DR. WALLACE: My boyfriend is a jerk. He says he loves me, but never spends much time with me. Recently he joined the Navy and was sent to Great Lakes, Illinois for training. He wrote me every day confessing his love for me and asking me to write him every day. And I did just that. Last week he came home on a two week leave before being sent to San Diego to go to naval school. He'd written that he would see me every day. Well, since he's been home I've seen him only once for 10 minutes. The rest of the time is spent with his buddies. I'm convinced I'm no longer his girlfriend and will tell him that if I see him again. Is it wrong for me to dump this guy who is in the service? — Anonymous, via email
ANONYMOUS: You will be doing the right thing when you tell him goodbye, goodbye, and smooth sailing. You didn't dump him. He dumped himself.
IT'S TIME TO SAY GOODBYE
DR. WALLACE: Michael and I have been dating for over six months and they were the greatest six months of my life. He was a true gentleman and treated me with respect and dignity.
All that came crashing down last Friday night. After movie, we parked in our favorite "dark" spot. Usually when we go there we talk, listen to music and hug and kiss, nothing more. But last Friday as soon as we parked he was all over me like green on grass. I was shocked because he took me by surprise. After a ton of time went by I finally fought him off and convinced him to take me home.
The next night we went to a Los Angeles Angels baseball game. We left before the game was over and, on the way, home again we stopped at our dark spot and once again he was like a crazed wild animal. Again, it took a lot of time to fight him off and get him to take me home. This time he ripped some of my clothing. I had to borrow his jacket so my parents wouldn't see the damage to my clothes. He called today and said that he couldn't help himself because I turned him on so much that he can't control himself, but that he was going to try very hard to behave himself and that he loves me very much.
I don't know if I should go out with Michael again. I want to if he's going to be civilized, but not if he is animalistic. Please hurry with your advice! — Anonymous, Anaheim, Ca.
ANONYMOUS: Michael has grossly overstepped the rules of dating, not once but twice, and that's two times too many. Things have gone too far at this point to let him off with an apology and a meaningless promise to "try" to behave himself. Believe me, he won't. He'll head for the dark spot every time and the date will end in a wrestling match. I say its time to give a big, permanent NO to all this nonsense and stop going out with him.
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