I'm beginning to think that like beauty, slutiness is in the eye of the beholder ...
EDDIE: My wife cheated on me after 23 years of marriage, and I consider her a slut. I was faithful for all 23 years and a good partner, provider, father and husband. My idea of a slut is any woman (not man) who's had more than five men in her life before getting married at the age of 25.
If she has just one affair after marriage, I consider her to be a slut, unless there are bizarre circumstances like being raped or beaten.
ANNIE: A slut is a friend who sleeps with your boyfriend or a guy she knows you like. The number of partners you have doesn't make you a slut. What makes you a slut is the kind of people you sleep with, or even kiss. The girl who goes around kissing all the boys at the party is a slut.
YALE: If you find yourself telling your life story to Maury Povich or Jerry Springer, you're a slut.
TAMMI: If you're unsure of who your child's father is and you need to have a bunch of guys take a paternity test, you might be a slut. If you have baby mamas everywhere or have spread diseases that you aren't even sure how you got, you might be a slut.
A slut is basically someone whose behavior has a negative impact on themselves and society yet still keeps doing it. They act out without being responsible. They have unwanted children and spread heartbreak and diseases around. They fall for any line and give their bodies as tangible tradeoffs. Simply put, sluts are stupid.
LENA: If you have sex with two members of the same family, such as brothers; father and son; grandfather and grandson; brother and sister; sisters; mother and son; mother and father, you're a slut. No two ways about it.
KELLY: If you think you might be a slut, you're a slut.
JOHN: A slut is anyone who has sex for some sort of gain/payoff and not for intimacy/procreation. A slut is someone who has sex to prove how hot he is. A slut is someone who has sex because it feels good no matter how it may affect others. Sluts are selfish.
OLIVIA: If you have sex with a person who is of age and uncommitted, if you don't put yourself in dangerous situations, if you're reasonably discreet, if you make no promises and have no expectations and use appropriate protection, you're not a slut, and what you do is no one's business.
Alternatively, if a person is in a committed relationship and cheats or chases committed people or underage people; has sex with their friends' partners; repeatedly wakes up with a hangover, pregnant or diseased and has no idea how it happened; accepts cash, vacations or jewelry for sex; promises eternal love without meaning it; breaks hearts; or breaks up families, that person might have opened himself up to being called any number of things, including slut.
Women, did you or do you have a bad reputation? Is/was it deserved? Do you regret it? Why were you "fast"? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to [email protected]. And check out my e-books, "Dear Cheryl: Advice from Tales from the Front" and "I'll Call You. Not."
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