The good old days? They're closer than you think. In fact, they're right here, alongside. Believe it: Upbeat memories are all around. And while they're the perfect fuel for sunny tomorrows, their real function is to add hope and encouragement to the ups and downs of our life journey. It's in that spirit that I'm reprising my son Scott's comments that became the epilogue of my second book. …

"It is quite unusual for the son of the author to write the epilogue for a book, especially this kind of book, but when that author (my mother) and I were talking recently, it became clear that I was in a unique position to offer comments, and that my epilogue might be a good way to cap this work. I've known her as mother and columnist, as single woman, single parent, and as friend, and I've seen the many stages that led to the completion of this book.

"From my close vantage point I see how she has lived this material before setting it down in print, how she has brought herself from feelings of helplessness and self-pity to the pride and self-affirmation that come from an inspired creative process. I've watched her grow as a person and as a parent, taking control of her life and developing self-determination. All of this enables her to be a much better mother, and our relationship has strengthened. I can affirm the value of the ideas embodied in this book because I've seen them put to the test and provide sure guidance to a life.

"Essentially, this is a book of empowerment. At every step of the way, her goal has been to offer those ideas and techniques that can bring greater understanding and fulfillment, so that single men and women in transition can take advantage of their singleness and have greater control of their lives — with growing confidence in the wholeness of their inner resources.

"This book can be a valuable catalyst and support system, pointing the way toward a more satisfying life. I know better than anyone else that it was written with the conviction that each one of us can fulfill our dreams and our unique potential, as I know that my mother is striving to fulfill hers."

As mother to that soul, all I can say is Wow. Scott is a rare treasure in this unsettled world. Enough, or this outpouring will end up tear-stained and soggy. Best to move on to another item from the recent past. This, the promise given the single community as introduction to my Web site. The site itself has been postponed, but the feelings that inspired the following are stronger than ever:

MY PLEDGE

This Web site is all about you. That's my promise. And if you've been following my advice (in books, online, in print, on radio and television) over the past 20-odd years, you know I don't make (or take) promises lightly.

You won't find the usual thinking or stale stereotypes here. What you will find is a warm and welcoming gathering place, a community that always has room for one more person, any age, any stage. Here you'll be teased and tempted, gently lured into self-discovery. It'll happen through tips, quizzes and hints. Without feeling stressed or strained, you'll enjoy doing Exercises in Singleness.

This, as you probably guessed, is a resting place. This is a site where you can enjoy thinking at a slow and easy pace. I promise no easy, trite answers here, friend. But it is likely that you'll get to know this person you've become. This is a lush garden of self-discovery, one you'll come to often for refreshment and renewal. And every visit will encourage you to build a life on your strengths (unique, yours alone) and make your marital status incidental.

Write to Susan Deitz c/o this newspaper. She will answer all letters that come with a self-addressed, stamped envelope. Or you may e-mail her at info@creators.com.

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