DR. WALLACE: I was married when I was 18 and my husband was 27. I am now 22. We have a 3-year-old daughter and a solid, loving marriage. My husband is a college graduate and has a good job working for an insurance company. We're not rich, but money is not an issue.
I quit high school during my senior year because we got married. I have since taken night classes and have earned my high school diploma. I have always enjoyed school and would like to start taking courses at a community college. I'd like someday to be a college graduate.
My husband thinks this would be a waste of time because he earns sufficient money to support our family, but he would support me 100 percent if I do decide to start college. I would appreciate your thoughts. — Ava, Anaheim, Calif.
AVA: By all means, pursue that college degree! This isn't about you as a wage earner. The pursuit of knowledge will benefit you — and your husband — in incalculable and unforeseeable ways, simply by broadening your awareness of this complex world. It will help you achieve your potential as a mother, wife and citizen.
Good things happen when you open your mind to the educational process. And I am pleased to hear your husband loves you enough to support your endeavor 100 percent!
PET OWNERSHIP IS A WONDERFUL EXPERIENCE
DR. WALLACE: I'm 12 and live with my mother and father in a house with a nice yard. I'd like to have a pet. My parents will say yes if you answer my letter and say I should have a pet.
Please answer my letter. I would love to have a dog or a cat and I will take really good care of it. — Meghan, Lima, Ohio.
MEGHAN: Yes, Yes, Yes!
Pet ownership is a marvelous experience. As far as I'm concerned, every family should have a pet, as long as circumstances permit. But remember, having a pet brings great responsibility. Your pet will need love and plenty of care, and should never be neglected.
An excellent starting point for finding a pet is your local animal shelter, where you will find a loving and loyal pet that will be a wonderful addition to your family!
SHE SAYS SHE WON'T DO IT AGAIN
DR. WALLACE: Kelly and I have been best friends ever since third grade. When we're together alone or with other girls, she is a super and very loyal friend. But all of that ends whenever a boy comes on the scene.
I'll give you an example. If Kelly and I are out together and any two guys stop and talk, she ignores me and starts talking to the cutest guy. Several times, she has taken off with the guy she just met, and left me stranded with a guy I don't know and don't even want to know.
I've tried talking to her about this and she always says she won't ever do it again, but she always does. How can I get her to understand that best friends don't just desert one another when a cute guy comes along? — Faye, Mobile, Ala.
FAYE: It's time to take action. Ask Kelly to come over to your house for a snack after school. After giving her a snack that you know she likes, inform her that the next time she just deserts you for a cute boy, it will be her last time. Make sure she knows you really enjoy her company and relish being her best friend, but that you're tired of being stranded with some guy you don't even know. Enough is enough.
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