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RELEASE: SUNDAY, MAY 17, 2015 Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999. Dear Ann Landers: I am a 27-year-old woman currently living in a large house with three …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, MAY 10, 2015 Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999. Dear Ann Landers: Most of the world works by day and sleeps by night. But many people do …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, MAY 3, 2015 Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999. Dear Ann Landers: I come from a large family. A few months ago, we lost our dad. During …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, APRIL 26, 2015 Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999. Dear Ann Landers: I am 40 years old and recently divorced. I was married for 20 years to …Read more.
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Editor's Note: Hundreds of Ann Landers' loyal readers have requested that newspapers continue to publish her columns. These letters originally appeared in 1999.

Dear Ann Landers: My boyfriend and I have a beautiful 9-month-old baby. We live together and adore this child. Here's the problem:

My cousin, "Nellie," has a boyfriend who is HIV-positive. I know for a fact that she is having unprotected sex with him. I strongly suspect that Nellie is HIV-positive, but I have no proof, and Nellie never has brought up the subject.

When Nellie came to our house last week, she kissed our baby on his hands and face. The baby then placed his hands in her mouth and then back into his own mouth. I felt extremely uncomfortable about this, especially because the baby is teething and any kind of germ easily could get into the openings in his gums.

I realize it is unlikely, if not impossible to transmit HIV through saliva, but this still makes me uneasy. Nellie doesn't realize we are aware of her sexual behavior because we were told in confidence. I don't know how to approach her about this and am reluctant to have her visit. Is it possible our baby will contract HIV this way? Please help me. I am turning into a nervous wreck. — Upset Mom in Calif.

Dear Upset Mom: It is extremely unlikely that your baby is infected. People don't get HIV from touching the saliva of an HIV-infected person. For your own peace of mind, you should go to the library and read up on the subject or talk to your doctor about this.

As for Nellie, if she is having unprotected sex with an HIV-positive male, she is in grave danger of becoming infected, if it hasn't happened already.

Don't WAIT for an opportunity to discuss this; MAKE one, even if it seems a bit awkward.

This is no time for social niceties. Tell Nellie to discuss this with a health professional at once. That girl needs help.

Dear Ann Landers: My husband and I divorced last summer. We have a 9-year-old son and a 6-year-old daughter. I bought a house a few miles from my ex-husband, and the children and I have been living there for the past five months.

My daughter slept with me for the first month we were in our new house, until I could afford to buy her a bed. I admit it was nice, and I didn't mind. I like having my children close. The problem is it has been five months, and she still wants to sleep in my bed. I wouldn't mind, but I am afraid it could be damaging to her in some way. I could use some advice, Ann. — Suzi in Houston

Dear Suzi: It is not a good idea for young children to become accustomed to sleeping with an adult parent. Put the child back in her own room, and help her go to sleep there. Divorced parents should not use children as spouse substitutes.

Lonesome? Take charge of your life and turn it around. Write to receive Ann Landers' booklet "How To Make Friends and Stop Being Lonely." Send a self-addressed, long, business-sized envelope and a check or money order for $4.25 (this includes postage and handling) to: Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. To find out more about Ann Landers and read her past columns, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.ANN LANDERS (R)COPYRIGHT 2015 CREATORS.COM



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