her.</span> I then had to call my friend and cancel. It really bothered me to do this.<p>Updated: Wed Nov 14, 2018</p> ee183676b6673b3ae6ae22fcfc75bb6d Thanks for the Useful Comments for 11/13/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/thanks-for-the-useful-comments Tue, 13 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: A reader wrote to you saying she was aware of her negative outlook on life but did not know how to stop it. Your advice, as always, was direct and helpful. I wonder if you might allow me to add a bit to it from my own experience.</p> <p>The things we say and think throughout the day sink into our subconscious and affect the way we feel and act ... and the way others feel and act towards us. People with a negative outlook tend to feel depressed and dissatisfied with their lives.<p>Updated: Tue Nov 13, 2018</p> a1e4d96e1e4c9c28d398c505a01007bd It Could Cause a Rift That Never Heals for 11/12/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/it-could-cause-a-rift-that-never-heals Mon, 12 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My cousin was to be married on her birthday, and I was supposed to be one of the bridesmaids. I was told what kind of color of dress to wear. I understood that I had to pay for the dress and didn't have a problem with that, even though my parents are not rich and I don't have any money because I'm in the 11th grade. My parents, with a little help from my grandparents, paid for the dress, which cost $125.</p> <p>Last week, my cousin's mother (my mom's sister) called to say that the wedding has been canceled. It turns out that my cousin has decided she really doesn't love her fiance after all. <span class="column--highlighted-text">Now I'm stuck with a $125 dress I don't want and probably will never wear. I don't like either the color combination (pink and cream) or the style, unfortunately.</span><p>Updated: Mon Nov 12, 2018</p> 220c187b5806615b9c821f0cd8ef5e3d Need I Say More? for 11/10/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/need-i-say-more Sat, 10 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm not involved in the drug scene. I've never taken a drug and never will. I've dated two guys who did drugs. One was doing meth and smoking pot, and another did cocaine and then crack cocaine.</p> <p>The guy who did cocaine occasionally really flipped out when he started smoking crack cocaine. I really cared for this guy, but crack cocaine changed his personality.<p>Updated: Sat Nov 10, 2018</p> 5c15d897fb2e7b98d3577cc544f65f22 Athletes Must Maintain Good Grades for 11/09/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/athletes-must-maintain-good-grades Fri, 09 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm in the 10th grade, and I get super grades in my classes. I'm not quite sure what I want to do when it comes to selecting a good college or university.</p> <p>Last week, I met with my school counselor, and she said I should get involved in extracurricular activities because "elite" colleges and universities prefer students to have been involved with after school events. I wouldn't mind having a bunch of afterschool activities added to my transcript, but I'm not good at sports (I hate them), the only musical instrument I play is a piano and piano players are not part of our school's marching band!<p>Updated: Fri Nov 09, 2018</p> abab9ba623fed324e0d62fe47ffda00b What to Look for as a Parent for 11/08/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/what-to-look-for-as-a-parent Thu, 08 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My wife and I were divorced two years ago, and she gained custody of our then-10-year-old daughter and 14-year-old son.</p> <p>About eight months ago, my son and some of his friends were busted for lighting a fire in a school restroom. My son was expelled for the remainder the school year.<p>Updated: Thu Nov 08, 2018</p> 635324f2e4169dcb94d4216c18350366 Offer Soft Drinks and 'Yummy' Snacks Only for 11/07/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/offer-soft-drinks-and-yummy-snacks-only Wed, 07 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My son and his three good friends are huge sports fans. Almost every Saturday and Sunday, they are glued to my 60-inch television set watching sports. Football, I think, is their favorite because they cheer or boo the loudest during football games, especially when Notre Dame is playing.</p> <p>About a month ago, one of the boys brought over two 6-packs of beer, and all four of them had three beers. Since I'm divorced, I decided that it would be better that my son drink in the house rather than somewhere else.<p>Updated: Wed Nov 07, 2018</p> 1c853130b06c3c9ce290e3ada5a57fdb Don't Contact Her Boyfriend for 11/06/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/dont-contact-her-boyfriend Tue, 06 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: A few months ago, a guy moved into town. My best friend liked him, and they soon became a couple. She and I are very close, and I love her like a sister and know she loves me as much or even more. She spends a lot of time with her boyfriend, so we don't have many chances to be by ourselves. Because of this, she wanted me to hang out with her and her boyfriend. She wanted the three of us to be best friends.</p> <p>I did like this guy, and I thought he liked me as a friend, so I started hanging out as a threesome. For a month we did a lot of things together. We went to the county fair, to the movies and to sporting events, and we all had a good time &#8212; or so I thought.<p>Updated: Tue Nov 06, 2018</p> feb85d3dbf8878d745c16a431bf6396e No Longer Be a Referee for 11/05/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/no-longer-be-a-referee Mon, 05 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My parents fight and argue a lot, and I'm always dragged into their "debate." Both of my parents try to get me to agree with them. For example, my mom will say, "Tell your father he is drinking too much beer," and my dad will say, "All you do is nag, nag, nag. Isn't that true champion nagger."