Dear Annie: I am 53 years old and have been with my boyfriend for four years. The first year was awesome. We would hug and kiss hello and goodbye, and often say "I love you."
Now? Nothing. We don't touch at all. I am so unhappy. We have sex once a month and only when he wants it. During sex, there is no kissing or embracing. When I talk to him about this, he becomes angry and says I live in a fantasy world and have unrealistic expectations. He says he is not going to crawl all over me. He then says he loves me very much.
It's not that I want sex all the time, but a little affection would be nice. Other than this, things are good. We get along well and support each other. I just wish it could be like our first year. I don't want to start all over with someone else, but lately I'm asking myself, "Should I stay or should I go?" — Ursula
Dear Ursula: Embracing and kissing during lovemaking is normal. Please ask your boyfriend to see his doctor to check out any hormonal problems that could possibly be resolved. If he refuses to go and will not discuss it with you, you must decide how important physical affection is, because he isn't likely to provide it.
Dear Annie: I was born in the middle of the baby boom generation. My dad was a Pearl Harbor veteran. There were hundreds of heroic acts performed that day, and one of them involved a friend of my father's, whose destroyer took a direct hit. Even with severe injuries, he lowered himself into the harbor and dog-paddled out to keep an unconscious seaman alive until help could reach them.
That day, my dad decided that if he had a son, he would name him after this friend, whose name was Richard. The common nickname is "Dick," which brings me to the reason for this letter.
Seventy-five years ago, Dick was a common name, but not so much today. For years, I have put up with people making lewd comments about my name. At 6-foot-3, I can get in anyone's face if I choose, and that usually ends the matter. But I don't want to do that. Instead, I'd appreciate it if you could provide a concise response that leaves little room for additional interaction with marginally literate people. — Richard
Dear Richard: We are not miracle workers. The Beavis and Butt-Heads of the world will continue to snicker at your nickname because they never matured past adolescence. We favor the world-weary sigh, along with ignoring them. An eye roll is optional. You also could introduce yourself as "Rick" or "Rich," both common nicknames for Richard that will elicit fewer asinine reactions. But we will open the floor to our readers, who are sure to come up with a greater variety of responses. (Please keep them printable, folks.)
Dear Annie: You recently printed a letter from "Wish We Knew," and in your response, you mentioned symptoms of Parkinson's disease. Sometimes those same symptoms can indicate other conditions.
My 83-year-old mother started twitching, shaking, feeling nervous, having trouble sleeping and becoming dizzy. When her ankles began to swell from fluid buildup, she was finally diagnosed with a very high CO2 level. She had been on oxygen for years, and even her lung doctor missed the signs, including rapid breathing. He thought she needed more oxygen, but in fact, the problem was too much. The only way to test for a buildup of carbon dioxide is with a special blood gas test. This is a treatable condition.
Anyone with these symptoms, especially those on oxygen, should ask their doctor not only about Parkinson's, but also about CO2 levels. — Joan in Louisiana
This Classic Annie's Mailbox column was originally published in 2015. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at www.creators.com.