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Cruel Honesty DEAR SUSAN: If someone were to break up with me by saying he is serious about someone else, I'd think he had been cheating on me — and feel like a fool for not figuring it out. That just adds insult to injury. There are plenty of things you …Read more. Playing House DEAR SUSAN: I agree with a fellow blogger that a recent letter writer shouldn't have allowed a 26-year-old to come play house with her and her young son. She's let her son bond with a man who could vanish like smoke at any time from his life. She …Read more. Fear of Acceptance DEAR SUSAN: You're right. If a guy has promised to call but hasn't, then call him. Maybe he lost your number or has been really busy, or maybe he is a soul without a backbone and never had any intention of calling in the first place. Whatever it is, …Read more. Growing Pains DEAR SUSAN: Unless both members of a couple grow at the same pace, it's doubtful they'll spend the rest of their lives with each other. From what I've seen, one person usually outgrows the other, causing dissatisfaction and roaming glances by both …Read more.
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Ah, the merry month of May. Time for a spring poll and some very direct questioning. This could be your time to think through those musty, dusty doubts that piled up, one on top of the other, during winter's snowstorms. This could be the month that inspires self-examination. Remember that in those doubts, I'm with you all the way, helping midwife some very clear revelations without judgment. (I certainly cannot cast the first stone.) So in the interest of revealing you to yourself, take a dare and respond to these:

—Does love always lead to marriage? Should it?

—What do you look for in a partner? Has that changed since you became single?

—Would you — could you — fall in love with someone from another country?

For those who are dating someone:

—Do you and the person you're dating see the future in pretty much the same way — with similar goals?

—How will you feel when sex loses its initial excitement?

—How sure are you that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?

—How do you feel about living together for a short while to test your compatibility?

—Do you truly like this person, as well as love this person? (This one's incredibly important.)

—Is this person grounded, centered, solid?


Never figured spring-cleaning would be this thorough.

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Does love always lead to marriage? Should it?

Not for me. I have been married and divorced twice.
At this point in my life, I enjoy living alone. I have a FWB who says he feels the same.
It works for us because we are, first and foremost, friends.

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Posted by: knitwicca
Fri May 1, 2015 8:48 AM
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