DR. WALLACE: I'm in the 11th grade and would like to become a nurse. I talked with my school counselor to see about getting into college and she told me that my IQ was only 101 and that I should plan to do something else. I am a solid B student with good study habits. I'm really concerned. What should I do? —Nameless, Garden Grove, Calif.
NAMELESS: Your counselor could use a bit of constructive counseling. The nursing profession welcomes solid B students with good study habits. Be assured that there are many good colleges and universities that will welcome students like you. Living in Southern California provides you with the opportunity to attend a superb local community college that will be more than happy to accept you as a student. Do well and your grades and credits will transfer to any college in the nation. And that includes Harvard, Yale, Stanford and Knox!
If for some reason later on you decide that you don't want to continue working for your bachelor's degree but still want to work in the medical field, a counselor at the community college will provide you with an appropriate curriculum available at the school you will be attending. Keep up the good academic work and in a few years you will be enjoying helping others as a Nurse.
When I was a principal in the Garden Grove School District, the counselors I worked with were effective professionals. I don't know how this unprofessional counselor fell through the "cracks." Many schools and colleges refuse to rely solely on IQ scores because they are sometimes considered to be unreliable.
YOUR COMPLAINING IS NOT WARRANTED
DR. WALLACE: I'm a 13-year-old female and feel that my mom is a huge pain. She doesn't allow me to go out after dinner because it is too dark. All, and I mean all, of my friends get to stay out till 8 p.m. and some are allowed to stay out until 10. If I'm at a friend's house, I'm not permitted to walk home if it's dark. I must call my mom to pick me up and drive me home.
My parents are divorced, but when I called and asked my dad for help, he said I have to go by her rules. I'm sick of these stupid rules. Help! — Natalie, Hobart, Ind.
NATALIE: Parenting is difficult under any circumstances, and single parenting, you might say, is doubly difficult. It's possible that Mom is a bit overprotective, but you must appreciate that she has made your safety and well-being a top priority. The fact that she's willing to pick you up from friend's houses in the evening should make you happy, not annoyed. Your complaining is not warranted.
YOUR FATHER WILL GET THE MESSAGE
DR. WALLACE: I am very depressed. My father is getting married, and this is making me very nervous. Ever since my father announced that he was going to get married, he hasn't found enough time to even give me a hug. He has his fiance do it for him. He doesn't understand that I need attention. He doesn't have any time for me because he gives it all to his soon-to-be new kids and soon-to-be new wife and I hate it.
Please help me. I feel so neglected. — Sonney, Reno, Nev.
SONNEY: Many times parents are not aware that they are not paying enough attention to their children and they need to be reminded. If you haven't had a heart-to-heart talk with your father about your need for more of his attention, have one today.
Also make sure he has the opportunity to read your letter. By talking with you and reading your letter, your father will get your message.
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