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Two Turkeys at This Thanksgiving


Nobody should be alone on Thanksgiving. Everyone should be sitting at some dining room table, passing stuffing, eating turkey, asking for seconds. At least that's the way Cam felt about the holiday. So, when he met Ginger, an absolute stunner, a total knockout with nowhere to go, he decided to bring her home.

He had met her only a week before, at a party. As they talked, he discovered that she had no family in the area. She said she'd love to spend the holiday with Cam and his family. She arrived there with a dozen roses for his mother.

"Ginger fit right in," Cam says. "She came in, headed for the kitchen and was suddenly side by side with my mom, helping. Mom, of course, thought the world of her."

The large crowd finally sat down to eat.

Cam has five sisters. One of them had brought Steve, whom she was interested in. Cam was sitting between Ginger, his date, and Steve, his sister's date. Early on in the meal, Ginger, who's a hair dresser, and Steve struck up a conversation. A good one. So good that they strained their necks to talk over, behind and around Cam.

"I almost felt an impulse to lean back so they could talk across me," Cam says. "At a certain point they were trying to maneuver their faces around my head so they could see each other."

After the meal, the trio — that's Cam, Ginger and Steve — adjourned to the TV room for a football game. This time, Ginger landed in the middle of the couch. Cam on one side, Steve on the other.

"Picture this," Cam says. "She is in the middle of the couch leaning to her right. He is to her right with one hand right next to her leg — this close — and his leg was crossed and by twisting, he was directly over her. He was pretty darn close, as a matter of fact, a lot closer to her than I was."

Still Cam held his tongue.

"It was borderline — enough to send off alarms all over the house, but not so much that I could comfortably say, 'Uh, Steve, you mind peeling yourself off my date?'"

Finally it was time for Steve to leave. Cam was relieved, obviously. Until Ginger called to Steve from across the house, "Oh, Steve, did you want my number for that hair cut?" Right.

Steve came bounding back and sent Cam in search of a pen. Great, Cam was thinking, here I am helping them hook up. Ginger gave Steve her telephone number in front of Cam, his mother and the sister who had brought Steve. When Cam dropped Ginger at her place that night, she said something about getting together again. Cam just muttered. That night, a relative called him on the phone.

"Uh, Cam," she said. "I don't know if you noticed, but I think you've got a problem with your date; I hope you weren't planning on a long-term thing with her."

Cam said no. And just to make sure he wouldn't give in to any small, overriding impulse to call her again — she was, after all, a total beauty — he ripped up her telephone number into little tiny pieces and threw them away. Just so much garbage. Like the turkey carcass.

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11 Comments | Post Comment
I don't think Ginger and Steve did anything wrong. From the way this story reads everyone was there as friend or casual acquaintance, maybe with hopes of more in regards to Cam and his sister. If Cam is still sweating over a woman he met a year or more ago, who he knew for a week, and could only describe her looks, he needs to get a grip, a life, and some help.
Comment: #1
Posted by: Light351
Sat Nov 22, 2014 10:13 PM
You only met her one week before. You hadn't even had a date. She was a helpful guest, brought roses for the cook, and was good company. Why did you think you had ownership of her at this point? If that's your standard for humiliation, then lucky you. If Steve was the sister's boyfriend, maybe the sister had cause for complaint, but you say he was just someone his sister was interested in. Calling her garbage and comparing her to a turkey carcass is pretty extreme. If you're really still mad about this, you have emotional problems. This level of "humiliation" is the sort of thing an emotionally healthy person would be laughing about by now with his new girlfriend.
Comment: #2
Posted by: LouisaFinnell
Sat Nov 22, 2014 10:36 PM
He said it himself-----no one should be alone for Thanksgiving, so he asked her over. That is no different than asking your widowed neighbor for the meal, or your child's school teacher who has no family near. Why is he having such a fit? It wasn't a date or any such thing?

