Q: Most of us get our news by reading, watching TV or using the Internet. Especially when disasters occur, we are glued to the radio and electronic devices for updates. Luckily in our case, we have never experienced a major disaster. However, we are sympathetic regardless of the location and may learn that relatives, friends or business relationships were there.

My husband and I believe that because we are in our 70s, we would be less able to take care of ourselves because we live in a retirement community, and that our relatives would need time to reach us.

We also get depressed because of the ongoing negative drumbeat repetition by all of the media. We worry, and we are frightened and lonely. How can we lift our spirits and look forward to a positive outlook?

A: Your concerns are understandable and pertinent. However, you do have options to perk yourself up. First, be thankful that the event did not occur where you live. Then think about the survivors and their grief and some way becoming involved in helping.

Many national charitable organizations are working with the victims. They need help financially. Could you send a small check to one of the national charities to help out?

To help maintain your objectivity, balance and positive attitude, be thankful, along with the survivors that this is was not the end of this world. Remind yourself we have all had our good and bad times. Focus on how lucky and grateful you are that it did not happen to you! Keep yourselves active and busy. Seek out a neighbor who is also downtrodden and share your feelings. Think thoughts that just make you feel better. Brooding and replaying the news is self-destructive. Switch the channel to "I Love Lucy" or your favorite sports channel.

Regardless of where you live, pack a small emergency bag you could carry which contained a contact list of your relatives, medications details, a small flashlight, a spare pair of classes if needed and any other items that would be important should a local disaster occur.

There are always some positives to be sorted out from disasters. Consider them. Suffering takes time and patience before it reveals itself and begins your healing. Remember grief goes away when you decide it will.

As Mark Twain said: The best way to cheer you up is to try to cheer somebody else up."

Q: As a doting grandmother, I have been bragging about my grandson's college graduation in June. I finished the sixth grade, and he will be the first college graduate in our family. One friend told me I was overdoing it. How can I tone down by enthusiasm?

A: Could it be that your friend is jealous? You have earned your turn to have "bragging" rights. All grandmothers have earned their medals.

If you face future criticism say, '"I know I am probably boring you, but I hope you will allow me a few bragging rights now. I will do so when it is your turn, too!"

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at [email protected]. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.