Dear Doug from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Mon, 01 Jun 2020 08:39:49 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Dear Doug from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/dear-doug-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug 6049c035c2ff0c21d04801ec2061731e Take Your Time for 04/27/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/04/20/take-your-time-b2874 Mon, 27 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Q: I'm a lonely widower who would like to find the same sense of companionship I had when I was married. I found a lovely woman six months ago who I think would be a wonderful partner.</p> <p>While I'm thinking about our possibility to marry in the future, I'm not sure she's on the same page. She doesn't seem as interested in me as I am in her. We seem very compatible, although we obviously have our own pasts and our own idiosyncrasies. I think we would work well together.<p>Updated: Mon Apr 27, 2020</p> a20cd78e4cf0c6cd582565eeb621f3f1 Truth Is Mandatory for 04/20/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/04/20/truth-is-mandatory-24689 Mon, 20 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Q: A couple of years ago, I met a widowed lady. She has become a good friend, but no romantically speaking. I believe she is afraid to make another commitment, as she and her husband had their problems but chose not to divorce because of breaking up their family. </p> <p>We enjoy each other's company on a regular basis and thus far have not had any arguments. We both have mutual friends who wonder why we are not a couple. She is a caring, loving lady who always maintains a positive attitude. <p>Updated: Mon Apr 20, 2020</p> 7c4d4a9e6e1103428f07620282bcb0ff Some People Are Happy Being Unhappy for 04/13/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/04/20/some-people-are-happy-being-unhappy Mon, 13 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Q: No one can out-depress my new neighbor! I have learned not to ask her how she is. She spends at least 30 minutes giving me details of why she is depressed.</p> <p>When she moved in, I invited her for dinner, took her shopping and even agreed to pick up her meds for her. She has never thanked me. Now I try to hide from her because she upsets me so with her requests and demands.<p>Updated: Mon Apr 13, 2020</p> c4f2b22ba0b1fa9d964b0609d6ad7204 Internal Positivity for 03/30/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/03/20/internal-positivity Mon, 30 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Q: I've always been very influenced by other people. Even though I find it easy to be happy and upbeat when things are good, I find my mood plunging whenever things start to go wrong.</p> <p>How can I keep my mood up when things go wrong?<p>Updated: Mon Mar 30, 2020</p> 047f51e6460f5fb0da685a8090f154b1 Coupon Obsession for 03/23/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/03/20/coupon-obsession Mon, 23 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Q: My wife and I looked forward to retirement for a long time. I devoted most of my time to a demanding job and am now taking my time and enjoying life. We made enough money to live comfortably for a long time to come.</p> <p>We have no serious debts, and our mortgage is almost paid off. But you wouldn't know our financial situation based on my wife's habits. She's obsessed with coupons and deals!<p>Updated: Mon Mar 23, 2020</p> 8576eac92b28a83d93159cfd3ec250d2 Back to Dating for 03/16/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/03/20/back-to-dating Mon, 16 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Q: My wife and I were unhappy together for at least the last 15 years of our marriage. We recognized that our relationship wasn't going to get any better, so we bit the bullet and filed for divorce. It went about as smoothly as possible and is now finalized. We still love each other but weren't good partners.</p> <p>Now that I'm single, I'm ready to step back into the dating scene. I don't want to be alone, but I felt like I couldn't start anything while I was still going through the divorce.<p>Updated: Mon Mar 16, 2020</p> 0a6d638feae9dd6fe12f13be81ca9b7c Senior Depression for 03/09/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/03/20/senior-depression Mon, 09 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Q: My mom has been on her own since my dad passed away about a decade ago. She dealt with it reasonably well and even dated for a while.</p> <p>Now she's not doing so well. She's sad all the time and has retreated from her regular activities. Our family is pretty sure she's depressed.</p> <p>What are the best ways to address this? Is it natural, or can we help?<p>Updated: Mon Mar 09, 2020</p> 4ea8075236cfa8cbc591fd2ce6e26685 Keeping Young for 03/02/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/03/20/keeping-young Mon, 02 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: Some people just seem to age better. I am in my late 60s and just moved into a retirement community with my husband.</p> <p>Being around so many seniors has made me really think about how differently people age. Some people here are around my age, but you couldn't tell by looking at them. They easily look a decade older.<p>Updated: Mon Mar 02, 2020</p> e19c5972c77e4255fddfc00bfdc297c1 Grandchild Favoritism for 02/24/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/02/20/grandchild-favoritism Mon, 24 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Q: I feel bad about it, but I have a favorite grandchild. My wife and I only had one child and didn't have the problem of comparing him with any siblings.</p> <p>Now he has two children of his own, and I like my granddaughter more than her brother. She's very thoughtful and sweet. My grandson is sweet as well, but he's like a tornado. He creates a little chaos wherever he goes.</p> <p>What's a grandparent to do?<p>Updated: Mon Feb 24, 2020</p> cd0ddf99cb4eff306b433cb4d6937c27 Too Many Apologies for 02/17/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/02/20/too-many-apologies Mon, 17 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Q: Recently, a friend told me that I can be awfully negative. Apparently, I'm always apologizing for small things &#8212; to the point where it puts people off.