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Dear Annie: My girlfriend broke up with me in April because she wanted to date another guy. Over the summer, she sent me random emails and text messages about various things, a few of which I answered out of politeness.
In September, we both attended the funeral of a mutual friend. I let her know that I wasn't totally over her, but I was doing OK in her presence. She then said that she had broken up with the other guy and that she missed all the things we did, still loved me and wanted a relationship.
A week later, she called to say that she had spoken to her counselor and that all she could offer me at this time was friendship. She then invited the other guy back into her life as "a friend." But when I checked her Facebook page, I learned she had been having him over to her house every week.
I finally got angry, and we had a blowup. Now she says her counselor told her that "men can't just be friends." She emailed, telling me that we need to move on and that she hopes to see me at my upcoming school reunion.
I don't want to see this woman again, ever. She used me and lied to me. She hurt me more the second time than she did the first. She has no business coming to my school reunion, as she never went to school there. Right now, if she approached me, there would be an angry scene. Am I wrong to feel this way? — Angered in California
Dear Angered: You can't help how you feel when you've been mistreated. This woman seems confused and a little selfish and, frankly, could benefit from spending some time without a man in her life. But try to channel your anger into something constructive. Live your life fully. Make new friends. Date other women. Stop looking at her Facebook page. You deserve better.
Dear Annie: My family recently had a big birthday bash for my father. My sister made a slide show that included photos of my late wife but no photos of my current wife, even though we've been together for 12 years.
Dear Stuck: Explain to her that your sister behaved abominably to your first wife, too, which indicates she is possessive of you and jealous of your significant others. Please don't avoid your parents and other siblings because one sister cannot control herself. Even though your wife doesn't want a confrontation, we think your sister needs to know that her behavior is unacceptable. Tell her.
Dear Annie: I was appalled at your response to "Frustrated in Colorado," whose racist mother-in-law will not accept her biracial adopted daughter, "Amanda," and, worse, is now moving closer to their area. Why would you suggest that she give Grandma the opportunity to spend one more second with this 12-year-old child?
Amanda does not deserve to be in a position to hear more hurtful and ugly opinions from her grandmother. My advice would be to refuse any contact unless the mother-in-law promises to be warm and kind to her. If she cannot or will not make such a promise, let her son visit on his own time, but the wife and daughter have no obligation to do so. — Disagree in Salem
Dear Salem: Perhaps "warm" is expecting too much, but the parents should certainly insist that Mom treat the child with kindness and not make any cracks about her place in the family. And we hope that living closer will provide the motivation.
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