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Growing Older Advantages!


Q. My husband and I are in our 70s. Our aches and pains are becoming more evident. As Peggy Lee sang: "Is That All There Is?" We try to maintain a positive outlook, but sometimes are not successful and feel sorry for ourselves. As an overview and some wishful thinking, what is your opinion of how we can be more upbeat?

A. Aging is challenging because we all experience down days. One of the best proven ways to combat and overcome those days is to learn how to laugh more. Life does not need to become too serious, and we need to combat our negative thinking and those things over which we do not control.

Here is a positive checklist that may be worth posting on your bathroom mirror!

1. I'm still here!

2. My view is better now that I am over the hill.

4. I can always tell my stories, and some are willing to listen to their repetition.

5. Recalling and remembering comes back, but it takes a little more time.

6. I am willing to take bets on which of my body parts will fail me next.

7. I still get a pass from the family when I say, "I don't remember hearing that."

8. My kids have moved out and taken their stuff.

9. Nodding off while someone is talking to you is acceptable.

10. Real friends do not criticize your remarks.

12. You do not have to pay for gas, insurance or car washes when you give up your license.

13. You are no longer afraid to dodge the truth and can talk to your grandchildren about money and sex.

14. When you call your dog, he will crawl on up on your lap to comfort you.

15. You no longer have to apologize about your drinking and eating habits.

16. Family and friends never call during scheduled nap times.

17. You do not need to answer your phone.

18. If you are hungry, call a family member or the pizza guy!

19. You can stay in your pajamas all day if you choose.

20. You appreciate and know you have earned your retirement!

No doubt, you can add to this list. Remember, life is good, and hopefully, even better every day!


Q. Psychologists define who we are according to our "persona." This means we all enjoy different personalities, and whoever we believe we are, we become. No individual remains the same for their lifetime. As we age, we find someone to love, experience new ideas, find ways to make ourselves happier and successful, to make money, cope, change jobs or often mates, have potential health issues, enjoy children, experience physical and emotional differences and learn how to survive. Knowing this will happen, we, by necessity, are always in the process of changing our persona.

Many of us enjoy movies, especially the Turner Movie Classics, because the actors are able to convince us they are actually the person they are portraying. That is their career persona!

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California Retirement community. Contact him at Betty is a friend of Doug Mayberry, whom she helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at



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