</p> <p>I hate when they fight, and I hate it even more when they ask me to choose sides. Please tell me what to do! &#8212; Anonymous, Tulsa, Oklahoma<p>Updated: Mon Nov 05, 2018</p> 5e8e35bd4a6b6f0aebb6fd7bbd4dd411 I Will Enjoy Being a Social Drinker for 11/03/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/i-will-enjoy-being-a-social-drinker Sat, 03 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Do all people who drink alcohol eventually wind up having drinking problems? I'm 17 and plan to be a lawyer after I finish college and graduate from law school and will then likely enjoy being a "social drinker," because I'm positive I don't want to have a drinking problem. Most professionals share a drink or two after work sometimes with their work colleagues. Heavy drinking already caused my parents to divorce, but I will only have one drink per day. &#8212; Anonymous, via email</p> <p>ANONYMOUS: Be careful. According to a Harvard University study on addiction, 100 million Americans consume alcohol, and an estimated 20 million of them have what could be considered to be drinking problems, which, for your information, is an extremely high percentage. Since alcohol abuse ended your parents' marriage, why would you want to become a "social drinker?" Wouldn't it be more prudent to avoid alcohol at any time?<p>Updated: Sat Nov 03, 2018</p> f20de80d9f7b5108e642d6b6c53eec3b I Promise to Be More Careful for 11/02/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/18/i-promise-to-be-more-careful Fri, 02 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: In one of your answers to a guy in Kansas who was shy and had never been on a date, you said, "some girls in his town are just waiting for someone like you to ask them out."</p> <p>How dare you say that! Maybe girls did that when you were a teen, but not today. If we are not dating, we are with friends, volunteering our services for the betterment of our communities, enjoying a hobby or working out to stay in shape.<p>Updated: Fri Nov 02, 2018</p> 348f9cbc50435bef6cb63efa41af9764 No Magic Waiting Time for 11/01/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/10/18/no-magic-waiting-time Thu, 01 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 19, and my guy is 22. We have been dating for five months, and we want to get married soon because we know that we love each other very much. My parents like him, but they don't want us to get married because they think we haven't known each other long enough. They want us to wait until spring of 2019. My mom and dad do like my boyfriend, but they feel it would be better if we spent time getting to "really" know each other. How long do you think a couple that is "deep" in love should know each other before saying, "I do?" &#8212; Smitten, via email</p> <p>SMITTEN: There's no magic waiting period, though the average is probably about a year. Successful marriages result from both long and short engagements. Basically, the amount of time a couple should wait depends on their level of maturity; the less mature they are, the more likely they might be making an impulsive, ill-considered decision. Marriage will be a great test of one's patience and shouldn't be embarked on for the sake of immediate gratification.<p>Updated: Thu Nov 01, 2018</p> f4b3dbc1bcc014f309a1b518257a4c75 Your Boyfriend Is a Wonderful Guy for 10/31/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/10/18/your-boyfriend-is-a-wonderful-guy Wed, 31 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 and dating a wonderful guy. I'm a Christian, but he worships God in another religion. We have a good time together, but we don't discuss religion. My mother is upset because this boy will not go to church with us. Because he won't attend our church, she considers him to be a heathen and unfit to be dating her daughter. What mom doesn't know is that I'm not marrying this boy; I'm only going out with him. Also, I would not attend his religious services, but his parents are not upset because of this.</p> <p>What can I do to get my mother to understand that this boy is good and decent with high moral values? I think she'd be happy if I went out with a guy from our church even if he was a jerk. Help! &#8212; Anonymous, Evanston, Illinois<p>Updated: Wed Oct 31, 2018</p> 343afadd60962d6fbd3832edea82cc37 Would I Be a Snitch? for 10/30/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/10/18/would-i-be-a-snitch Tue, 30 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Lately, some kids have been lighting fires in the bathrooms at our junior high school. They also light the trash bins on fire. I know who the guys are. Would I be considered a snitch if I told the principal? &#8212; Anonymous, San Diego</p> <p>ANONYMOUS: No, you would be considered a good citizen. Too often, many of us witness crimes and wrongdoings but choose not to "get involved."<p>Updated: Tue Oct 30, 2018</p> 0bc8c2091a49430216f4d15495c11847 A Healthy Perspective for 10/29/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/10/18/a-healthy-perspective Mon, 29 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a "health freak." I eat properly, work out every other day and usually get nine hours of sleep every night. These are things I'm in control of. I would like for you to inform your readers and especially me on how to avoid catching a cold or the flu. Nothing I have done seems to prevent these nasty viruses. Most years, I catch the flu. Can you help? &#8212; Healthy, Santa Fe, New Mexico</p> <p>HEALTHY: This information on avoiding a cold, flu or other infections, comes to me courtesy of the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota. According to this highly regarded health clinic and hospital, a little soap and water used many times per day can prevent what may take loads of time and money to cure.<p>Updated: Mon Oct 29, 2018</p>