Focus on the Best of the Worst Since You Can't Choose Your Boss or Co-Workers Q: I have some questions about drama queens and narcissists. Please explain the difference between the two and the effect they both have on those at work. A: According to Mark Goulston, M.D., psychiatrist, consultant, and author of "Just Listen: …Read more. Surprise Complaint About Boss Is Risky Even With Proof Q: Our regional manager is verbally abusive to my co-worker and me. The difference in the abuse is that the boss says things to my co-worker in front of others in the office, but when she mistreats me, she does it behind closed doors, so there are …Read more. Everyone Does It, but Not at Work Q: This problem will sound funny, but it is gross and needs to stop. I work for a very conservative and professional company, so what I'm about to describe is obviously not right. We have groups of auditors at different levels, and we all work in …Read more. Injured Worker Uncovers Creative Talent as a Career Q: I had a serious accident and permanently injured my back. I had to go on disability, but as many Americans know, no one can live solely on disability. I had back surgery and was in rehabilitation for four years after that. Forget about whether …Read more.more articles
Interviewers Shocked When Interviewee Is Not What They Expect
Q: I am an African American woman who has risen through the years to department management level at a couple of large corporations. I have not joined any outside organizations or groups and my name is a plain, typical American name. When people see my resume, no one would know my race or ethnic background. I wanted to switch to a small to mid-sized company, so I began sending resumes. When I went in for an interview for a job I had every qualification to do, I saw the shock in their faces when they met me. I know they were not expecting someone of color. I was interviewed by a couple of people at the company, and although I answered everything correctly and appropriately, I knew I was not going to get the job. I know there are people who look for prejudice when they interview, but I am not one of them. I have always remained positive in any job search, but when shock registers on people's faces at the same time, you know exactly what it is about. It was so obvious I didn't know if I should have said something. I didn't. I just let it go, saying to myself that there was nothing I could do to change their minds about me. Should I have addressed it?
A: If a job candidate could address the subject in a non-threatening way, it might clear the air for a more legitimate interview. If a comment sounds defensive, however, it would reflect negatively on you, even though they were in the wrong. It might also serve to make you feel worse than you did because of their reaction. Unfortunately, humans are what they are, and prejudice will always exist in some form. You called the situation correctly when your gut told you they would not hire you, so it's likely there was nothing you could have said or done to change their attitudes in that short time.
It will help you to learn about others' experiences in the corporate world. Jessica Faye Carter, an experienced corporate lawyer and financial services professional shares her experiences in the corporate world in her book "Double Outsiders: How Women of Color Can Succeed in Corporate America." A study showed that to advance in their careers, women of color needed to have a mentor or sponsor, perform far above expectations, communicate successfully and be able to receive high-visibility assignments.
Getting Through to Analytical Types
Q: Often people who are smart think they are superior to others. I grew up around engineers and work with accountant types. Sadly, these professions are made up of analytical people with great technical skills, but who also have a disdain for people they consider stupid. Their attitude does not lead to good relationships, and then they wonder why they did not get promoted. The problem is that people who fall into this category are the ones who don't know they need help. Truly intelligent people will look into self-help books and ways to round out their skill sets. How do we get through to them?
A: Some personality types can never be reached. Self-awareness and self-improvement has to begin from within the person. You can leave articles and books laying around for the person to see, but you can't make a person read. And although reading self-help books is a start, it doesn't mean that the information will be understood and applied. Be patient with these analytical types, and drop information bits on them methodically and slowly.
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