It's so rare anyone says anything nice about adultery. So today we hear from Claire and Nora, who make the case.

CLAIRE: Marriage and a serious career for a woman don't mix because men want a woman who's always available and willing to serve and pamper them. I know. I've had and still have married lovers whose wives work.

Having a high-powered career that requires a woman to work long hours, travel extensively and bring work home regularly is just about guaranteed to send a man rushing to the internet looking for trouble. They can't stand not being the center of a woman's attention. Women can't have it all — the big career, the kids and a faithful husband who'll just wait at home while they roam the world. It goes against the grain. It ain't gonna happen.

So, ladies, it's your marriage or your hotshot career. You pick. And I'm not saying marriage is always the best choice. It's mostly drudgery. Do what's right for you. It's a lot easier being a part-time lover than a full-time wife.

For myself, I'm not a slave to some man. I have a high-powered career and am completely independent. I'm in an egalitarian open relationship.

The reason I date married men is not because I can't find an available single man. I date them because they're not monogamous and neither am I. The state of their marriage is none of my concern. If some wives are naive or deluded enough to believe their husbands are faithful despite all evidence to the contrary — and aren't prepared to embrace life without monogamy themselves — then that's their problem.

I'm neither bitter nor unhappy about life. A bit cynical? Perhaps.

NORA: Most, if not all, married men fool around on the side. I've had lots of affairs with married men. But I say why should a woman pick either career or marriage when her marriage will likely result in the same infidelity? Better she have the career to fall back on and take lovers of her own, no?

Women who think they have a great marriage are only fooling themselves. I counsel women to maintain their careers if they're going to be married because their man will most likely cheat no matter how solid they think their relationship is. And the things their husband will say about them while they're in bed with other women — like me — would break their hearts.

(On a side note, to the women out there swearing your men are faithful: It's so cute you think so!)

So, women, learn to play the game, and keep your dignity and your bank accounts intact. No woman should give up everything for a marriage and family. And believe me, once you get past the judgmental types and learn to not let those who are holier than thou bother you, you'll love all the hot sex you're having with someone else's husband, and the beautiful thing is, she'll be doing the nasty things like cooking and cleaning for him while you get to go on great vacations and get fabulous jewelry and then send him home! It's truly a great arrangement. Just do it!

What do you think about CLAIRE and NORA? Agree? Disagree? Or would you like to shoot them? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to [email protected]. And check out my e-books, "Dear Cheryl: Advice from Tales from the Front" and "I'll Call You. Not."