</p> <p>I was shocked. We've known each other a long time, and I know that she has my best interests at heart, but it still stung. I've always tried to be conscientious about other people and their time and boundaries, and I thought that apologizing for things is just polite.</p> <p>What am I doing wrong?<p>Updated: Mon Feb 17, 2020</p> 05a1d3ef97d78ecded58f04d58282b9d Senior Valentines for 02/10/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/02/20/senior-valentines Mon, 10 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: My wife and I celebrated our 53rd wedding anniversary last year. None of our friends have reached that milestone, and I feel very blessed. But there are some things that get harder with time.</p> <p>Due to our age, neither of us is as mobile as we once were. We both used to enjoy going out for a big date, but we haven't felt up for it the last few years. Dealing with traffic, busy restaurants and other inconveniences is just too exhausting.<p>Updated: Mon Feb 10, 2020</p> 43972abbef2011750c515e8aee3dba46 House Rules for 02/03/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/02/20/house-rules Mon, 03 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: We have two grandsons, 8 and 10 years old, and they're both great kids. Unlike many of our friends, we're lucky to live near our family and be part of their childhood memories. Part of that means that they spend a lot of time at our home. But they are so messy! They leave toys and dirty clothes all over and run roughshod over our dog. My husband and I are exhausted by the end whenever they visit. It's a major cleaning endeavor.</p> <p>My daughter and son-in-law don't seem to realize the problem. They don't have the same problems at home and haven't brought up the subject with their children at all.<p>Updated: Mon Feb 03, 2020</p> 6f32b3ad24b77f3e0143e08cbee32adb Old Hurts for 01/27/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/01/20/old-hurts-4fa07 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: Growing up, I always felt like my mother didn't love me. She was critical and unsupportive, and I believe that she regretted having me at all. I am an only child and was unplanned.</p> <p>My father did his best to show his love for me, and my relationship with him showed me how lacking my bond with my mother is and was. She has never once told me she loves me.<p>Updated: Mon Jan 27, 2020</p> 7436464bd3a61c02cd6403b3ce0b045e Learning New Tricks in Old Age for 01/20/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/01/20/learning-new-tricks-in-old-age Mon, 20 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: For as long as I've been alive, I've never bought a car. My husband always took care of it, but he passed away several years ago.</p> <p>My current car has lasted me a long time but is on its last legs. <p>Updated: Mon Jan 20, 2020</p> b1a9213d6dea2ec8726e62d40db97150 Exercise Plan for 01/13/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/01/20/exercise-plan Mon, 13 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: I just turned 70 and have always been in good health. Despite my luck, I'm noticing that I share the same aches and pains as my friends.</p> <p>I've maintained my weight since my 30s. I don't smoke, and I rarely drink. I'm active but not with any particular plan. Instead, I've kept up with nature walks, the occasional tennis match and housework.<p>Updated: Mon Jan 13, 2020</p> fa40c05d7aa91e19cdadf6c080f24579 Self-Sufficiency for 01/06/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/01/20/self-sufficiency Mon, 06 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: My husband passed away six years ago, and moving on has been a process. We were married for 37 years, and being on my own is strange, even now.</p> <p>I never realized how much of my identity was formed by our relationship. We grew around each other with our own interests and talents. Beyond just missing my spouse, I've found myself having to change a lot more about my life than I ever could've guessed.<p>Updated: Mon Jan 06, 2020</p> 7505759d71877312a7785066b9681415 Too Late for Change? for 12/30/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/12/19/too-late-for-change Mon, 30 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: People around me have been talking about their plans for the new year, especially their resolutions for 2020.</p> <p>I always liked making my own resolutions but haven't made any for the last several years. Because of my age, I make excuses that any plans don't matter and that my health could fail me at any time.<p>Updated: Mon Dec 30, 2019</p> 28712274b07114705e0a7a07a6ffa181 Family Entertainment for 12/23/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/12/19/family-entertainment Mon, 23 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: My wife and I have been getting excited to have all of our children and grandchildren over for Christmas. This is the only time all year that we all get to be in the same room at the same time.</p> <p>It doesn't happen every time, but often at least one grandchild gets worn out from the party and gets fussy. We have one grandson who's 14, but the other six are all under the age of 10.<p>Updated: Mon Dec 23, 2019</p> da4411ee67eded1d00e1a3604c0dd214 Gift Equalizing for 12/16/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/12/19/gift-equalizing Mon, 16 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: This Christmas, I wanted to give my grandchildren some of our family heirlooms. I was planning to give jewelry to my three granddaughters and a watch to one of my two grandsons.</p> <p>Unfortunately, I don't think my other grandson would appreciate that sort of present. From previous experience, I've learned that he wants cash, and I honestly believe that he might sell whatever I'd choose for him.<p>Updated: Mon Dec 16, 2019</p> b16d314cc6a1591019f66b236983c9ba Communication Setbacks for 12/09/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/dear-doug/12/19/communication-setbacks Mon, 09 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Q: It's getting harder and harder for our family to talk to my dad. He's in his early 90s and still up and moving, but he's no longer on top of it.</p> <p>Our main problem is that he doesn't make sense. He starts talking about topics without any introduction, so we spend several minutes in confusion. He also doesn't seem to listen to our responses consistently.<p>Updated: Mon Dec 09, 2019</p>