'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Wed, 11 Dec 2019 08:56:20 -0800 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 'Tween 12 & 20 from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/tween-12-20-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20 b693a410e68b1c9de5ee52e13875c8e5 Be Gentle With Your Great Friendship for 12/11/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/be-gentle-with-your-great-friendship Wed, 11 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: A girl who sits next to me in my homeroom class is my very best friend. We are closer than sisters. We always go to a movie together on Friday nights and have a snack afterward. I have a boyfriend, and he understands that every Friday is ladies night out.</p> <p>It was my friend's 18th birthday last Friday, and we had made plans to go to a nice restaurant (my treat) for dinner and then go to our movie. I even called the restaurant for a reservation.<p>Updated: Wed Dec 11, 2019</p> 9596f31b7d9b0ed930f44abd524520d2 Your Friend Needs Your Friendship for 12/10/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/your-friend-needs-your-friendship Tue, 10 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: Maria is my best friend. Our family has recently been blessed with some extremely good fortune. Both my mother and father have been promoted at work. The promotions came within two weeks of each other, so our family had one big celebration. Maria was invited and was in attendance. Also, my brother received a letter saying that he had been accepted at Notre Dame University.</p> <p><span class="column--highlighted-text">When I told her about our good fortune, she wasn't excited. Instead, she had to tell me about her family's good luck.</span> She said that her uncle in San Francisco won $25,000 in the lottery, her brother was promoted in the Navy and her cousin was accepted at Yale. All she did was tell me her family had more good fortune than mine. There were no words of congratulations about the achievements of my parents and brother.<p>Updated: Tue Dec 10, 2019</p> 20aa7d8cd6faf59d9e8e997a8faa5771 Have a Chat With a Professional for 12/09/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/have-a-chat-with-a-professional Mon, 09 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I am now 21 and have had this problem for eight years. When I was 13 years old, I would occasionally go into my room and fantasize about being a singer or about being popular. By the time I was a junior in high school, my fantasizing became consistent. I fantasized so much that I slightly lost touch with the real world. I became withdrawn and was walking around as if in a daze. All through college, my instructors noticed that my mind seemed to always be on something else. Well, now that I have successfully graduated from college, I'm still fantasizing.</p> <p>I have decided that I can't and don't want to go on living my life in a fantasy world. The problem is that I have fantasized so much that my mind has become accustomed to it.<p>Updated: Mon Dec 09, 2019</p> 445cdc38fbf3f1c417fe60c34ef33da3 A Tip Is Not a Handout for 12/07/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/a-tip-is-not-a-handout-a1167 Sat, 07 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>DR. WALLACE: I remember reading in your column that you felt waiters and waitresses should be tipped for prompt, efficient and courteous service. You said that excellent food servers should be given a 20% tip, tapering down to 5% for poor service and nothing for really horrible service.</p> <p>I'm a food server at a family restaurant, and I strongly disagree with your tipping philosophy. No matter how poor the service is, a reasonable tip should be left following a meal. You must remember that food servers work very hard for their money, and the majority of them earn minimum wage. Only a fortunate few earn more than minimum wage. That's why tips are necessary.</p> <p>Many people read your column and are influenced by what you write. Please give us food service workers a break. &#8212; Waitress, Austin, Texas<p>Updated: Sat Dec 07, 2019</p> 383e45989bf1d6e1f6c600c2be92fee4 A Cry for Attention for 12/06/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/a-cry-for-attention Fri, 06 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 14, and so is my best friend. We spent a lot of our free time after school and on the weekends at the mall. We have a lot of fun there. We meet other friends and guys we have never seen before. We also try on clothes, and we always get something to eat there, too.</p> <p>This girl is a good friend, and I like her very much. Her family has a lot of money, and they live in a very expensive house on the beach. When we go out shopping together, she always has plenty of spending money. I'm not envious because my parents also do a good job of supporting my three brothers and me, but I don't spend that much at the mall.