Dear Annie: I have been in a relationship for a year, and my boyfriend has already cheated on me twice. In fact, he continues to talk and text with one of these ladies, and she recently posted a picture of them hugging closely.
My boyfriend says they are just friends, and he doesn't see how it affects me. I happen to know he slept with her in the back of her car. Also, he blew money we needed for bills to see her. When I found out, I was furious. He couldn't seem to apologize to me, but he did apologize to her.
How am I supposed to believe he loves me when all he does is hurt me? — Crying in California
Dear Crying: Your boyfriend doesn't love you. He probably likes you, but he also likes a lot of other women and sees no reason not to be "friendly" with them. He will continue to hurt you in this fashion as long as you permit it. You can cry and yell and forgive him over and over, but things are not likely to change.
Please work on doing what's best for YOU. We think that means breaking it off with the boyfriend and strengthening your self-worth. You will miss him, but you certainly don't need him. A little short-term unhappiness is better than a lifetime of misery.
Dear Annie: I am the president of a local women's organization. One member disrupts every meeting with her need to speak. She stands up and yells across the room. Sometimes she gets excited and waves her arms. She has an unpleasant, scratchy voice and always knows more about every subject than the person speaking. She occasionally points out how her accomplishments have exceeded those of others.
I always make it a point to put her on the agenda and ask her to speak on some project she has knowledge about. But it is never enough attention. I tried controlling her through strict adherence to the rules of order, but it's had no effect. She has been encouraged to have her hearing checked to see whether perhaps she isn't aware of how she sounds, but she won't do it. I have repeatedly tried to point out to her as kindly as possible how her behavior appears to others, but she refuses to change. Everyone in the community knows about her obnoxious behavior, and most avoid her. We have had members leave because of her.
She is a good-hearted person and works tirelessly to further causes she believes in. In the past, I have enjoyed her company on a one-on-one basis. But I am ready to ask her to quit our club to avoid losing more members. Is there any other way to resolve this? — Frustrated President
Dear Frustrated: Probably not. You apparently have tried every possible gambit to get her to stop monopolizing the meetings (although "strict adherence" to the rules doesn't seem terribly strict). She also may have a physical or mental health issue that makes it difficult for her to recognize or control her behavior. Your final option is to tell her that she is driving people away, and that if she cannot pipe down at meetings, you will be forced to ask her to leave.
Dear Annie: This is in response to "Distraught Mother," who was upset that her son-in-law doesn't do more for her daughter on the days when she has chemo. When I went through chemotherapy for breast cancer, I didn't really feel the side effects of nausea, fatigue and pain for at least two days after. On the days when I felt up to it, I enjoyed doing for others.
You don't always want to be treated like you're sick. I know her anxiety and distress come from love for her daughter, but the daughter and her husband know best. — LG
This Classic Annie's Mailbox column was originally published in 2013. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at www.creators.com.