Grease her hips and throw in a Twinkie.

Fat women are about the last group that it's OK to make fun of.

As in: Q: What do Roseanne Barr and a battleship have in common?

A: They both need three tugs to get into their slips.

I searched the Internet to find any jokes about Roseanne's TV costar John Goodman. I couldn't find any. And he's way fatter than she is.

Here are your thoughts:

LOUISA: Obesity is the best sign of all that something is terribly wrong. You're eating all the wrong foods and too much of them while still not getting the nutrition your body needs. It starts when you think driving through McDonald's is the same as having a meal.

It's fat, sugar, salt, sawdust, mystery "meat" and all kinds of chemicals designed to appeal as addictively as possible to your taste buds while providing the cheapest possible ingredients.

And it's not really better if you pick up a frozen lasagna and stick it in the oven. I believe that heavily processed food and fast food is crap and that people are misled into an attachment to it that leads to horrible outcomes. It's especially tragic when it happens to children.

People come in all shapes and sizes, yes. But if you're 200 pounds and not 6 feet tall, then you are not feeding yourself well.

When it comes to food, you're doing it wrong. The good news is that you can wise up.

JENNIFER: Some heavy people eat junk food and believe the McDonald's drive-through is a good place to get a meal, but there are plenty of thin people who eat very poorly, and there are heavy people, like me, who eat whole foods, six to 10 servings of fruits and veggies a day, high-quality protein, healthy fats, no soda, very few desserts or starches, and still retain fat.

Oh, and I exercise 60 to 90 minutes a day. And my resting heart rate is under 60.

The attitude that fat people are fat only because they don't know better than to eat at McDonald's is as patronizing as the attitudes of people who assume that fat = lazy or fat = sloppy. Sometimes fat is just fat.

LISA: I feel that people who are overweight suffer from an over-eating addiction similar to alcoholism, bulimia, anorexia, illicit drugs, spending money, hoarding and gambling. These addictions defy logic, and although people may be intelligent in most areas of their lives, for some reason the power of the addiction is stronger than their ability to control it.

Outsiders who do not suffer from the same addiction have a difficult time understanding, hence the hurtful comments, which are sometimes meant with good intentions.

Have you struggled with your weight and/or eating disorders? How has it affected your relationships? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to [email protected]. And check out my new website askcheryl.net.

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