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Choosing a Place For Mom!


Q. I am a full-time working widow. My mother is not well and now needs to live in a place that offers full-time care, safety, some social interaction and peace. She is on a limited budget, and I help out financially as much as possible. Because of my work schedule, I can only check out a possible spot for her on weekends. Do you have some suggestions as to how to prioritize my efforts and find the best location for her? If you can, please also recommend how I can locate a to-do list for the best questions to evaluate her new home — it would be of great help!

A. Many good sources are available, such as local, state, national, charitable and private organizations. Start by asking for advice from friends who now have parents in similar homes, your mother's doctor, nurses, religious counselors and retirement professionals. Check out the U.S. News & World Report website, which compiles an annual checklist of health care options and pertinent questions to ask before making a commitment. Their checklist is free on their website. If you do not have a computer, either a friend or neighbor could prove helpful. Local library computer help is available, inexpensive and employs staffers who are knowledgeable and will willingly guide you through information and printouts. A wise idea is to visit prospective locations to discover which would be most suitable for your mom. Every home and location has its own personality and features that make a difference. Before making your final choice, you will need to make compromises, but the most important factor is how well the management and staff will take care of your mother.

Mothers are special and have earned the right to be treated special!


Q. My wife and I retired nearly five years ago but failed to factor in what now appears to be less money than we projected. We are becoming more and more concerned about what lies ahead and if we will have enough money for our needs. Will costs of living continue upward?

A. Yes. However, I'm second-guessing what direction different categories will be most effected. Last year who would have guessed "gasoline"? However, as an overview, you can be assured prices are rising and will continue to rise. Overspending is a major cause, and although the value of money will fluctuate, percentages will change. Some slated to increase in 2015 include all insurance rates, including heath, auto and homeowners; condo maintenance fees; hotel room rates; chocolate; beef; bourbon; coffee; butter and cranberries. We already know Girl Scout cookie prices were up and sold more. Grandparents know why! Costs projected to lower this year include international airline tickets, but baggage and other junk fees will be a factor; TV sets; cable fees; some clothing categories; smart phones; some fast-food items; and newspaper and magazine prices. A bonus is that there will be more dollar store openings, which will offer more name brands on their shelves. Always remember prices are often based on what the market will bear. Be prepared!

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California Retirement community. Contact him at Betty is a friend of Doug Mayberry, whom she helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at



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Pop in unannounced to several of the facilities. You will quickly get a feel for the place. My mother enjoys her assisted living lodge. No matter what time of day we visit the staff and residents are friendly and welcoming. Do not expect perfection but sniff the air to see what's cooking. Note the activities taking place some facilities have nothing on weekends and this is a sign of neglect because residents live there 24/7. You can't choose a facility by remote control.Also check state reports on the facility. If most of the staff do not speak English this is a red flag as communication is paramont.
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