By the way, I have a widowed friend with no relatives--if I were not driving out of town for Thanksgiving, I'd fix a turkey just for the two of us. She will be alone. I am feeling awful about her being alone.
Comment: #3
Posted by: Maryam
Sun Nov 23, 2014 5:42 AM
Steve is actually pretty typical for the people described in this column - very shallow and overly impressed with superficial appearances. Do you think he'd have asked "Ginger" to dinner if she'd been more ordinary looking?
Comment: #4
Posted by: Seabeast2
Sun Nov 23, 2014 6:59 AM
Darn, who would have guessed that the "absolute stunner, total knockout" with no place to go for the holiday would end up poaching your sister's boyfriend right in front of you, and your sister?
I guess I always thought anyone who looked that good on the outside couldn't possibly be anything but equally good on the inside. Boy, do I have a lot to learn about human nature!!!!
Maybe next time Cam might try inviting someone who would otherwise be alone on a holiday but who is NOT an "absolute stunner/total knockout"? That way no one would doubt his humanitarian reason for the invitation.
Come on, Cam, you saw the possibility of starting a relationship with a hot chick, and it turned out she saw someone she thought was hotter than you, and went after him right in front of you and the girl he came with. Next time check out character instead of exterior appearance. Yup, the hotties are good to look at, but till you know them a bit better, don't be too surprised if the inside doesn't match the outside.
@ Maryam-------I got the impression he didn't think of it being the same as his widowed neighbor or his child's teacher, since he was pretty much stressing how hot she was; I think maybe HE thought it might have been a date, though obviously she didn't. Even if she didn't consider it one, it was kind of tacky to go after another guy right in front of him, and the girl the other guy came with.
About your widowed friend------is it maybe possible to take her with you to wherever you are going for Thanksgiving? I know sometimes it doesn't work out, someone doesn't want to travel, doesn't want to spend it with strangers, whatever------but I bet she'd be tickled to death to be asked!!
Comment: #5
Posted by: jennylee
Sun Nov 23, 2014 7:03 AM
It was very tacky of Ginger and Steve to treat their benefactors' home like a singles bar. It sounds like they were both just taking advantage of nice people from a nice family.

Comment: #6
Posted by: Madelyn
Sun Nov 23, 2014 7:50 AM
hmmm, I wonder if Ginger and Steve ever got together? No actual mention on that. Just Cam fussing abut someone stealing his shiny new toy.
Maybe you could make up a nice dinner and put it, along with a good movie and some other treats, into a gift basket for your friend to enjoy on Thanksgiving. This way, even though she's on her own, she will know there is someone out there who cares.
Comment: #7
Posted by: Michelle Keane
Sun Nov 23, 2014 8:32 AM
Ca shouldn't have expected more from someone he'd only known a week, Steve shouldn't have shown such interested in another woman in front of Cam's sister and Ginger shouldn't have used the dinner as an opportunity to pick up someone else's date.
Comment: #8
Posted by: Wordsworth
Sun Nov 23, 2014 12:56 PM
Lemme see...Cam invited a woman whom he'd known of all of a week for his family's Thanksgiving because "nobody should be alone on Thanksgiving." Cam's sister brought Steve, whom she was interested in (no indication that they were dating or that Steve reciprocated the interest). When the two guests seemed to hit it off, both Cam and Sis - and a bunch of other relatives - got offended. One of the relatives felt free to butt in with the relationship advice. Cam ripped up Ginger's phone number "like so much garbage."

Ginger and Steve, I congratulate you on successfully dodging some pretty freakily controlling relationships. You really lucked out here, whether the two of you ever talked to each other after that party or not. Count your blessings that you escaped the clutches of Cam and his sister.
Comment: #9
Posted by: Ariana
Sun Nov 23, 2014 5:37 PM
Ginger and Steve might have handled things a bit more discretely, but you never known when you're going to meet somebody and have instant chemistry. Obviously, she didn't have any with Cam.

I might rip up somebody's phone number, but I'd never share such a childish act with the world. Boy, I bet that showed HER!
Comment: #10
Posted by: Joannakathryn
Sun Nov 23, 2014 9:29 PM
Re: Joannakathryn: It's true that you never know when you'll meet somebody and have instant chemistry, but it is tacky in the extreme to TAKE ACTION on that chemistry right in front of your date for the evening, which is what she was. The only acceptable course of action for her to take would be to talk in general terms about which hair salon she works at. Then if he actually has any real interest, he can call her there.

Ripping up a phone number is childish? Maybe it's the best way to bring closure.
Comment: #11
Posted by: Madelyn
Mon Nov 24, 2014 2:12 PM
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