Today, Kelly asks some interesting questions. Is virtue always rewarded? Is vice always punished? Or to put it more bluntly, do the good girls get the best guys? Or are the not-so-good girls walking away with them?
Kelly says she can remember from high school how shocked she was at the sexual promiscuity of some of the girls.
"My parents never talked to me about sex or the repercussions that came with making bad choices. I just made a decision early on that I wasn't going to sleep around just to be popular. I wasn't going to have sex with someone until I was good and ready."
Kelly says she made it through high school with her virginity intact. She was harassed when she got to college by girls on her dorm floor because of it. "But I held my head high and was determined to find my guy," she says.
Kelly says she was "very naive" back then. "I truly believed that as the guys got older, they'd realize that they didn't want a skanky girl as their wife and the mother of their children. Boy was I wrong! The skanks are the ones who went on to marry rich, successful men and live in the huge houses in the suburbs. The men didn't care. They just wanted Barbie Doll wives with good bodies for their arm candy.
"I still shake my head when I run into someone from high school who was just a sleazy girl and now she's living this wonderful fairy tale life because she found a guy who only cares about how good she is in bed, not what kind of morals she has.
"I'd love to hear what these women tell their daughters about their high school years. Is there any remorse on their part? It really makes my skin crawl when I think of it."
Kelly isn't bitter because the slutty girls grabbed up all the good guys. She's got a good one of her own. "I knew someday I'd find a guy who'd love me for who I am and not based on how good I was in bed. Thankfully I was right.
"Last September I celebrated my 25th anniversary with that guy, the only man I've ever slept with, and we have a wonderful 13-year-old boy whom we cherish more than anything in this world. We've had our ups and downs in our marriage, but we've worked it out and we're still going strong.
"With society the way it is, I'm very, very happy I have a son and not a daughter. I plan on having very open discussions with him regarding sex and dealing with the girls he'll meet. I want him to understand the importance of having a girl with morals and avoiding the skanky ones. It's my responsibility as his mother to send him out into the world as a man who respects women, rather than sees them as a sex object."
Do promiscuous girls wind up with rich, successful guys? Is Kelly wrong to resent them? Just because a girl had a lot of sex partners before she married, should be punished with a less-than-ideal spouse? Let's hear from the slutty girls and the guys who married them!
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