Dear Annie: My father-in-law "Ron" is having an affair. At first I was not sure, but now I have proof, and my husband has seen his father with this woman, as well. Even my in-laws have told us that they only coexist with one another. I am not sure if my husband's mother knows of the affair. She might.
Since we saw my father-in-law with this woman, things have not been the same between him and my husband. My mother-in-law is not the same, either. One minute she is fine and the next she is not.
We will be leaving soon for a joint family vacation and I am not sure I want to be there. I don't even want to bring my children to their home to visit. My father-in-law has cheated before. I think my mother-in-law should divorce him and my husband agrees. He said his parents never seemed compatible when he was growing up. It seemed as though they were forced to be together because of his sister and him.
I want to tell my mother-in-law and give her my evidence. My husband says to leave it alone. He says he needs time. But I feel his mother needs to know now, the sooner the better. I don't want to be the one who knew all about his affair and did nothing. — I am Hurting, Too
Dear Hurting: This is truly not your business, and forcing your mother-in-law to confront her husband's behavior (of which she is undoubtedly aware) may not be in her best interest. Sometimes, a spouse chooses to ignore evidence in order to maintain the status quo. It is not up to you to decide whether a divorce is better for her. What you can do, however, is tell your father-in-law what you know. Anyone who cheats is exposing a spouse to sexually transmitted diseases, and this is something the spouse should know.
Dear Annie: I live in a retirement community. You would think a great many residents would have either spent time in the service or know someone who has.
It is so difficult for me to drive through the streets and see only a few homes with flags out on Memorial Day or Flag Day. You can buy flags at the dollar store, for heaven's sake. When I think of all the young women and men who have sacrificed so much for our country, it is hard to understand.
I hope people get this message, and when July Fourth comes around, we will see flags at every home. Thank you. — J.
Dear J.: What an excellent idea. Homes used to come with flag holders attached near a door or window so people could hang large flags on poles for these occasions. But it is certainly easy enough to pick up a small flag on a stick and put it on your lawn or by the curb. It doesn't matter if you are "red state" or "blue state." We all love our country and appreciate our freedoms. If you don't own a flag, please get one. And if you have one, please display it properly on these national holidays.
Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of This Classic Annie's Mailbox column was originally published in 2015. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at www.creators.com.