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Security "Heads Up!"


Q. I am an elderly widow and live alone in a large house and fearful that my surroundings are not as secure as they should be. I often wake up when I hear a strange noise. What might help calm me down?

A. I understand, and here are some suggestions that may prove helpful. Install a security system and make certain you stake a highly visible security company's warning sign. Secure sliding glass doors and windows with wooden dowels in the moving slots that will only allow a couple of inches to open. Make sure all entrances are well lit. Motion-sensing lights are important additions. Keep bushes, shrubs and trees trimmed to make your home more visable. When you use valet parking, have your car repaired or other services, separate the one key needed by the service person from your ring and keep the other keys. Make sure your house number is prominently displayed should you need to make a 911 call for help and quicker response. Know and stay in contact with your neighbors and keep them informed as to your activities or vacation plans, and ask them to pick up unwanted flyers and trash thrown on your driveway when you're out of town. Offer to do the same for them. Share a copy of your families' phone numbers in the event of a fire, natural disaster, a stranger scouting the neighborhood or a parked car sitting at your curb that does not seem to be appropriate. There is no way to assure that thieves will not try to gain access to your home.

Being aware of that, be especially watchful and alert during the holiday months when they are in greater need. Last week l accidently forgot to lock my car while grocery shopping, and a thief got my cellphone! Activating security precautions is worth your time and effort! — BETTY


Q. We are the parents of two daughters whose ages are 3 and 6. All four grandparents are alive. We struggle to find appropriate holiday gifts for them. They all have their "stuff" and do not really need more things. What can we do?

A. Homemade and creative gifts are what all grandparents love and are most wanted! Some ideas that may work are to purchase an empty pillbox and fill it with jellybeans. White ceramic coffee cups are available at the dollar stores. Assist the kids in drawing pictures or love notes for the grandparents using ceramic paint. You can also create a gift by using white paper plates and crayons. How about gifting a greeting card that includes a come-along meal at a restaurant or an invitation to visit a zoo or park. In today's world, it seems most photos are shot with digital cameras, but very few are actually printed out. This means grandparents' "bragging" photo albums have become big-time winning gifts. Hopefully, these thoughts may prove to serve your purposes! — DOUG

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California Retirement community. Contact him at Betty is an associate of Doug Mayberry, whom she helps with this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at



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