Is Shakespeare Better Than Michelangelo?

By Dr. Robert Wallace

November 8, 2019 6 min read

DR. WALLACE: I disagree with your reply to a girl who asked you to judge the "better" report card: one with A's in English, geometry and Spanish or one with A's in physical education, auto shop and art. Although this young lady may be superior in verbal skills versus formulaic problem-solving, her brother is superior in creative problem-solving and physical/visual skills.

We agree that both students should be proud of their grades, however, I do not agree that one report card was better than the other. Each student shows exceptional talents at different tasks, each valuable in its own right and necessary for the sake of humanity. Our society is in dire need of both of the students; we should be eager for her to become a verbal communicator with logical thought, and look to her brother for future technological advances and expressive communication.

I commend them both equally for their report cards. As for you, Dr. Wallace, I suggest you enroll in an art class! In a good one, you will find yourself quite intellectually challenged. — Art Teacher, Orlando, Florida

ART TEACHER: I have taken challenging classes in art and enjoyed them immensely. I also have a master's degree in physical education from Northern Illinois University. These are important programs, but I still feel that courses in mathematics, English and foreign languages are more challenging for most students.

When computing grade-point averages, many schools rate an A in geometry and other selected courses higher than an A in physical education. That's why some students graduate with a grade-point average of over 4.0, which is a straight-A average. However, the student with an A average in auto shop, PE and art should receive high praise from his or her proud parents. Both of the students mentioned in the original letter are outstanding!

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF

DR. WALLACE: I have a history of dating jerks, lawbreakers and stupid guys with lots of flaws. All of my past relationships were with guys who were total losers. I've been treated very roughly by every single one of them. The best guy in this unsavory group only swore at me, calling me filthy names. It's so strange how I now can clearly see how wrong they all were for me, but back when I started dating each of them, I was truly infatuated.

To get me out of this bad boy rut, my parents sent me to another town to live with my married older sister. I'm here now, and I actually like living in this town with my sister and her husband, as they both have made me feel at home. And I'm going to church with my new family at their regular house of worship, which I feel comfortable at as well. Recently, my sister has been encouraging me to go out with a certain boy at church who asked my sister for my number. He's rather cute, so when he called for a date a month ago, I said yes. We have gone out about six times in the last 30 days, and I've a fairly nice time with him. This guy has been a true gentleman, something I am not used to.

The problem is that he doesn't turn me on in a romantic way. I told this to my sister yesterday, and she got upset and said something that bothered me: "Why is it that only mean, unsavory guys turn you on?" Now I'm really in a bind. If I stop seeing this guy I'm dating, my sister will really be upset with me, but to continue seeing him will just be a waste of my time and his. I kind of want to give my sister a sassy reply, but I don't want to cause friction with her and her husband. What should I do at this point? — Sassy Little Sister, via email

SASSY LITTLE SISTER: Stop dating this guy. It's not fair to him to be going out with you when you admittedly have no real interest in dating him. But also stay away from the types you used to date in the past. Hopefully, you can casually date a few more good guys (ask your sister to keep an eye out for other potentially good matches in your community) and see how things go. Over time, if you find yourself romantically drawn only to the loser types from your past, you could have a deep-seated self-esteem issue preventing you from feeling worthy of good guys, thus keeping you trapped in the cycle of abuse you left to escape.

Not dating at all for a while is certainly a better alternative then dating abusive losers. Keep going to church, and keep your chin up and your eyes open for a new guy. You may also want to consider seeing a counselor or health care professional you can speak openly to. If you feel comfortable, open up to your older sister a little more, and seek to gain her counsel, advice and guidance as you go through this personal journey. I commend you for biting your tongue and not making a sassy reply to her original comment. You are already moving in the right direction; seek help to continue to build upon this momentum.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at [email protected] To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

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