Dear Annie: I have been married to my husband for six years. A few months after the wedding, I found out he was cheating on me. I saw his cellphone while he was sleeping and noticed the messages and phone calls. He had been meeting girls from dating sites, talking to them and exchanging photographs. He also wouldn't come home till 3 or 4 a.m.
I called one of the girls and told her I am his wife and she should stop talking to him. That's when she told me she was pregnant with his child. I confronted my husband, who said the woman was lying. He also apologized and promised to stop cheating.
Several weeks later, he was again out until after midnight. He texted that he was coming home, but I tripped and hurt my ankle. I called several times and left messages, but it took an hour until he texted that he was on his way.
We have tried to work things out, but I feel that he doesn't want me anymore, or that he only wants me for a place to live and money in the bank. When he touches me, it doesn't feel genuine.
I recently found out that he has been on dating sites again, possibly meeting up with these women when he claims to be out fishing. When I asked him about it, he said, "I haven't done anything. I just ask for photographs to see how far they will go."
Do you think he really wants me? Should I keep trying to work it out with him? I am scared that he is just going to keep hurting me. — Alabama
Dear Alabama: We can guarantee he will keep hurting you, because he doesn't see that he's doing anything wrong and has no interest in changing his behavior, no matter how much it upsets you. Please get some counseling on your own to decide what you are willing to tolerate and to determine your next step.
Dear Annie: I was disappointed in your response to "To Tip or Not To Tip," saying that wedding DJs and photographers who own their own businesses don't expect to be tipped. That is not true.
I am married to a man who has been a DJ for 40 years. He has many extra expenses. A week before the wedding, they make sure all the music is in order, and they do a lot of recording and cover the expenses associated with that. They arrive at least an hour before the wedding to get everything set up and run the whole wedding reception to keep things on time. The guests probably won't remember your decorations or the food, but if they don't like the DJ, they will go home.
When you tip your DJ, it tells him he did a good job and you are pleased with his work. It's no different from tipping a beautician who owns her own shop. She still expects a tip. — Omaha DJ's Wife
Dear Omaha: We understand that you want to support your husband, but those who own their businesses (including beauticians) should not expect tips when performing services. The fact that some people choose to tip anyway is fine and undoubtedly appreciated, but it is not required.
Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Frustrated in North Carolina," whose mother-in-law doesn't understand boundaries.
When my brother married decades ago, they lived not far from our parents. Every now and then, our parents would stop by unannounced and just walk in. One day they found the young couple was not, shall we say, dressed for company. It was the last time our parents ever did that. — Always Some Humor Somewhere
This Classic Annie's Mailbox column was originally published in 2014. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at www.creators.com.