Dear Cheryl: Men seem to think that women are less interested in sex than they are. Wrong! I've had several relationships where I had a sexual appetite that was much larger than my boyfriend's. For instance, after sex, when I was interested in an encore, my partner would say something like: "Aren't you satisfied? What's wrong with you?"

I've been called a nymphomaniac. Can you believe that? And I've been accused of cheating because since I have such a huge appetite, then I must be getting sex elsewhere. I've had men suggest that I bring a girlfriend to the bedroom. One time I replied: "Why? So you could have two unsatisfied women?" No wonder I'm single, huh? — Lusty

Dear Lusty: (Attention male readers: I cannot give you Lusty's email address.)

Two of the many myths about sex are that men want it more than women and men want it all the time.

The only advice I can give you is to keep looking. One day you'll find a man whose sexual appetite matches yours. And then, good luck to both of you!

Dear Cheryl: I've been dating a nice guy, and I was relatively happy till a few months ago. I'm in my early 50s, and he's 60. Four months ago, his blood pressure was high and his doctor put him on medication. Poor baby's self-employed with no insurance.

The result? He can't maintain an erection. His solution? No more sex. I've been patient and understanding. I've done everything I can to be more seductive. I've tried sexy lingerie, being more aggressive, sending him suggestive text messages. Nothing.

My question is: Shouldn't he have sex with me just to make me happy? I've heard men say to a pregnant wife that even if they can't have intercourse anymore, there are still things that they can do. So, just because my boyfriend can't have intercourse, he could do something! Coitus is out, but there are other ways to pleasure a partner. I think he's being selfish. — His Blood Pressure May Be Low, but My Blood Is Boiling!

Dear HBPMBLBMBIB!: Let's look at this from his point of view. He's got high blood pressure. That's not good. He's got no health insurance. That's really not good. And now he can't maintain an erection? Ouch!

Pleasing you is probably the last thing on his mind.

If you're interested in having a long-term relationship with him, then forget about sex for a while. What you're doing with the fancy lingerie, sex talk and aggressive behavior is just adding to his stress. Give him a chance to adjust to his health issues. Continue being patient and loving.

After a month or so, ask him how he's feeling. Ask him when he thinks he'll be ready to resume sexual contact. If he hasn't discussed his erection difficulties with his doctor, suggest he do so. Let him know you care about him and that he's not dealing with this alone.

At that point, you should be in a better position to know what whether he's willing to do anything to satisfy you and whether it's enough for you. Stay in touch.

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