Romantic Feelings Fade Away

By Dr. Robert Wallace

January 22, 2019 4 min read

DR. WALLACE: I'm a 17-year-old varsity cheerleader who has strong feelings for the "young-at-heart" 27-year-old basketball coach at my school. I often find myself hoping to have a future with him. I do realize this is impossible right now. I do date guys my own age, but I can't get the coach out of my mind. I know he's aware that I like him, and yet, he still is very friendly with me. I know you'll tell me to forget it, but let's say I am 18 and have graduated. Could it ever work out? — Anonymous, Somewhere in Kansas

ANONYMOUS: Anything is possible, but I wouldn't think landing the coach would be an easy task. Not counting the age difference, high school teachers rarely marry one of their former students. It breaks no rules, but such a marriage would be "frowned upon" by fellow educators.

It's not unusual for students to have romantic feelings for a particular teacher, but they do fade away in almost every case. I suggest you continue to date guys your own age. Your feelings for your coach will likely fade soon, and when they do, you'll be glad that you did not take any actions beyond the occasional "daydream" with respect to the coach.


DR. WALLACE: A month ago, a new boy joined our school. He was very cute and extremely outgoing, and I really got interested in him. He was in my history class and always talked to me. He asked me if there were a lot of drugs floating around on the school campus and I told him that yes, there were.

I asked him if he was a user and he said no.

He said he was "religious" and wanted to avoid guys and girls who were involved in buying and selling drugs. I was glad to hear he was drug-free, and I was hoping that he would ask me out, but he never did.

One day, he once again asked me if I had ever used drugs, and when I said no, he said, "Good girl."

Last week, 11 students, eight guys and three girls, were busted for drug activity on campus. It turned out that my "Prince Charming," who was interested in drug activity, wasn't a student at all. He was an undercover police officer working with teenagers involved in campus drug trade. I was stunned when I found out! Even though he looked like he was 17, he was actually 23!

Thank goodness I didn't give him any names because I really didn't know who was selling or buying drugs, even though I was aware that it was taking place.

Personally, I think this was a sneaky and very outrageous operation. Do you agree? Would you have done this back in the day at the high school you worked at? — Anonymous, via email

ANONYMOUS: The undercover officer had to appear like he was a new student, and he did his job. Be thankful, because if the 11 students suspected for drug activity are actually guilty, your high school is now a much better place to attend and learn.

I'm proud that the principal and the district superintendent use this safe and effective method to eliminate drug sales by students on your high school campus. When a problem becomes evident (in this case, rampant drug use and sales on campus) a smart, proactive educator will use effective tools to correct the situation.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at [email protected] To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at

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