DR. WALLACE: I'm a 16-year-old girl who needs a lot of advice. A guy and I met three weeks ago at a birthday party for a mutual friend. Instantly, we hit it off. We have dated four times and have talked on our cellphones to each other every night since we met. I've expressed my feelings to him, so he knows exactly how much I care for him. He also said he likes me very, very much.
Now I feel we're ready for a serious relationship. He feels we're rushing things and there's no need to get too serious too soon. His last serious relationship with a girl ended painfully for him when she dumped him for another guy.
How can I get him to understand that we were made for each other and I would never, never hurt him? All I'm asking for is a chance for us to grow in our mutual love. Is this asking too much? — Nameless, Lima, Ohio.
NAMELESS: I think you're getting much too serious much too fast. Be patient and enjoy getting to know him. Pressing the issue could scare this guy away. If he cares for you as much as you care for him, it won't be long before the two of you are a "couple."
IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO BE TOO THIN
DR. WALLACE: I live with my mother and her sister (my aunt). Both of them are grossly overweight. The main reason is that they overeat on fattening foods loaded with cream, butter and sauces made with mayonnaise. I'm 15. I also was overweight. I didn't like the way I looked, so I started a regular walking program and I eat only nutritious fruits and vegetables. In the past three months I've lost 15 pounds and I have another 20 pounds to lose.
My aunt is upset because I'm trimming down. She feels that people are happier when they are large and the idea that overweight people are not healthy is just "junk" put out by the fashion industry. My mom doesn't say anything because my aunt owns the house.
Please answer my letter. I want my aunt to read your response. — Madison, St. George, Utah.
MADISON: Overeating and its consequence, obesity, is the major nutritional problem of Americans and Canadians, according to Grant Gwinup, professor of medicine at the University of California at Irvine. Overweight people die at increased rates of everything you can think of: heart disease, cancer and diabetes and gall bladder, liver and brain disease.
"The fatter one is, the greater one's chances are to have these diseases," says Gwinup. "Not only do the diseases eventually cause death, they also change the quality of one's life by destroying one's health. Statistics on thin people tend to indicate that the less fat a person carries, the better."
As long as a person is eating three well-balanced meals a day, Gwinup feels that it is almost impossible to be too thin. That should keep your aunt quiet for a while.
Continue your healthy eating program. And make sure that Mom and Auntie read this column!
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