Tales From the Front from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Mon, 18 Jun 2018 07:45:39 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Tales From the Front from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/tales-from-the-front-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front 60d66b25bae2d3ec32b23a6b5862f1d6 A Brazen Question and an Even More Brazen Answer for 06/17/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/a-brazen-question-and-an-even-more-brazen-answer Sun, 17 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>When Matt wrote a few years ago, he was single and planning to try his luck with a dating service. I asked him to let me know how it went. He says, "I've got little to report except meeting several pleasant women at a few okay restaurants. I wonder now why I spent so many hours reading hundreds of profiles, many of which sounded the same. 'I enjoy walks on the beach at sunset,' etc."</p> <p>But late last year, he says: "Love blossomed &#8212; not infatuation, not love at first sight, but the warmest, happiest, most intimate relationship I've ever experienced."<p>Updated: Sun Jun 17, 2018</p> 6f48988133ec868983216657e953531d If Only He'd Listened to Ronald Reagan for 06/16/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/if-only-hed-listened-to-ronald-reagan Sat, 16 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>President Ronald Reagan famously said, "Trust, but verify." If only Blake has listened to him.</p> <p>When Blake wrote in before, it was about a younger woman to whom he was attracted. She wouldn't date him because he told her he was "done having kids" and she was determined to marry and have kids by age 30.<p>Updated: Sat Jun 16, 2018</p> 00609ecb8a5a9201cbcaa175ca637159 Denial: It's a Way of Life for 06/15/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/denial-its-a-way-of-life Fri, 15 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Denial is so much more than a river in Egypt. It's a way of life for many people. Take Larry, for example. He met Nancy when she was 19 and he was 25.</p> <p>"She was the love of my life," he says.</p> <p>They got married and had three children, a daughter 30, a son 25, another son, 15.<p>Updated: Fri Jun 15, 2018</p> 291b92698c18f7ec4b3433d008b8e9b1 Sometimes You Just Have to Bite the Bullet for 06/10/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/sometimes-you-just-have-to-bite-the-bullet Sun, 10 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Sticky situation of the month: How do you tell your boyfriend or your girlfriend that you once had an affair with a married man or woman?</p> <p>Sienna, you will recall, had an affair with a married man. It started while she was married. It wasn't a one-night stand or an out-of-town work thing. It was a flown-blown affair. Three months into it, Sienna's conscience got the best of her and she asked her husband for a divorce. It was friendly, and she continued the affair.<p>Updated: Sun Jun 10, 2018</p> 9843ac542e9f50706108ca7a8e91d88b Getting It Right the Second Time for 06/09/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/getting-it-right-the-second-time Sat, 09 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>The world isn't divided into good people and bad people. There's actually a very thin membrane separating the two groups, and most of us move back and forth once, maybe more than once, in our lives. We do things we're not proud of. But, if we're lucky, we get a second chance.</p> <p><span class="column--highlighted-text">Sienna had been married for six short months when she had a terrible realization: She should never have gotten married.</span><p>Updated: Sat Jun 09, 2018</p> 81b5ff2b23d0ae53ca960597e31d9707 Making the Best of a Bad Situation for 06/08/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/making-the-best-of-a-bad-situation Fri, 08 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Kevin says he and his wife did not have sex on their wedding night yet he remained faithful to her for 25 years: "During all that time, I hoped that someday this would change, but it never did. I would have loved it if she wanted to be a sexual partner. When we were first married she had a perfect body and I tried to remind her of it, but her body was never good enough for her. She still doesn't like the way she looks. She hates mirrors. Her bathing suit is a rather large one."</p> <p>The only time Kevin and Taylor actually did have sex was "briefly when she decided she wanted to have a child," he says. "When the stick indicated she was ovulating, we would have sex once to get rid of the old sperm then once again to try to fertilize her. When she didn't get pregnant, we adopted and she moved into another room with my son."<p>Updated: Fri Jun 08, 2018</p> b9d82f4ccc916ff0812193e953f8118d Doing the Right Thing Is Rarely Easy for 06/03/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/doing-the-right-thing-is-rarely-easy Sun, 03 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Cheryl: My girlfriend and I are both in our late 40s and having been living together for five years. We're both divorced. I get along very well with my ex-wife and my children. My girlfriend had a very bitter divorce. Her ex-husband was cheating on her. The children knew about it and sided with my girlfriend over their father. Even though they've been divorced for 10 years, the children have never forgiven him. Their relationship with him is polite at best. They see him once, maybe twice a year, and it never goes well.