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RELEASE: SUNDAY, APRIL 6, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: I have always been a small woman with no weight problems - that is, until I had three back surgeries and an operation on my neck. Now, I'm 35 pounds overweight and can't seem to lose it. I'm not a big eater, and it is difficult to …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, MARCH 30, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: I am 29 years old and divorced my husband a year ago when I discovered he was a world-class con artist. I have been seeing a therapist and am moving in a healthy direction. I feel I'm getting my confidence back and am enjoying my …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, MARCH 23, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: My husband and I were married recently. Our wedding was beautiful, but there was one problem: We had 17 no-shows and four surprise guests. Two days before the wedding, we'd had to give the caterers the exact number of guests. After …Read more. RELEASE: SUNDAY, MARCH 16, 2014 Dear Ann Landers: I live in a nice suburb and have two well-adjusted children, a 6-year-old boy and a 2-year-old girl. The problem is the 12-year-old boy who lives three doors away. He really is strange. I rarely see him with children his own age. …Read more.
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RELEASE: SUNDAY, APRIL 13, 2014

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Dear Ann Landers: I am in my late 70s, and my wife is a few years younger than I am. She is neat about herself, keeps the house clean, keeps my shirts washed and ironed, and is a great cook. So what's the problem? Why at my age am I writing to Ann Landers? Here is my dilemma:

Whenever I try to tell a story, my wife interrupts me and proceeds to give her version, leaving me dangling in mid-sentence. When I try to continue, I do so at the risk of starting an argument, which embarrasses everybody. This happens whether we are dining with friends or at home, just the two of us.

Our children rarely visit anymore and have told me privately it is because they cannot bear to hear their mother belittle me. I'm sure it doesn't help that she also tells them what they should eat and how much.

We have been married for longer than 50 years. My wife normally has a few martinis before dinner and then wine with her meal. I have no illusions about her changing her ways, but I hope you might have a suggestion or two to help me cope with the situation. No name or city, please, just - Diminished in California

Dear California: You have been married to this woman for more than 50 years, so by now, you should know she is strong-willed and domineering, and as you said, she is not going to change.

You can, however, refuse to let her horn in when you are talking.

Simply say, "Please let me tell it my way, and if you want to give your version later, fine," and keep on talking.

Do not, I repeat, DO NOT relinquish the floor. Keep on talking. (P.S. The martinis and wine don't help the situation. How about shortening the "cocktail" time? I suspect part of her excessive gabbiness is because of the fact that she is half shnockered.)

Dear Ann Landers: Our family received two invitations to a wedding. One was addressed to me, my husband, our high school daughter "and escort." The bride knows she has been dating a certain boy for a long time. The other invitation was addressed to our college daughter, who is also a bridesmaid, and her "escort" - a steady beau also known to the bride.

One of the boyfriends asked whether he should bring a separate gift. We are giving a small gift accompanied by a large check from the entire family. Are the "escorts" covered, or should they bring their own gifts? - Not Sure in Virginia

Dear Virginia: The escorts are covered by YOUR gifts, but how nice that they are so well-mannered to have asked.

Do you have questions about sex but no one to talk to? Ann Landers' booklet "Sex and the Teenager" is frank and to the point. Send a self-addressed, long, business-sized envelope and a check or money order for $3.75 (this includes postage and handling) to: Teens, c/o Ann Landers, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. To find out more about Ann Landers and read her past columns, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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Interesting. This column used to have a disclaimer that these columns were originally published in 1999 but were being presented here again. I don't see the disclaimer now, although maybe I missed it, plus there's now a copyright notice for 2014. If the material is from 1999, it can't really be copyright 2014. If the material is new, as in someone's taken up the column and is dealing with letters from today, odd that that isn't specified.
Comment: #1
Posted by: Ms. Rowena
Sun Apr 13, 2014 4:19 AM
Re: Ms. Rowena

The title is still "Classic Ann Landers" so I would imagine they are still old columns.
Comment: #2
Posted by: Marilyn
Sun Apr 13, 2014 5:56 AM
With the columnist being dead and all, I'm pretty sure they're reprints.
Comment: #3
Posted by: Jpp
Sun Apr 13, 2014 8:36 AM
Ms. Rowena - I was just thinking the same thing. The year they were printed is very helpful and often gives context (e.g., if the letter were about some sort of technology that's less in use today).

Marilyn - Ms. Rowena is being sort of tongue in cheek. She simply means "why did Creators remove the original year??" And that is a valid question. And classic could mean a few things - for instance, you might say to me "commenting on old Ann Landers columsn again? Classic Steve C."

Jpp - And Ms. Rowena said "as in someone's taken up the column". Obviously she's wondering if "Ann Landers" could have been taken over the same way that Dear Abby was. Ann Landers wasn't the columnist's name anyway, just the name of her column, her name was Eppie Lederer.
Comment: #4
Posted by: Steve C
Sun Apr 13, 2014 4:30 PM
Agree with you, Steve C.

As for the letters, I suspect that -- although not really addressed by Ann in this installment -- LW2 had some issue with the invitations being issued to their daughters "and escorts," even though the host specifically knew who the "escorts" (i.e., boyfriends) were.

Without referring to my handy-dandy etiquette guide, can anyone help answer this part what I'm sure was meant as a question? ("Was the host correct to address the invitation -- name and escort -- to an unmarried/non-engaged couple?")
Comment: #5
Posted by: Bobaloo
Sun Apr 13, 2014 4:40 PM
Bobaloo - at first that's also what I thought the question in L2 was, but then I think the question morphed into "Does a person have to bring their own gift to a wedding, if they do not get an invitation addressed to them by name?"
Comment: #6
Posted by: Steve C
Sun Apr 13, 2014 6:44 PM
LW2 did ask a question - it is denoted by the use of the question mark (?). The term escort was the correct term before people started using Plus One.
Comment: #7
Posted by: Bobaloo's biggest fan
Mon Apr 14, 2014 7:17 AM
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