Dear Annie: I am a widow in my 80s. I recently was introduced to a widower who seemed friendly and had a good sense of humor. He asked me out for dinner and the conversation went well. But when he took me home, he kissed me and grabbed my breast. I was absolutely not expecting this from a supposedly "nice" guy, and especially not on a first date. What on earth would he expect on a second date?
At my age, I am not looking for a romantic or physical relationship. I should have slapped his face for being so forward, or at least let him know it was not appropriate.
This man has called several times since then, but I will not answer the phone because I don't know how to tell him that I don't want to accompany him anywhere ever again. I have many widowed lady friends, and we get together often for lunches, movies, etc., and I am perfectly happy with that. I don't need to feel uncomfortable in the presence of a man who can't keep his hands to himself. How can I get him to stop calling me? — Lonely, Not Lusting
Dear Lonely: Please be honest with this lothario. Tell him you were highly offended by his vulgar display at the end of your date, and you are not interested in seeing him again. Add that you are not looking for a physical relationship and he would be better off with someone who is. We suggest you write these words down, practice saying them, and then read them to Mr. Inappropriate when he next calls so you don't stumble or become flustered. He deserves to know the truth, and you deserve to be left in peace.
Dear Annie: Would you clarify the difference between hoarding and being a filthy pig housekeeper?
Hoarding, to me, is filling your home with stuff that you cannot part with. It has nothing to do with keeping a house clean. After getting a few glimpses of hoarders on TV, I don't understand how this can be called "entertainment." Who would allow their home to be filmed for all the world to see? I believe these scenes are staged. This sick curiosity, spoon-fed by the networks, is but another example of society's downslide. Any comment? — Disgusted with Programming
Dear Disgusted: Hoarding is a form of mental illness, and we agree that it should not be displayed for public amusement. Nonetheless, as long as people watch these programs and advertisers pay to promote their products on them, they will continue. The upside is, such programs bring awareness to the public and, in most instances, these homes are professionally cleaned and the inhabitants receive therapy. It is not filmed without their agreement. While some scenes may be staged, we can assure you that hoarders actually do live like this. It's terribly sad.
Annie's Snippet for Patriot Day (Credit Sandy Dahl, wife of Flight 93 pilot Jason Dahl at a speech in Shanksville, Pennsylvania.) "If we learn nothing else from this tragedy, we learn that life is short and there is no time for hate."
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