DR. WALLACE: I'm 20 and my guy is 21. I love him more than any human being can love another. I want us to get married, but he says that he is not sure he is in love with me. His parents and my parents think that we are an ideal couple and they are pushing for us to get married. What do you think? I'm positive that after we are married I'd get him to love me. I'm a very persuasive individual. — Nameless, Louisville, Ky.

NAMELESS: Marriage is a total commitment of the husband and wife to love, cherish and honor each other until death separates them. Even when both of the marriage partners love each other, it takes a total effort by both to bring about harmony, joy and happiness. Marriage is a 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year commitment — from husband to wife, and wife to husband.

Both sets of parents are not doing you and your "guy" a favor by pushing for a marriage. Do not consider a marriage until you are 100% convinced that he truly loves you as much as you love him.

PEOPLE ARE NOT BORN CRIMINALS

DR. WALLACE: I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 and we have discussed the possibility of getting married, but one thing bothers me. His dad is in prison and so is his dad's sister for the same crime. My mother said I shouldn't get serious with this boy because there is a good chance that our children could be criminals because of inherited traits. Is this true? - Angela, Batavia, Ill.

ANGELA: Your mother is misinformed. People are not born with criminal traits. Crime is a learned behavior.

MY MOM THINKS I'M RUDE

DR. WALLACE: Kenny and I had been dating for more than a year, but we broke up because we both wanted to date others. Recently, I've been dating a guy and I like him a lot.

Now Kenny is calling me every day begging me for us to get back together again. I like Kenny as a friend, but the romance we once had is gone forever. I won't date him again. Lately, I have been refusing to take his phone calls because he keeps calling even after I've told him not to call me anymore since I will not be changing my mind. He keeps calling and he tells my mom to have me call him "when I find time." Now my mom thinks that it's rude of me that I do not return his calls. Your opinion, please. — Nameless, Seattle, Wash.

NAMELESS: Since you have told Kenny repeatedly not to call you, you have no obligation to return his unwanted calls. In fact, it is better that you don't. Eventually, Kenny will get your message.

TELL GRANDMOTHER THAT YOU'LL BE THE JUDGE

DR. WALLACE: I'm an Aries and I'm dating a guy for the first time who is an Aquarius. My grandmother says these two stars will never make it romantically. Do you believe in the stars? - Maggie, Elizabethtown, Ky.

MAGGIE: Only those I see in the heavens. Judge this guy by his character, not by his sign.

Dr Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at [email protected]. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.