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Choosing Between a Spouse and the Other Woman
Dear John, Although I am married, I have done without love and romance for years. Recently I met Cindy, who has rekindled feelings that I had repressed. It is like a new awakening for me! Feelings that I thought were lost have returned. The problem …Read more.
Husband Is Old-School
Dear John, My husband Jack is of the "old school." He thinks that husbands should be cared for and waited on, and I've done this for 37 years. Well, I can't do it all anymore. I have fibromyalgia, which causes acute muscle pain and getting …Read more.
Boyfriend Doesn't Want to Hear About Ex
Dear John, After a long marriage to a drug addict, I found the courage to leave. Although I am no longer in love with him, I do wish him all the best, just without me in the picture. My grown daughter resents my leaving. My grown son, however, is …Read more.
Girlfriend Wants a Break
Dear John, I have been in a fantastic relationship for over two years. My girlfriend, "Carol," has two younger girls, who are great kids. I have two teenage girls who seem to be going through a lot of turmoil over the past couple of months.…Read more.
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Married and no Longer in LoveDear John, I don't love my wife anymore. I'm 36 years of age, and Marci is 32. We had one child together, and we have three others in our blended family. In our second year of marriage, Marci left me for about a year, and we filed for divorce. During that time I met Kaye and fell in love. Then Marci pleaded for us to get back together, and I said yes, because of our children, despite my better judgment. I am still so in love with Kaye. Now, half of my daily thoughts are about Kaye. She's the first and last thing on my mind each day. I have tried to fight this feeling for quite sometime, but it's a losing battle. What should I do? —Divided in Kennesaw, Ga. Dear Divided, Most people make the mistake of leaving a marriage when they are angry or hurt. They sometimes fool themselves into thinking that it is much easier to put their energy into a new relationship rather than healing the past. Unfortunately, they tend to find the same problems in their next relationship. By taking the time to explore the original issues you had with your wife and any unresolved feelings you've had since her return, you can determine if the break in your relationship is truly irreparable. Before you feel, you must heal. Counseling can help you through these issues. Once you move beyond the hurt, you can reach a decision that will better prepare you for the next chapter of your life. Dear John, I am legally married to Francis.
Dear Name Only, Yours is now a marriage of convenience: It provides insurance for your daughter, but lacks the emotional support needed for a happy relationship. Your husband is quite clear in what he will accept. If you demand something he is now unable or unwilling to give, you are setting yourself up to be hurt every time you choose to be close to him. Now you have a choice. There are other ways to meet your child's heath needs. I would encourage you to explore these options and consider moving on to a loving and supportive relationship where hopefully all your needs will be met. 2013 John Gray's Mars Venus Advice. Distributed by Creators Syndicate. John Gray is the author of "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus." If you have a question, write John in care of this newspaper, or by email at: www.marsvenus.com. All questions are kept anonymous, and will be paraphrased. COPYRIGHT 2013 CREATORS.COM 
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