Dear Family Coach: My son seems more prone to crying breakdowns than other kids his age. He usually melts down over simple disappointments, like another kid not sharing or having to leave the park. We've tried empathy, hugs, humor and distraction, but it seems that he just needs to sooth himself. Waiting for him to recover can be frustrating. Are his overreactions something we should discipline, or will they disappear with emotional development? — Sick of Crying

Dear Sick: Sounds like your son is sensitive and may have some trouble with transitions. But the good news is he seems to know how to get over it in his own time. While I think empathy, hugs and humor are all great tools for parents to use, he might be more upset in response. Every attempt to cheer him up could lengthen the episode.

I'm sure there have been times when you have been so frustrated or angry that you needed a minute alone. Well, your son is able to do that for himself. That's such an emotional asset. Instead of trying to help him improve his mood faster, I would help him find some space to manage his emotions.

I never recommend disciplining emotions. He is surely entitled to his feelings, even if you think they are overblown. I am especially sensitive to allowing boys to cry and show feeling. Emotional development may improve this issue. If it seems he is struggling and his emotions are preventing him from fully participating in age-appropriate activities, then I'd get some professional help.

Dear Family Coach: My 6-year-old begged me to sign him up for soccer after school. But on the first day, he wouldn't go to the class. He screamed and made a scene. I had to come to the school and walk him over, and he hit me and yelled at me all the way. I felt horrible and embarrassed. I didn't force this class on him. He asked for it. What should I do now? — Unsure Mom

Dear Unsure: I'm picturing the scene, and it's not pretty. Every parent is glaring at you. You avert your gaze as you try to corral your son into the school gym. And all you want to shout is, "Hey, he asked for this class." Sounds painful for you and your son.

Here's the thing: Those onlookers can stare all they want. You know that you signed your son up with the best of intentions. He's a little skittish, and he needs some extra support. So what? He is only 6, after all. Focus your energy on helping him be more comfortable and confident heading into soccer next week.

Since he asked for the opportunity to play soccer, don't pull him out. But talk to him about it before the next class. Remind him that he was excited about taking soccer and that some of his friends might be in the class. Explain the transition process after the school day is complete. You could even practice it after school on a different day.

When soccer rolls around again, tell your son that you will come to school to help him transition if he thinks it would be helpful. If his anxiety comes up throughout the week, work with him on managing it. Then, if he needs an escort to class, take some deep breaths with him on the walk over. Try to distract him with chatter about his day, and then tell him to have a great class.

Dr. Catherine Pearlman, the founder of The Family Coach, LLC, advises parents on all matters of child rearing. To write to Dr. Pearlman, send her an email at [email protected]. To find out more about Dr. Catherine Pearlman and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.