Dear Cheryl: My boyfriend broke up with me three weeks ago. Out of nowhere, he told me he "wanted something different." Then he called me last night and said he wants to get back together. Do I look like a yo-yo?

I've been thinking of some terms for getting back together and redefining the relationship. A male friend said I should make him send me flowers, get on his knees and beg for forgiveness, and write me a letter explaining why he broke up with me, in which he apologizes for it and promises not to do it again. What do you think? — I Might Be Willing to Try Again If the Terms Are Right

Dear IMBWTTAITTAR: Let me get this straight. Everything with your boyfriend is cozy one day. The next day, he breaks up with you. Three weeks later, he wants you back. Is he 15 years old? If he is, then his behavior is perfectly acceptable. If he's not, then he's a jerk. And why would you want to be involved with a jerk? Regardless of what terms you come up with, he's not going to honor them.

And by the way, your friend is a jerk, too. His advice stinks. And about the yo-yo thing: If you take your boyfriend back, you not only look like a yo-yo — you are a yo-yo!

Dear Cheryl: Chuck and I were friends for seven years before we became boyfriend and girlfriend. We were lovers for five years and lived together for three of those years. Our relationship ended because he didn't want to take it to the next level. I broke up with him and moved out, but we stayed friends.

I met Rick, and I've been with him for three years. We live together in another state. I went home last year around the holidays and ran into Chuck. Since then, I haven't been able to get him off my mind. We talk all the time, and he tells me he still loves me. I feel the same, but I haven't told him.

I'm going home again soon, and he wants to meet up. I don't know what to do. This is causing a rift with Rick because my whole mood has changed. I'm not being fair to anyone involved, including myself. I really believe that Chuck is my soul mate and that I'm getting a second chance. But Rick has done nothing wrong to deserve this. — I Want Everybody to Be Happy

Dear IWETBH: First of all, has Chuck told you he's ready to take the relationship to the next level this time around? Or is he just offering you more of the same? And if that's all he's offering you, why would you settle now when you didn't settle three years ago? You need to know whether he has changed before you get involved with him again, or history could repeat itself.

As for Rick, it's obvious you don't love him, so why are you with him? Whether or not you get back together with Chuck, Rick needs to know that you're not committed to him. If you want to be fair to him, be honest with him. He doesn't deserve to be with a woman who's only with him because she's not with the man she really loves.

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