DR. WALLACE: A few months ago, a guy moved into town. My best friend liked him, and they soon became a couple. She and I are very close, and I love her like a sister and know she loves me as much or even more. She spends a lot of time with her boyfriend, so we don't have many chances to be by ourselves. Because of this, she wanted me to hang out with her and her boyfriend. She wanted the three of us to be best friends.
I did like this guy, and I thought he liked me as a friend, so I started hanging out as a threesome. For a month we did a lot of things together. We went to the county fair, to the movies and to sporting events, and we all had a good time — or so I thought.
Well, yesterday my friend called and started crying. She said her boyfriend was tired of being a threesome and told her to make a choice. It had to be him or me. And she chose him. She called to tell me she was still my best friend, but she would no longer spend any time with me. Her boyfriend had made the ultimatum: It had to be him 100 percent or not at all.
I really feel terrible that things worked out this way. Whoever said that "two is company, three is a crowd" really knew what they were talking about. I'm disappointed that I came out second-best, but I do understand why. What really hurts is that I thought her boyfriend and I were good friends. I'm usually a good judge of character. I blew it this time.
Still, I don't know what I did to turn this guy against me. I asked my friend, and she said she didn't know and didn't want to ask him. I'd like to call him and ask him why he wanted me out of the picture. My best friend asked me not to call, but she won't give me a reason. If you were me, would you call him and ask for an explanation? — Anonymous, Naperville, Illinois
ANONYMOUS: Honor your best friend's request and do not contact her boyfriend. When the time comes that your best friend is no longer involved with this guy, she'll give you the word. Then both of you can have a good laugh. That day may arrive sooner than you think.
OLD HIGH SCHOOL IS HISTORY
DR. WALLACE: I'm attending a new high school because I got into a fight at my old high school. The girl I fought with was expelled because she told a teacher that she was going to kill me.
My parents had me transfer to this new school because they were afraid for my safety at my previous school. I hate my new school. The kids are stuck-up and are not friendly. Being here is like being in prison. When my new school played my old school in football, I cheered for my old school.
I'm told that the girl who threatened me has been shipped back to her home country and won't be returning to my old school, but my parents still say "No." I think they're being unreasonable. Please help me. — Maria, Nogales, Arizona
MARIA: It's not easy leaving familiar surroundings and friends, but I agree with your parents that changing schools was in your best interest.
It always takes time to adjust to a move. Getting involved in school activities is a great way of making new friends. All high schools have numerous clubs, associations, teams, leagues and meetings where teens with similar interests meet and have fun. Do yourself a big favor and get involved!
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. I guarantee that you will make new friends very soon. Your old school is history. Start cheering for your new one. And remember that grades are important, so do your very best in the classroom.
Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at [email protected]. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.
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