Some Lost Loves Should Stay That Way

By Cheryl Lavin

October 28, 2017 4 min read

You know the conmen you see on "Dateline"? One of them might be married to your sister.

Elise and Jordan dated all through high school. Shortly after graduation, Jordan bought Elise a ring. His mother told him to get it back because there were "better" girls. Elise found out and dumped Jordan. She met Rick, and they married in January 1966. They were a devoted couple with two wonderful sons. But shortly after Rick retired, he developed lung cancer.

Elise wrote a blog. In it, she talked about Rick's battle with lung cancer. She hadn't heard from Jordan in decades, but he'd been keeping track of her. He contacted her, and they stayed in touch through Rick's long and losing battle. Jordan was a counselor, and he offered his services.

Rick died in November. In February, Elise and Jordan got engaged! Jordan moved from Oregon to Wisconsin to live with her. He didn't seem to own anything, just some books and a computer.

Elise's sister, Jana, says that from the day Jordan moved in, "Everything was different."

He told Elise she didn't need to probate Rick's will, so everything Rick had left to his sons and grandchildren went to her. In fact, his sons never saw a copy of their father's will. Jordan even asked their youngest son to return the garage door opener he'd had for 10 years.

Elise was never left alone with family or friends. Even her phone calls were monitored. They traveled a lot to visit Jordan's family but spent very little with Elise's. She even missed her oldest grandson's graduation.

"Suddenly," says Jana, "Jordan was unemployed." He had no benefits or income. The wedding was pushed up so that Jordan could be on Elise's medical insurance. At the wedding, Elise's son discovered that his mother was Jordan's seventh wife!

A few months after the wedding, Jordan and Elise once again flew west to visit his family. Elise got very sick. She was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. During surgery, the doctors discovered that the situation was much worse than they'd first thought. Elise's sons and sister begged Jordan to bring her home so they could be with her in her final days. He refused.

"All we could do was pray," Jana says.

Elise died in January. Her memorial service was held in February without her ashes present. Jordan swore they weren't available. He told Elise's sons that their mother's house and everything in it belonged to him. And it did. The day before Elise flew to California, she signed a new will that left everything to Jordan!

Jana says: "Do the math. After seven months of marriage she left him everything! He never gave the boys as much as a photograph of their mother. He sold every one of their father's possessions that had any value. A neighbor found their father's bible in the trash. He took every item from both sides of the family, things that went back generations. They're all gone, taken by a man who was married to my sister for less than a year!

"Some lost loves need to stay lost! Forever!"

Have you been involved with a conman or conwoman? Send your tale, along with your questions and problems to [email protected] And check out my e-books, "Dear Cheryl: Advice from Tales from the Front" and "I'll Call You. Not.

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