Dear Annie: I would like to know why stores allow people to bring their pets inside. I have seen dogs sitting in the carts with their blankets as the owners push through the store. I often see one particular owner at the same store. She appears to like the attention the dog brings, as she stands and talks a lot to anyone who passes.
My grandson is allergic to dogs and cats and would get quite sick if he were put in the same cart after an animal has been in it.
I have had many cats, dogs, pigs and horses over the years and have loved them all, but would never think to bring them into stores where they could cause someone else to suffer respiratory distress. Maybe these pet owners don't think about the people they could adversely affect. — Please Leave Animals at Home
Dear Home: Of course they don't think about other people's sensitivities. They are too focused on their own. Many stores now feel obligated to allow pets because so many folks claim they are "comfort animals" with legal protection. This is often not the case, but stores are reluctant to challenge their patrons. Instead of expecting others to be more considerate (good luck with that), those with allergies must take their own precautions. Many stores now offer disinfectant wipes for their carts, but we recommend you bring your own, just in case.
Dear Annie: I am tired of you saying "try harder" to women who, like me, are past the age of 50 and tired of the sexual demands of our partners.
I like sex, provided it is satisfying to both partners. The "slam bam thank you mam" type doesn't count. I would like a little foreplay. I would like to be touched at other times. I would like to be respected and appreciated. I would like to be given some attention during the hour it takes for the Viagra to take effect and not jumped on when he's ready.
Oh, sorry, I didn't intend to make this about me. Because it's all about him. It was all about him when he was 20 and had the sex drive of a rabbit. It was all about him when he was 30 and trying to prove he was adequate. And it is still all about him. There are things I refuse to do because I find them distasteful. There are things he cannot do, and then he blames me for his inadequacies. And he looks at porn online, saying I "don't give him what he needs."
I refuse to be treated like an object any more. We've already been to counseling. It doesn't work because he "doesn't need it." He just wants more sex. — Tired of Sex, So Blame Me
Dear Tired: Our advice to "try harder" is for women whose husbands are kind and loving, but the women's libido is nonexistent and they have no interest in any sexual activity.This is obviously not the case for you. Your husband seems selfish, and your reluctance to please him has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with feeling unappreciated. Counseling is for you, not him. Try it on your own.
"Annie's Mailbox" is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar. This column was originally published in 2015. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at www.creators.com.