Be the Good Example This Little Boy's Mom Is Not Dear Annie: My younger sister, "Nora," is 43 and acts like an 18-year-old brat. She became pregnant nine years ago by a drug addict who is currently in jail for raping a 14-year-old girl. (He is out of the picture, thank goodness.) I love my nephew, …Read more. Putting the Kibosh on Cranky Clyde Dear Annie: My husband, an only child, never had a great relationship with his father, "Clyde." My mother-in-law died six years ago, and my husband passed away three years later. While things are improving for my daughter and me, we are both having …Read more. The Truth About Who Kissed Who Dear Annie: When I was a teenager, one of my cousins tried to molest me when we were at our grandmother's house. He tried to force a kiss on me and said because I was older, I should learn about sex and teach it to him. I fought him off. I was …Read more. Confusing His Loves Dear Annie: Two years ago, a good friend died of a heart attack. His wife, "Sally," asked me to help her get rid of his things, which I was happy to do, and I soon found myself mowing her lawn and doing chores around the house. Here is the problem: …Read more.more articles
The Infidelity of Ongoing Flirty Dirty Talk
Dear Annie: I recently found out that my 62-year-old husband has been texting a woman with whom he had an intimate relationship in the past. He has admitted that these texts were flirtatious and filled with "dirty talk." He swears that there was no physical contact, but I'm skeptical. It's been going on for at least eight months, and I am not convinced it is over. He deleted her name from his contacts, but kept her cellphone number under a fake name.
During this same period, my husband did not give me an anniversary card or a Valentine's Day card, nor did we go out to lunch as often as we usually did. He also announced that he wants to get a new wedding ring, as he is "bored" with the one I gave him 12 years ago.
He has allowed this woman to come between us. Whether or not there was anything physical, this was absolutely an emotional attachment. He insists that she means nothing to him, but I feel rejected and foolish. Am I wrong to consider this an affair? — Ohio
Dear Ohio: You're not wrong. Your husband doesn't appear to be trustworthy, especially if he still has this woman's number in his cellphone and is trying to hide it from you. Even if he no longer texts her, it means he is unwilling to cut off contact, perhaps keeping her "in reserve." Please get some counseling — with or without him — and work on your next step.
Dear Annie: I've been close friends with "Lisa" for many years. We've shared many important life events and social occasions over that time. She is warm, intelligent, educated and respected. Since she moves in well-educated circles, people are shocked by her mispronunciation of words that are normally corrected in elementary school. For instance, she says "pitchers" instead of "pictures," which she puts in her "liberry" instead of "library."
None of us would risk offending her by calling this to her attention, but we also know that her job puts her in a position to influence young adults who notice these things.
Dear Guidance: It is difficult to correct a grownup's pronunciation without causing offense. You are neither her teacher nor her parent. If Lisa is married, would her husband comment? Otherwise, we recommend you accept her as she is and keep using those words correctly so she can hear them and, hopefully, incorporate them into her daily speech.
Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Wedding Jitters," who asked about a prenup. Please also tell her that a prenup doesn't cover everything.
My husband and I have a prenup, but he is now in an assisted living facility. He will not be eligible for Medicaid while I am alive and have financial assets. Because we are married, the government considers my income to be his.
Ours is a happy 25-year second marriage. We thought we had protected ourselves financially. If I had it to do over, I never would have married a second time, especially at my age. Make an agreement together and pledge your love, but don't make it legal and risk getting the government involved in your future well-being. — Reader in Vermont
Dear Vermont: Your situation has little to do with a prenup, but thanks for the warning.
Dear Readers: Happy Halloween. Please dress your trick-or-treaters in flame-retardant costumes that don't obstruct walking or vision, and be sure to accompany them.
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