Q: Last week our new neighbor asked me what my family plans are for Thanksgiving.

She said that Thanksgiving was never very important in her family growing up, and that the same was true for her husband. However, she is pregnant and wants to create her own traditions. They want to make their family happy and comfortable.

With this in mind, how can we welcome them to the neighborhood and help them enjoy their Thanksgiving?

A: I treat Thanksgiving as our happiest and most joyful holiday of the year. This is the day we reconnect with our families, have time to relax, share our favorite recipes, express our gratitude and catch up on what others have accomplished during the year. And we don't have to worry about presents!

Nothing could be more creative than welcoming your new neighbors to the community by inviting them over for a Thanksgiving dessert. You can include them in the festivities and show them how many of us celebrate. Maybe it will become their new favorite holiday.

Your care and advice will help steer them to a happier outlook for future holidays. — Doug

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Q: The holidays are coming up, and I'm happy that I don't have to deal with putting on Thanksgiving for my family. This year, my daughter and her family will be hosting my husband and me. It's a definite change of pace!

That said, I want to be a good guest and contribute to our holiday celebration. What do you recommend?

A: For starters, be on time and listen to the host. Many people have the best intentions but make assumptions about holidays and decide to come early. This can cause serious timing problems, which you may have experienced yourself. Arriving early puts pressure on the hosts and distracts them from completing necessary tasks.

Make sure to account for traffic before leaving. Arriving late poses similar complications and frustrates the other guests. Nobody wants the food to get cold!

Ask your daughter beforehand if you can bring a dish for the family to enjoy. This will lessen her culinary burden and free up some kitchen space. She may have fond memories of your cooking, and you would contribute in the sense of continuing a tradition. Choose a dessert or something that doesn't need to be reheated. These items travel well and don't require oven space, as it'll already be crowded.

Most importantly, bring a great attitude and prepare to be grateful. Holidays are meant to be enjoyed despite life's stresses. Don't allow outside events to ruin the day. Additionally, consider some conversation topics you can have on hand. Avoid the usual suspects of sex, religion and politics.

Because your daughter is trying to establish her own traditions, follow her lead. Try to support her in making a wonderful Thanksgiving for all. — Emma, Doug's granddaughter

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at [email protected]. Emma, Doug's granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.