"Men Are Not Designed for Monogamy"? Dear Annie: I have been married for 40 years to a man who had a few affairs in the past that I recently found out about. We are both seeing counselors, privately and together. At this point in time, I am tired of dealing with this, and our marriage …Read more. Failing Kidneys, Failing Passion Dear Annie: I've been with my boyfriend for five years. We have a handsome 6-year-old boy. A year after I had my son, my boyfriend was diagnosed with kidney failure. At first, he was doing well, but then he had a rough patch and lost hope. During …Read more. Protecting Mom Is Top Priority Dear Annie: I am one of four adult children. Our father died a couple of years ago. Three of us have our own homes. One sister, "Diane," has been married twice and has lived with numerous men and was kicked out when each relationship ended. She has …Read more. Longtime Travel Companions Have Grown ... Apart Dear Annie: My second cousin "Susan" and I are in our 60s and have been friends since childhood. I was widowed six years ago. Susan never married. Four years ago, Susan and I started traveling together. It's much cheaper to travel as part of a …Read more.more articles
Jane Likes Him Jealous
Dear Annie: I am 74, and "Jane" is 56. We met online, where I said early on that I was not interested in dating because of the age disparity. I simply told her that I liked the expression on her face in the posted photos. She is beautiful.
But within a few months, we fell in love and became intimate. Jane realized it was a mistake and was quick to point it out. Aside from the age problem, I also suffer from impotence, and the sexual dysfunction had too great an impact. Jane wanted a man who could provide for all her needs.
Jane told me she wanted to stay friends, but I refused. I really fell for her and cannot tolerate the idea that she is sexually involved with another man. This woman is a complete 10 in her heart and soul. After we broke up, I went through months of feeling bad. I cried a lot.
But here's the problem. Jane seems unable to let go of me. She told me once that she liked me more than anyone she had ever known, and she finds me endlessly interesting. Every month or so, she contacts me. If it happens when I'm strong and happy, I reply, and we have a nice email chat. Of course, eventually she ends up accidentally mentioning her other men, and that caves me in. Jane would never try to make me jealous, but she has no appreciation for my inability to deal with this. I have tried to go cold turkey and dump her completely, but I seem too susceptible to the possibility that she'll change her mind and want me as a sweetheart again.
It would be easier if I had other romantic options, but at my age and selectivity, I'm not hopeful. Jane was a mistake that got out of hand, and I'm paying for it. Is there a way to build a strong and lasting friendship with Jane regardless of her involvement with other men? — Too Old
Dear Too: No matter how nice Jane is, we suspect she enjoys making you a wee bit jealous.
Dear Annie: I recently took my 5-year-old son to a birthday party for a little girl who turned 7. We put together a birthday present of arts and crafts materials including stickers, stamps, Barbie coloring pages, glitter glue, etc. We thought it was a nice present. However, when the birthday girl opened it, she laughed, and the girl's best friend commented, "Who would give someone that?"
My son was oblivious, but I was offended. Should I have said something? — Concerned Mom
Dear Mom: No. You're talking about a young girl who is still learning how to respond properly to gifts. We hope she said "thank you," and we trust her mother will give her pointers on polite and appropriate things to say. The best friend's response was rude, but again, little kids need time to learn. The important thing is that you didn't make a big deal out of it with your son. We think your gift was lovely.
Dear Annie: I'm responding to "L.H. in Montgomery." I, too, am 82 years old and have been single for 23 years. A little over a year ago, I became reacquainted with a wonderful gentleman I'd met at a church 40 years ago. We will be getting married this fall.
Do not despair. There is always hope. — In Love in SoCal
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