Self-restraint is a very attractive quality. However, because self-restraint is defined by its absence — by what one doesn't say, show or do — it very much takes a person with imagination, empathy or wisdom to appreciate the quality. Such kindred spirits are not hard to find as relationship-oriented Venus lines up fatefully with Saturn.

ARIES (March 21-April 19). You can't change people (if you could, perhaps your home would be a lot cleaner without your efforts), but you can certainly inspire them, deter them and choose how long to be around them.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You put yourself out there, and now you cringe to think of how. It only means that you have guts. Truly, the best out there have had similar experiences. You're on your way to becoming a master.

GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Someone who is listening to you and tracking with you on matters of minutiae as well as the things that matter most to you: This is not only flattering and validating; it's practically intoxicating.

CANCER (June 22-July 22). You care, but you don't always call. Maybe you're afraid of getting hooked into the situation and not being able to get out of it. This is a legitimate fear. Decide before the interaction how far you're willing to go with it.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). While managing the practicalities of life we sometimes minimize the importance of being able to make others feel good. After all, what does the bottom line have to do with other people's feelings? Answer: everything.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Wanting is fun. It's fun all weekend! It's fun even after you realize that getting what you want won't bring happiness. Oh, well! The chase — now that's something you're going to remember.

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You're not getting the help you once were getting — good! You've grown to the place where you can handle a lot more on your own, and because of this you don't have to report to anyone. Relish the freedom!

SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It's amazing how people change the rules to accommodate their fascinations and preferences. Lucky for you, you've the preference and the fascination that will lead to favorable changes.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). When you're not sure of your social standing, the thing to do is to host a party. Not only will you discover the social lay of the land but also it will be your pleasure to put this all together.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A critical mind can be a great gift. Your ability to discern the necessary bits from the unnecessary bits will make you more productive, popular and effective all-around.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). One way is to reach, wander and quest until you find what you're looking for. It's not the only way, and this weekend it's not the best way, either. If you stay in one place, the world is sure to come to you.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Before you do the heavy lifting, physically, emotionally or otherwise, pause to ask yourself if there's another way to float this. Look for elevators. Good sense may prevent a strain.

TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 29). Sort out the finances, and the next 10 weeks will bring you new resources you can use all year. With the healing of a relationship, you will no longer feel you have to go to great lengths to earn someone's love. A new creative channel will open in you this year, too. Love is among the friends you meet pursuing it. Cancer and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 4, 20, 45 and 13.

ASTROLOGICAL QUESTIONS: "About three years ago I wrote you about my boyfriend. Although there are many positive connections in our charts, there are also some squares that occasionally show themselves. I'm a Capricorn, and he is a Scorpio. Your response was hopeful and positive, indicating our relationship was binding and could make it through the long run. Now he has moved four hours away from me because he took a new job. I didn't want him to go. I told him to follow his intuition so he would have no regrets. Now he has taken the job and is completely unhappy. I only see him twice a month. I don't know what to expect anymore. Any insight you can offer would be greatly appreciated."

Oh, Capricorn — as much as you like to be right, how you hate it when they don't follow your advice! This separation, however, is largely positive. In your secret heart you probably sense that he needs his autonomy now, and you do, too. How can you follow your dreams when you're so concerned about his life? You're in the perfect position. All you have to do is believe it.

CELEBRITY PROFILES: Winona Ryder grew up on the silver screen, debuting at the age of 15 in the 1986 film "Lucas." The "Stranger Things" star is a Scorpio (with Mercury and Venus in Scorpio, too) who is drawn to projects that highlight that mysterious air and magnetic charisma her sign is known for. Her Pisces moon is a secret weapon for morphing into characters.

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