Chris says when guys sit around drinking and talking, the subject of exes often comes up, as in who has the worst. He says, "I'm tired of winning, so my story must be pretty bad."

Chris can sum up his life with his ex-wife Taylor through one little story.

He says: "Taylor was driving somewhere with her mom and our just barely four-year-old daughter. Someone ran into their minivan. The cops were called and the paramedics arrived in ambulances. The works."

At the time, Chris was half an hour away from the scene of the accident but just minutes away from the local children's hospital. Taylor called to tell him that their daughter was OK but she said her tummy hurt. The paramedics decided she should go to the hospital and be checked out. They would take her there in the ambulance. Chris told Taylor he would go straight to the hospital and meet them.

He says: "I arrived first and waited. When the ambulance showed up, my daughter was alone. She was scared stiff, strapped to a backboard, with her eyes as big as pie plates. Once she saw me, she relaxed a bit. She was basically okay, just shaken up a little and the seat belt had squeezed her belly a bit."

It's at this point in the story when people invariably ask: "Where was your wife? Where was your mother-in-law? Were they severely injured? Were they lying in a ditch? Had they been helicoptered to a regional trauma center?"

In other words, why did a 4-year-old have to go to the hospital in an ambulance by herself?

Chris says: "My ex did go to a different hospital to be checked out. There was nothing wrong with her. She didn't need a brace or an aspirin, not even a band-aid. And her mother? She stayed with the minivan so it could be towed.

"In my opinion (and the opinion of everyone who's heard this story) if you aren't bleeding to death on the side of the road, you belong in that ambulance with the child. This wasn't the first or the only horrendous thing Taylor did. In fact she's thrown the kids under the bus multiple times — like the time she made our six-year-old testify in court — but this was the final straw."

Chris has since remarried, and his wife gets along great with his kids. She's managed to undo some of the bad influence Taylor has had on them.

As an aside, before they married, Chris didn't tell his second wife much about Taylor. "I didn't really run her down a lot," he says. "I just said we didn't see eye to eye on some very basic issues. My wife has said that if I had told her how bad Taylor really was right at the beginning, she probably wouldn't have believed it."

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