Reformed Husband Returns Home Without Answers Dear Annie: After 14 years of marriage, my husband, "Ron," left me for another woman. Here's how it happened: For several years, friends had dinner with us once a week. One day, they brought along "Fran," a recently widowed woman they took under …Read more. Driving Auntie Crazy Dear Annie: My family has lost their minds and is letting my 14-year-old nephew drive around on open roads, sometimes in busy areas. He drives with his mother and grandmother. I think this is beyond crazy. He could hit, maim or kill someone, or …Read more. Snow Worries or Sunny Skies Dear Annie: I'm a clean-cut, middle-aged gay guy living in a midsized city in Florida. My partner of six years lives in Boston. We have a great long-distance relationship. He's a wonderful man, and we love each other. We'd like to marry and live …Read more. First Girlfriend Stresses Out Mom Dear Annie: My son, who is 18, finally has a girlfriend. Even though she is a year older, they are only children. Both are attending college, working toward their associate's degrees. My son has a part-time construction job, and because it's …Read more.more articles
Boring Boss Blathers
Dear Annie: I work in an office with nine other people. For some reason, my boss likes to share every boring detail of her personal life with us. We smile, listen politely and laugh at her "hilarious" anecdotes. This might be bearable if she showed any interest in our lives, but she doesn't. Occasionally, with one foot out the door, she will ask, "How are you doing?" but it's obvious she wants a quick answer at most. If she joins a conversation already in progress, she takes over and seems compelled to top whoever is speaking. She always has a bigger, better, funnier or more dramatic story, at least in her mind.
Why does she do this? She is bright, talented and accomplished in many aspects of life. Why the need to be the star? She constantly has to send the message: "My life is exciting, your life is nothing."
I hope people will read this and ask themselves how much time they spend talking about themselves compared to how much time they spend listening to others. Is there anything we can do to change this? — Arizona
Dear Arizona: Your boss, like many outwardly successful people, still harbors deep insecurities. This is why she feels the need to prove that she is the most important and interesting person in the room. And because she is so focused on her own behavior, she has few brain cells left to devote to her staff's personal lives, nor, frankly, does she need to. Your personal lives are not her business. But she is still your employer and if this is the worst thing she does, we'd put up with it. You are handling it perfectly - you smile, listen politely and laugh when called for.
Dear Annie: In general, I agree that a guest should not put a bride or groom "on the spot" by asking to bring a date. But I'd like to mention a time when it worked.
My partner and his daughter had been estranged for many years. One of the best things to happen was when his daughter's fiance, a wonderful man, facilitated a reconciliation. Part of the reconciliation was an invitation to their wedding.
After receiving the invitation, we had dinner with the fiance. We felt we had
little choice but to confirm that, as the father's partner, I was included in the invitation because my name was not on it. The fiance said yes. We'll never know if that was simply his decision at the time, but had I not also been welcome, it would have undone all the work of reconciliation.
I attended with my partner, everyone was delightful, and a great, celebratory time was had by all. — A North Carolina Gay Partner
Dear N.C.: Your situation is not the same as someone asking to bring a "plus one." Established partners should always be included in such invitations. Nor was your partner asking to bring you. He was only clarifying the situation, which is perfectly fine. That fiance sounds like a gem. We are so glad he helped reconcile father and daughter, and that you are both welcome members of the family.
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