</p> <p>He has recently been diagnosed with early-stage Alzheimer's. He has reached out to his children for help in dealing with it. He has no other family and not many friends. The kids have told him that they can't be bothered with him. They said he wasn't much of a father to them and they don't owe him anything.<p>Updated: Sun Jun 03, 2018</p> c08ee72de88bb36bbe73134b4acdc1f5 The Affair: Better as a TV Show for 06/02/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/the-affair-better-as-a-tv-show Sat, 02 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>If people didn't cheat on their partners, there'd be far fewer TV shows and movies. It would all be dinosaurs and "Star Wars." There's even a series called "The Affair" devoted to cheating and its aftermath. <span class="column--highlighted-text">Here are two women who know infidelity up close and personal.</span> </p> <p>DESIREE: I'm in my teens, and I'm part of a family that was damaged by my mom's infidelity when I was just 2 years old. My dad was entirely faithful, and moreover, he did nothing to cause the affair. He wasn't a workaholic, and he didn't abuse my mom physically or emotionally, not even when he followed her to a motel and walked in on her with her partner in bed.<p>Updated: Sat Jun 02, 2018</p> 9aedea4dd6a8c2283b2311091f264c81 Wait! What Century Is This? for 06/01/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/06/18/wait-what-century-is-this Fri, 01 Jun 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>It's so rare anyone says anything nice about adultery. So today we hear from Claire and Nora, who make the case.</p> <p>CLAIRE: Marriage and a serious career for a woman don't mix because men want a woman who's always available and willing to serve and pamper them. I know. I've had and still have married lovers whose wives work.<p>Updated: Fri Jun 01, 2018</p> 65e1e5924dbf63d5ffa4ad1e2c480acd What's a Smart Smokin' Woman to Do? for 05/27/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/whats-a-smart-smokin-woman-to-do Sun, 27 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Today we hear from Dakota and Rachel. Dakota has taken herself off the market, and Rachel would like to take her husband to the woodshed.</p> <p>DAKOTA: I'm 44. I have a master's degree, and I'm completing my doctorate degree in educational technology. I've been told I'm "gorgeous" by older men and "smokin'" by younger ones. Yet I've had every single horrendous experience you can imagine and then some! I've never married, but I was stood up at the altar twice and have had a myriad of loser dates since.<p>Updated: Sun May 27, 2018</p> 74f9b3ca3863a3be6fd829728f10832a For Better or Worse, for Richer or Poorer, Etc., Etc. for 05/26/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/for-better-or-worse-for-richer-or-poorer-etc-etc Sat, 26 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>It may be time to rewrite the wedding vows. Maybe they should say, "For better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, whether we have hot monkey sex every night or no sex at all, till death us do part." People are getting married thinking they're going to get the better, the richer, the healthier and the monkey sex, and then they become very disappointed. </p> <p>Case in point: Meryl and her boyfriend Allen. <p>Updated: Sat May 26, 2018</p> afdb0bcac96ad18d8215f9e94cbdb8d5 What We Learn from Our Parents and Have to Unlearn for 05/25/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/what-we-learn-from-our-parents-and-have-to-unlearn Fri, 25 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Along with playing patty-cake, tying our shoes and drinking from a cup, our parents teach us something else &#8212; something far more important. They teach us what marriage is all about.</p> <p>SHARON: I honestly believed no husbands and wives love each other, and that marriage is something a woman has to do and a husband is something she has to get, and the sooner, the better.<p>Updated: Fri May 25, 2018</p> e7d79ebb0e17104ae6a2c4f65f37828c The Best Advice Comes from You for 05/13/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/the-best-advice-comes-from-you Sun, 13 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>The best advice comes not from the experts, whether they be Dr. Phil, Dr. Seuss or even me (well, sometimes me), but from you. Today you share what you've learned &#8212; the hard way.</p> <p>ERIN: <span class="column--highlighted-text">I tell my friends and my children that you essentially have two choices in life. You can be right, or you can be happy. </span>If you come to a crossroad about an issue, you need to decide how hard you want to fight for your point. Often the matter is not that important, and you can concede, and both you and your partner will be happy. Sometimes the matter is a hill to die on and you need to choose to be right. Your partner might not be happy, but if you both follow this strategy, things tend to balance out, and no one is unhappy for very long or very often.