I'm not saying Olivia's ex-husband, Trace, is the world's greatest sleazeball, but he's definitely in the team picture!

After two divorces, Olivia has good reason to say, "Love sucks!"

She says: "I thought I knew what love was — twice. Both times, the marriages ended with my husbands being unfaithful. It's made me wonder if I did something wrong. I thought my last husband and I had a great sex life. Turns out, I must have been wrong."

When Olivia and Trace met and married, they were both divorced. He had two boys, and she had two girls. All four were under 5 years old. Then they had their own little girl.

She says: "So we had his, mine and ours, all together for 10 years. All raised in the same home."

Olivia was working the night shift two years ago. She was on her way home when she called Trace.

She says: "He sounded really nervous and said, 'Can you meet me at the park? We have to talk.'"

Nothing good ever starts that way and Olivia knew something was wrong. "I could tell by the sound of his voice that something really bad had happened," she says. "The only things I could think of was someone was sick. I asked if the kids were okay. Was my mom okay? He told me over and over that they were fine."

When Olivia got to the park, Trace was waiting. He got out of his truck and into her car.

She says: "'What is it,' I said? He could hardly spit it out. I knew then, because I'd been through it before.

"'You cheated on me?' I asked. He said, 'Yes.'"

Olivia drove home. She took a shower and laid down on her bed. One of the children said, "I wouldn't be lying in that bed if I were you."

She says: "It was then that I realized that while I was working, my husband of 10 years had brought home a woman. The disrespect to my family, my home, my bedroom — I cannot even explain how I felt. When I think of that day, it's still painful.

"What hurts the most is that he exposed the children to his cheating. The eight-year-old saw a woman's legs in my bedroom door. She told me all of the children were upstairs, not fighting as usual, but really together and scared. They knew that what was going on was not right."

Olivia and Trace went to counseling for a few months. It didn't help. "Once the trust and respect are gone, it's very hard to get them back," she says.

She moved out with the girls. The boys moved in with their mom.

Olivia says: "It was a nightmare. The children missed their siblings. It was really hard for a long time, but things are slowly getting easier. The boys will always know that I love them and will always consider them my sons.

"My divorce was final last May, but two years later, I'm still trying to figure out why it happened."

(Readers, here's my two cents: It happened not because you sex life was lacking but for one simple reason: Trace is a hound dog, and nothing and no one — not a wife, not children — is going to keep him from barking. Stop blaming yourself, Olivia.)

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