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Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999.

Dear Ann Landers: I have been going with a man for three years. "Jerome" has a 5-year-old daughter, and I don't know how much longer I can tolerate that child. She tells her father where to sit, where to stand, when to go out and what to eat. She walks around his apartment and insists on holding his hand, no matter what he's doing. She even goes to the bathroom with him. (He says she cries if he locks her out.) If she awakens in the middle of the night, he allows her to sleep with him.

Jerome is divorced, and his daughter spends two nights a week at his place. I realize she misses her father, but this seems to me a very unhealthy attachment. When she is with him, she won't play with her toys or watch TV. She only wants to sit on his lap. This child has so many hang-ups, it saddens me. Jerome says I am jealous of her, but I don't believe this is true. What do you say, Ann? — Ready to Give up in Richmond, Va.

Dear Richmond: Dump Jerome unless you are willing to play second fiddle to that pathetic spoiled brat for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, her brattiness is not her fault. Her father (probably guilty about the divorce) has catered to the child to the extent that he is totally under her thumb. Adios, Jerome, and the sooner the better.

Dear Ann Landers: My husband is a wonderful man, 56 years old and highly intelligent.

He had an ingrown toenail that was red and swollen and looked infected. I suggested he soak it in hot water and try to cut as much of the nail as he could.

Well, Ann, I caught him soaking his toe in my good crock pot. I went ballistic. He insisted that a little hot water and soap would clean the pot up just fine and I had no reason to fly off the handle. I threw the contaminated pot in the garbage. The next morning, I discovered he had put the pot back in the cupboard. I took it with me to the office and threw it out there.

Was I wrong, Ann, or am I married to a man with the brain of a flea? — Grossed Out in Stockton, Calif.

Dear Stockton: Sorry, dear, but you threw out a perfectly good piece of crockery that would have been OK after a thorough scouring.

It could be that after seeing your husband's infected foot in the pot, you could not bring yourself to cook in it, but actually, the problem was more in your head than in the pot. Should your husband get another ingrown toenail, ask him to use an aluminum pail instead of a cooking utensil.

And while we're on the subject of toenails, they should be cut straight across. Sorry if I ruined some breakfasts out there, but this information is something you need to know, folks.

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Ann gave the right advice to "Ready to give up". Jerome is feeling guilty about his divorce and his child will never stop manipulating him with his guilt. I know, I have the step-daughter from hell The daughter is 40, yet she still asks us for thousands of dollars every time she want something...like a new wedding or a divorce. Yes, at 40, my step-daughter has already been married and divorced 3 times! And she expects "Daddy" to pay for every wedding, and the legal fees for the divorce lawyer in between! We have given her the down payment on 3 houses, and yet, she walks away from them, just abandons them to move elsewhere on a whim. She doesn't sell the houses, she just lets the bank foreclose because she just moves out and stops paying the mortgage! When she wants a new car, or a new expensive toy like a motorcycle, guess who gets to pay for it? How about when her children want something expensive? Yep, that's us too! We are now in our 60's but we can't retire, because we've never saved for our retirement, we've spent all our pennies on this overgrown brat. And she's always been hateful and nasty to me, to boot! Yes, please dump Jerome, he's married to his brat of a daughter.
Comment: #1
Posted by: StepMomonMothersDay
Sun May 12, 2013 2:39 AM
She gets two nights a week with her father? Make yourself scarce, honey. She wants time to have her father all to herself. She doesn't get much time with him, and you're encroaching on it. You need to give her more time to get used to you being there.
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Posted by: Cranky
Sun May 12, 2013 4:45 PM
I can't believe people like LW2. She probably never realized that a lot worse things had already been in her pot than infected toenails. Wonder if she scrubbed her pots every time she took them out of the cupboard right before cooking, even if they'd been washed previously. Pots that sit in the cupboard pick up dust, mold, bug eggs, and bugs probably crawl through them when you're not looking. There is NO SUCH THING as 100% sterile, even in the most carefully maintained "clean" laboratory environments.
@Cranky: You realize these letters are 15 years old, right? The daughter is in college by now, and I'm sure the relationship is history.
Comment: #3
Posted by: Paul W
Mon May 13, 2013 9:48 AM
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