<p>Updated: Sun May 13, 2018</p> fd37b59c2fa1c39572eca17dae75326a 'Will and Grace' Makes a Better Sitcom Than a Reality Show for 05/12/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/will-and-grace-makes-a-better-sitcom-than-a-reality-show Sat, 12 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>We recently heard from Karen/Grace who was thinking of marrying her gay friend if things didn't work out with her "one true love" by the end of the summer. I told her that before she does, there are a lot of things to consider, like kids, sex, property, families and falling in love. </p> <p>Here are your thoughts:<p>Updated: Sat May 12, 2018</p> 2b9fa0455bb170274dbe70fa4da0e210 Can You Have a Happy Marriage Without Sex? for 05/11/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/can-you-have-a-happy-marriage-without-sex Fri, 11 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>We all know you can have great sex without marriage, but can you have a great marriage without sex?</p> <p>NICK: We recently heard from a woman who said her husband doesn't bother to be intimate unless he's in the mood. I don't envy her situation. It's difficult when you feel like everything has to be on your partner's terms or schedule. It really helps when you make a gentle hint and your partner picks up on it and playfully, lovingly keeps the ball rolling. <p>Updated: Fri May 11, 2018</p> 8f6e9e869bb7df596d5f31f799169948 50 Shades of Humiliation for 05/06/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/50-shades-of-humiliation Sun, 06 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Cheryl: I just found out that my husband of 15 years sent a gift card to a dominatrix as a down payment on a personal training session. I am leaving with our two kids for a trip outside the country to visit my family. He intended to meet this female dominatrix while I was gone. </p> <p>I saw the charge for the gift card on our credit card statement. When I asked him about it, he told me that it was nothing. Finally, he admitted that he intended to meet this person in Chicago. He also admitted that before he met me, he had three other private sessions. I knew nothing about them. <p>Updated: Sun May 06, 2018</p> 605781d91587a27a953632cf386ea5c9 Relationships Gone Awry for 05/05/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/relationships-gone-awry-820b0 Sat, 05 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Cheryl: We started out as friends, but we soon became more than friends and moved in together. He had never really had a serious relationship before me, and he had never had sex. Well, it's one year later, and we still haven't had sex. I admit there have been issues in the way, but not even making out? Not even sitting cuddled up on the couch watching a movie? So I gave him an ultimatum: Either we have sex by the end of the month or I end the relationship. Well, it's almost the end of the month, and he asked for more time. He said it wasn't easy for him to change his way of thinking. After all, for many years he thought that he would be alone for the rest of his life. </p> <p>So I gave him another month. Nothing has changed since we talked, and I feel that nothing is going to change. In a couple of months I'll be out of here and getting on with my life. I'm not a young person, and neither is he. <p>Updated: Sat May 05, 2018</p> 8fa9e6c9f5fca04e91dbe49286674d52 Not Like in the Movies for 05/04/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/05/18/not-like-in-the-movies-a600c Fri, 04 May 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>We all know how the stories about old lovers reuniting are supposed to end. The couple, separated by years and miles &#8212; and maybe a spouse or two &#8212; come together and wham! The years and the miles (and the spouses) magically disappear. The connection is immediate, and the lovers pick up where they left off. </p> <p>Not so fast ... <p>Updated: Fri May 04, 2018</p> 76ee4fb711a476343c6cac9098686d31 Time to Hitch up the Big-Boy Pants for 04/29/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/04/18/time-to-hitch-up-the-big-boy-pants Sun, 29 Apr 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Dear Cheryl: You told the virgin that if she was to experience sex either in love or not in love that she first needed to meet men. You suggested places for her to do that &#8212; the gym, coffee shops, political rallies, etc., etc., etc. I frequent those places you suggested, and many more. My question is, where does a man go to meet women? &#8212; I'm Here; Where Are They?</p> <p>Dear I'm Here; Where Are They?: I should have been more specific. Just going to the right places isn't enough. You have to put yourself out there. If you're sitting at a coffee shop next to a woman who looks interesting, catch her eye. Smile. Say hello.<p>Updated: Sun Apr 29, 2018</p> 7ab92e5db86a733dd245fd7f58704a52 Is This It? for 04/28/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/tales-from-the-front/04/18/is-this-it Sat, 28 Apr 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Today's column asks the burning question: <span class="column--highlighted-text">What's a date anyway?</span></p> <p>LAURA: Those of us who came of age in the late '70s remember that sex on a first date was the norm, not the exception. There were only a few STDs, not the dozens there are now. AIDS and HIV were years away. No one had begun to preach abstinence, and no one practiced it. There was a more relaxed view of sex and the power of the sexual revolution.<p>Updated: Sat Apr 28, 2018</p>