DR. WALLACE: My girlfriend and I have been dating steady for over a year. We are both 17 and will both graduate from high school in June of 2014. We are both going to be students at Northern Illinois University since we both want to become teachers. My girlfriend has all the qualities I'm looking for to be my wife. We have even discussed getting married after we graduate from NIU. We have had many, many wonderful times together, but we also have had a few battles and have kissed and made up.
About a week ago, we got into a battle that ended when my girlfriend said that our relationship was over forever and she was never going to change her mind. I admitted that I made a mistake and I apologized and said that I would never make the same mistake again. I've tried talking with her again, but no luck. I even went to her mother and asked her to help me, but all she would say was that "the relationship is over."
Dr. Wallace, what can I do to get my girlfriend to renew our relationship once again? I will admit that I made a mistake, but everyone in this world makes mistakes. I only made one mistake and was man enough to admit it. Don't you agree that a wonderful relationship should not have been destroyed because of one mistake? — Nameless, Rockford, Ill.
NAMELESS: One mistake usually doesn't destroy a wonderful relationship. Contact me again and tell me exactly what your mistake was. Then I'll give you my answer.
Regardless of the outcome of the relationship, I would encourage you both to follow through and enroll at Northern Illinois University. NIU is an outstanding institution of higher learning and their Department of Education ranks with the very best. I can vouch for NIU. I was fortunate to attend Northern and earn a Master of Science Degree in Education, which served me well in my career.
YOU ARE THE INNOCENT ONE
DR. WALLACE: I'm 16, and a couple of days ago I was looking at my birth certificate and I noticed something odd. I was born in October of 1997 and my parents were married in April of 1997. When I asked my mom if I was born prematurely, she said no. This being the case, my mom had to have been pregnant before she married my father.
My parents are now divorced, and I feel very bad that they might have gotten married just to make me legitimate. — Megan, Manchester, N. H.
MEGAN: You had nothing to say about their getting married, and you had nothing to do with their divorce. You are the innocent one, and you have no reason to feel even the slightest bit responsible. Your parents divorced because they were incompatible. All babies are legitimate, regardless of whether or not their parents were married to each other.
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