DR. WALLACE: I'm 19 and my fiance is 21. We plan to get married sometime soon, but have not set the date yet. Andrew is a wonderful guy and I love him very much. He has all the qualities I want for a husband, but he does have one minor flaw — he is extremely jealous.

I'm a college girl and have a lot of friends and acquaintances, both male and female. If he sees me talking to another guy he gets upset and accuses me of seeing him behind his back. If we are out on a date and I happen to see an old male friend who happens to say "Hi," he blows his mind and the evening is ruined with his jealous reaction. I am beginning to dread going out in public where a male I know might say hello to me.

My older sister thinks Andrew has an emotional problem and that I shouldn't consider marrying at this time. I don't think his jealousy is that serious that we should delay our wedding but I'm wondering if it's better for him to be jealous than to be chasing after other women. What's your opinion? — Angie, Orlando, Fla.

ANGIE: No marriage can survive an unreasonably jealous partner. Your sister's advice is sound. Your fiance's jealous streak is well outside the normal range and he may need professional counseling to overcome it. Don't marry him unless he receives help and is able to demonstrate that he has his emotions under control.

You are a Wise and Courageous Young Lady

DR. WALLACE: I was dating a guy and we had great fun together. Notice I said "was" dating. Let me explain.

After cheerleading practice a couple of months ago, I got a ride home with my best friend and her boyfriend. He was driving and I was never so glad to get home in one piece! The guy was driving like a maniac and it really scared me!

Then a couple of weeks after that this guy and his pal were driving home from a party when his car spun out of control and both of them were killed. The state police said that speed was the major cause of the accident. Needless to say, my best friend was devastated and, for me, it was a terribly sad moment and definitely a wake-up call.

When my boyfriend recently started driving recklessly I told him to stop being a showoff, or I would not ride with him. He continued his antics, so I told him I would not ride with him again. I felt I had to do something, so I asked my father to call his father and he did and as a result, his dad revoked his driving privileges for two months. This made my boyfriend mad, so he broke up with me calling me a "lousy fink," and he told me that he was never going to speak to me again.

He has kept his word and I feel really awful about the whole thing, but I cared for him and I didn't want him to end up like my friend's boyfriend — dead. After thinking it over. I know I did the right thing. I lost my boyfriend, but I might have saved his life, or the lives of other innocent people.

Can you tell me what makes guy drivers like to show off while driving? — Betsy, Tulsa, Okla.

BETSY: Your ex-boyfriend is fortunate that you cared enough for his safety that you risked losing his friendship, but might have saved his life or the lives of other innocent victims.

A motor vehicle weighs over a thousand pounds of heavy metal. When it hits anything at speeds over 30 miles per hour, severe damage can occur to everything in the crash, including the car, what it hits, and the occupants of the car who can be injured or even killed. As the speed increases, so does the damage and injury. Reckless driving, at any speed, severely increases the risk of a crash. Reckless drivers come in all ages, but most reckless drivers are males, ages 16 to 24. These drivers are most dangerous because they are short of driving experience and long on youthful exuberance!

I commend you for the action you took. You are a very wise and courageous young lady!

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at [email protected]. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

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