</p> <p>Last Saturday, my girlfriend and I went to one of the really ritzy malls in Newport Beach. We were planning to shop a little and then look for cute guys. We were also hoping to see a movie star (they shop at this mall sometimes) and then have lunch.<p>Updated: Fri Dec 06, 2019</p> be508ad15148c5f37defd61694b03366 I Want to Adopt a German Shepherd for 12/05/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/i-want-to-adopt-a-german-shepherd Thu, 05 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>DR. WALLACE: I took your advice and went to an animal shelter to find a dog I want, but I have never been able to find one there. I would like a purebred German shepherd, but the lady at the shelter said those are rare. She took my name and phone number and said that she would call me if the dog of my choice showed up for adoption. I don't have much hope, so I guess I'll save my money and buy one from a breeder. I didn't want to do that, but I really want a German shepherd.</p> <p>I still think that finding a pet at a shelter, if possible, is the way to go. &#8212; Dog Lover, Provo, Utah</p> <p>DOG LOVER: Please read the following letter from an animal lover and university student. The information she provides can help you find your pet:<p>Updated: Thu Dec 05, 2019</p> df454a8d9e438a2da5a074b83ff1264d 1 Drink Can Overpower An Alcoholic for 12/04/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/1-drink-can-overpower-an-alcoholic Wed, 04 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm in my fourth year at the University of Wisconsin and will earn my degree in elementary education in late spring.</p> <p>A year ago, I had no thoughts of getting married. My only goal was to graduate and find employment teaching elementary school students.</p> <p>In the past year, I've fallen for a guy who owns a small company in Madison. As long as marriage would not interfere with my goal of becoming a teacher, I am seriously considering marrying him. My only concern is that this fellow is a recovering alcoholic. He has been through therapy and hasn't consumed alcohol in 15 months. He says that he has his life in order and will never touch another drop of alcohol for the rest of his life.<p>Updated: Wed Dec 04, 2019</p> 26dbce6b5c8e32b4af76ee6ef3b53dbd Mom Never Believes I'm Sick for 12/03/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/mom-never-believes-im-sick Tue, 03 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 and have a huge problem with my mother. We live alone.</p> <p>My mother has this hang-up about me being ill. I guess she doesn't believe that I can get sick. I didn't miss a day of school the last school year, but I should have. At least four or five times, I had a splitting headache or a sore throat and my mom made me go to school because, in her words, "You really aren't hurting." Mom doesn't work, so I wouldn't be home alone.</p> <p>I have one and a half more years of high school remaining, and I don't want to win the perfect attendance award just because my mom can't understand that I can be sick enough to stay home once in a while. Please tell me how I can overcome this problem. &#8212; Forced to Show Up No Matter What, via email<p>Updated: Tue Dec 03, 2019</p> 80466cec6a18bd41ac690b1a3708f15a It Will Be a Rare Day for 12/02/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/12/19/it-will-be-a-rare-day Mon, 02 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>DR. WALLACE: You told a girl to dump her boyfriend who was hooked on drugs. That was a lousy thing to say. The only way this guy is going to give up his habit is through his friends and family, with his girlfriend being the most important influence. If the girl took your advice, this poor guy might just continue to throw his life away.</p> <p>I was addicted to cocaine but overcame my addiction with the help and love of my family and friends. In my situation, my boyfriend's love did the trick. Today, I am a registered nurse, married and the mother of two lovely children. &#8212; Been There, via email</p> <p>BEEN THERE: It will be a rare day when I encourage a young lady to continue a relationship with a guy who is addicted to drugs. His family and friends should give the support that he needs, and if a girl wants to be compassionate under those circumstances, I suggest she give support as an ex-girlfriend.<p>Updated: Mon Dec 02, 2019</p> 923fd22934d85f357eae10e3406ee3c4 Tell Romeo the Sex Game Is Over for 11/30/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/tell-romeo-the-sex-game-is-over Sat, 30 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 17 and have been dating a guy for over four months, and we are very sexually active. He uses protection, but sometimes he runs out of them and we have sex anyway. He wants to have sex every time we're together, and that's usually four times a week. Every time we go out, even if it's to a party, we never stay very long because we always wind up in the back seat of his car. I'm told we need to stop this before I accidentally get pregnant, but he says we can't because he is addicted to my love.