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Unconditional Love
It's that Mother's Day-Father's Day time of the year, so today we salute one of each who got it right.
PAM: We struggled with infertility. I was afraid to adopt because I was afraid the biological parent would take the baby away. There was a big …Read more.
Did You Hear the One About How to Get a Fat Woman Into an Elevator?
Grease her hips and throw in a Twinkie.
Fat women are about the last group that it's OK to make fun of.
As in: Q: What do Roseanne Barr and a battleship have in common?
A: They both need three tugs to get into their slips.
I searched the Internet to …Read more.
Big Can Be Beautiful
Last week we heard from Roberta. She's been fat all her life. At her heaviest, she was clinically obese at 465 pounds. Through a gastric bypass, she got down to 180 pounds. She's now about 250.
But no matter her weight, Roberta always had plenty of …Read more.
I'm Fat, but You're Ugly and I Can Diet
Fat is a four-letter word.
People who wouldn't dream of making fun of a homosexual, who would die before pointing out a person with a disability, people who consider themselves post-racist, tolerant, all-embracing, evolved and benevolent somehow …Read more.
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This ATM Is Outta CashWe recently heard from CONFUSED IN COLORADO who was living with her twice-divorced boyfriend. He was 51; she was 44. He told her his first wife cheated, and he and his second wife "grew apart." They have sex about once a week. Five months ago, he started spending a lot of time online. She was suspicious and checked his browsing history. He'd been looking at sex webcams daily and checking out lesbian personal ads on craigslist, along with an ad for a woman seeking a man and an ad for a marriage counselor. She also checked his Facebook account and found archived messages from a woman he used to work with. The messages made it clear that they had had webcam sex while he was married to his second wife. CinC was heartsick because he was the love of her life. She asked my advice. I told her love of her life or not, he was a liar and a cheat and some would consider him a pervert. I said cyber cheating was still cheating and advised her to confront him with her evidence. I warned her that she had to be prepared to break up with him if he wasn't willing to admit that he's addicted to porn and ready to get immediate help. I wrote, "It may sound harsh, but better to end it now than waste any more time on something that will only cause you heartache." CinC is back to say, "Thank you. I broke it off with him two nights ago and started moving out last night." Dear Cheryl, I'm 46 with two grown children.
At the time, she was a travel agent. When she decided she wasn't satisfied being a travel agent and wanted to be a Spanish teacher, I told her to quit her job so she could go to college full-time. It was a sacrifice on my part, but I was willing to do it so she could get her degree faster. She graduated, but guess what? She decided she didn't want to be a Spanish teacher after all, so now we're strapped with $40,000 worth of tuition bills, a second mortgage that we took out to buy her a car, etc. She refuses to tutor or do anything with the three languages that she speaks — Spanish, Italian and English. She also won't go back to the travel industry. I'm bitter and resentful. I've suggested counseling, but she says we don't need it. Some days I think I need to move on and let her figure it out on her own. —FEELING USED Dear FEELING USED, The reason you're feeling used is because you were used. You and your wife had a deal and she broke it. And to make matters worse, she doesn't think she even needs to give you an explanation. You have some options. You can accept her for what she is — an untrustworthy user, liar and freeloader — and accept the fact that you will have to pay all the bills from here on out. Or you can insist that she accompany you to therapy. If she says no, you can go yourself. Or you can cut your losses right now. It doesn't sound like she wants to be your partner. She much prefers being your dependent. Got a problem? Or a question? Send it to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. Check out my new website askcheryl.net. COPYRIGHT 2013 CREATORS.COM 
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