Your responses regarding my advice to Trapped continue to pour in. She was the 42-year-old woman married to a 58-year-old man who can no longer have sex. She loves him and would never divorce him, but sometimes she wishes he were dead so she could find another sexual partner. I gave her my advice. Here's yours.

NINA: You advised Trapped to have a "discreet" relationship, which is an oxymoron. If she's going to cheat she needs to tell her husband and let him decide whether or not he'll stay in the marriage.

DWIGHT: The solution for Trapped might be male escorts. She could have sex on demand, and it would be a business deal, so she wouldn't have to worry about getting emotionally involved.

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT: May I suggest masturbation? It's safe, healthy and convenient. She can explore her body and discover sensations that she may have never experienced before.

LANCE: Shame on you for advising Trapped to have an affair. I was single for over 30 years before I met and married my husband, and believe me, you can live a celibate life.

I'll say a prayer for both of you.

JAIMIE: Of all the stupid, arrogant, ridiculous advice I've seen you offer in the past, this one takes the cake. I never thought you could sink that low.

DENISE: This country's morals are deteriorating, and it needs to stop. Condoning the act of adultery only contributes to the downfall of our society. Use the power of your column to encourage people to do what is right, not to do what is wrong.

HARRY: I'm a male of age 50. Trapped sounds like a wonderful woman who's deeply in love with her husband, but is perplexed. She has needs. If I were her husband I would encourage her to find another way to satisfy her needs.

The problem with this is potentially becoming emotional involved with someone else. There are big risks, but sexual needs are very real. If a person is willing to go without it and can go without it, fine. Reality, however, usually points in another direction. I — while slightly cringing — agree with your advice.

KEITH: I think you might be getting quite a number of responses from guys offering to help Trapped out — thinking they might get lucky and have a nice time. If that turns out to be true, shame on us! Your advice might work, but it's wrought with pitfalls. I don't think sex without love is going to satisfy Trapped. On the other hand, if love is involved, people will get hurt — first her husband, then her. By the way, I'm also trapped.

YALE: I think it's grossly unfair for society to place the uncooperative spouse in a sympathetic position, while putting the person who has tried everything to make the marriage work, but finally gave up in an unsympathetic position.

ABBIE: Trapped doesn't need to have an affair. She can reconnect with her husband and find intimacy in ways that don't involve sex. She can spend more time touching him, cuddling, etc. In addition, she could buy a good vibrator to help her achieve orgasm. It's not an ideal solution, but it beats an affair.

Do you have any advice for Trapped?

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