</p> <p>Whenever I tell him I don't want to have sex, he gets mad and says I should just leave him because I don't love him. I always give in because I really do love him. The other day, I asked him what would happen if I became pregnant, and he said that it would be my problem.<p>Updated: Sat Nov 30, 2019</p> e2500a0d19009620aae8a47e7f562b65 Get My Brother off of My Bed! for 11/29/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/get-my-brother-off-of-my-bed Fri, 29 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 13-year-old boy, and I have to share a room with my 15-year-old brother, who is a total slob. His side of the room is always messy and dirty, while I keep my side neat and tidy. He rarely makes his bed, and I always make mine. What really bugs me is that he gets home from school before I do (I play sports), and instead of lying on his bed to read his magazines and play games on his cellphone, he plops his stinky bones down on my tidy bed! I've told him a million times to stay off my bed, but all he ever says is, "Bug off, gnat!"</p> <p><span class="column--highlighted-text">What can I do to get my total slob of a big brother to stay off my bed?</span> &#8212; Younger Brother, Erie, Pennsylvania<p>Updated: Fri Nov 29, 2019</p> 6b14c4c44921c6d13e918ee2746b038e Accept Grandma's Generous Offer Immediately! for 11/28/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/accept-grandmas-generous-offer-immediately Thu, 28 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm thankful that my parents give me $15 a week for allowance to spend any way I choose. Of course, bad things &#8212; drugs, alcohol and tobacco &#8212; are not an issue. I'm a good kid.</p> <p>I spend all $15 every week. In fact, I could spend more if my parents would give me more.<p>Updated: Thu Nov 28, 2019</p> bf86011e0f9a00ef07b3ae57ce1f6641 Quality Over Quantity With Friends for 11/27/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/quality-over-quantity-with-friends Wed, 27 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My cousin and I attend the same school. We are not real close, but we do talk to each other on campus here and there. Whenever we do talk to each other, all she talks about is how many friends she has. She is trying to convince me that she is popular. She is a "joiner." She is in a ton of clubs and is the president of the pep club. She seeks to hook on to any group that has a specific interest, no matter what her personal level of interest might be. She's truly in it to socialize, not discuss the topic at hand. I'll admit she knows more kids and has more friends than I do, but I have my fair share of friends, too. I just don't brag about it &#8212; and each friend I have is a true, close friend, not an acquaintance I met at some social event.</p> <p>The next time she brings up the subject of "her friends," what can I say to her to make her realize that I've got good friends, but I don't care to brag about it? &#8212; Anonymous, Patterson, New Jersey<p>Updated: Wed Nov 27, 2019</p> e858087652d2ce99e93389bb467a823d Don't Date the Boss's Son! for 11/26/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/dont-date-the-bosss-son Tue, 26 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I graduated from high school this past June and was fortunate enough to find a pretty good full-time job. I work in the office as a typist and receptionist, and I enjoy my work, plus I receive a really good salary for a girl just out of high school.</p> <p>My boss has a son who is working in the office part time as a mail boy about twice a week. He is very outgoing, and we always talk for a few minutes. He is a big flirt, and I enjoy the attention he gives me.<p>Updated: Tue Nov 26, 2019</p> 1b52227b302c96b38e8fa2b2160f65b1 Shocked Parents Wish to Learn and Reconnect for 11/25/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/shocked-parents-wish-to-learn-and-reconnect Mon, 25 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: My husband and I just discovered that our 19-year-old son is gay. We learned this by accident, in the worst possible way, unfortunately. We came home early from church one Sunday morning because my husband was feeling ill, and, to our profound surprise, we found our son and another young man together in a very personal and intimate situation in his bedroom with the door open. They were so focused on each other they apparently never heard us come through the front door. My husband was quite stunned, but fortunately, he was mostly speechless, which was a good thing at that time. I was shocked, but tried to remain cool and even used a relaxed tone of voice when speaking to my son that day. It was the most uncomfortable situation I can recall in my entire life.</p> <p>The following day, our son left home and moved in with this other young man. That was five weeks ago, and in that time, we have not heard from him at all. We've called him, but he does not answer his telephone.<p>Updated: Mon Nov 25, 2019</p> ae31110090d3012f642caa101ca26f4d I Plan to Prove my Music Teacher Wrong for 11/23/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/i-plan-to-prove-my-music-teacher-wrong Sat, 23 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 17 and play the violin very well, but I really want to play the piano because I would like to earn my living by being a concert pianist someday.</p> <p>My parents agreed that I should give it a try, so I found an excellent piano teacher to help me reach my goal. I've been taking lessons for about a month, and I thought I was doing quite well. I told my teacher that my goal was to be a concert pianist. She just smiled and said that it was a lofty goal, but it would be almost impossible for me to reach since most virtuosos start at age 12 or younger! <span class="column--highlighted-text">She said I will learn to be a good player, but because I'm starting so late, it's unlikely I'll become exceptional at this new instrument.</span><p>Updated: Sat Nov 23, 2019</p> 2c6979e98c0f3f0a7c5f60d67c3b47f8 Discuss Carefully With Your Parents for 11/22/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/discuss-carefully-with-your-parents Fri, 22 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm attending an all-girls private Catholic high school because my parents are trying to shield me from all the "evils" of teen life. I am in the middle of my sophomore year, and I want to convince my parents to let me return to the public high school that I attended in ninth grade. I'm a good student at this school in terms of my academics, but I was also an excellent student at my public school last year. The main difference is I had a few really good girlfriends at school last year, and they are the responsible, logical kids that most parents would approve of.</p> <p>Many of the girls at this private school are snobs and think that they are better than the rest of us. When it comes to smoking, drinking, doing drugs and having sex, private school girls are just as involved, or even more involved, as girls I knew in the public high school. Don't forget that even though guys are not at our school, the girls see young guys (and some not so young guys!) in the evenings and on weekends. Another reason to return to public school is that it is costing my parents a lot to send me to this dorky private school. I've tried to make friends here, but the closest I've ever gotten was an eye roll, a deep sigh and the sound of shoes walking away from me. &#8212; Not Fitting In, Cambridge, Massachusetts<p>Updated: Fri Nov 22, 2019</p> 10a6fe26430c32fa430e566fa1fca608 Stick With Your Choice for 11/21/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/stick-with-your-choice Thu, 21 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm in a most unusual situation. My parents divorced five years ago, when I was nine. My mother moved to Germany, where she was born, and my dad gained full custody of me. A year later, my dad remarried and I gained a new stepmother. I really liked her, so my stepmother talked my dad into letting her legally adopt me. Then, if something happened to my dad, she would have full legal custody of me, and my birth mother could not enter the picture.</p> <p>Well, now it turns out that my dad and my stepmother are getting a divorce! I want to stay with my stepmother, and she wants me. My dad said that it would be my choice and that I'm old enough, at 14, to make a good decision. He said that he hoped I'd go with him, but if not, he would still play a big role in my life. I've decided I'm going to stay with my stepmother. She was more of a mother to me than my birth mother.<p>Updated: Thu Nov 21, 2019</p> c2f52688bc6df7b7c6308e334876c974 Wonderful Teens Do Exist! for 11/20/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/wonderful-teens-do-exist Wed, 20 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm a 75-year-old grandmother who fell and broke my hip two months ago. After being released from the hospital five weeks ago, I was wondering how my 77-year-old husband was going to take care of me. He has a hard time cooking. He can't even boil water.</p> <p>The problem was solved even before it started. My two granddaughters, Susan, 16, and Erin, 15, volunteered their services until I could get back up on my feet.<p>Updated: Wed Nov 20, 2019</p> eb6a71964fb2d96b66aa95d087e4ced9 No Need for You to Carry Protection for 11/19/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/tween-12-and-20/11/19/no-need-for-you-to-carry-protection Tue, 19 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>DR. WALLACE: I'm 16 and dating for the first time. Naturally, I'm a virgin and plan on keeping it that way until I get married. I'm positive of this.</p> <p>My best friend gave me a condom yesterday. She told me to take it with me every time I go out with a guy, just in case. It's the first time I've ever seen a condom, but I took it and put it in my school locker. My friend told me she "never leaves home without one" when she goes out with a guy. She, too, says she's a virgin and plans to remain that way for a while, but she wants to be safe rather than sorry in case she gives in to a guy during one of her weak moments.<p>Updated: Tue Nov 19, 2019</p>